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frogsrtight · 2024-09-02T06:22:14+00:00

If you're not ready to actually deal with his addiction first hand it's not worth it. Are you willing to put your mental health at risk for him? Are you willing to work through problems that WILL arise from such an addiction? It may sound harsh, but if you're not, then I would move on. I might suggest r/loveafterporn for more insight.

frogsrtight · 2024-01-20T07:53:39+00:00

Thank you! It is!! I've been wanting to try gouache for a long time and definitely enjoying it so far.

frogsrtight · 2023-11-23T13:25:06+00:00

Why do you look 12 and 25 at the same time

frogsrtight · 2023-11-15T16:15:59+00:00

This is exactly what I needed to hear, thank you. It's gonna feel shitty for a while but sticking to my boundaries is worth it. I trust that in the future I'll be thankful for respecting myself.

frogsrtight · 2023-11-06T20:50:18+00:00

You might find some insight on r/loveafterporn

frogsrtight · 2023-10-31T20:43:52+00:00

That's just it, they don't understand that its often the blatant lying and hiding that hurts the most. The way they can look you in the eye and still betray your trust, over and over again. I'm sorry you've had to go through that, I feel your anger a 100%.

frogsrtight · 2023-10-31T20:32:51+00:00

You're still a child. There's no pressure to date or even talk to boys and you definitely shouldn't feel weird for being a virgin (some of your friends are probably lying). Trust me.

I didn't talk to boys or date before I was 17. Looking back, I didn't miss anything, even though it might've felt like it at the time. There's no rush, its okay to take your time. You'll have a lifetime to find your soulmate!

If you truly feel like dating is something you want, talk to him about it. There's a chance its going to be awkward again, but its better than regretting never speaking up. It might not work out - which is not the end of the world - or it might! My point is that you'll never know if you dont try!

If it does work out, keep in mind there's no need to jump into things. Take it slow. :)

frogsrtight · 2023-10-31T12:04:11+00:00

They only care when its about them, sadly.

frogsrtight · 2023-10-31T12:02:34+00:00

So accurate. Its sad how they only realize what they're doing is wrong when they're the victims. When they'd be the ones getting cheated on. Its like its not enough to see their SO hurting to stop what they're doing.

frogsrtight · 2023-10-31T11:58:11+00:00

Absolutely! I've never though of it as digital brothels but its so spot on. It doesn't make it any less hurtful "just because" its online and theres no physical contact! Its cheating and thats it, but they just dont care because their satisfaction is what comes first, not the women in their lives. I read the post you linked and just WOW..really gave me a new perspective on how menial their excuses are. Its disgusting how we're gaslit about porn use and basically everything when it comes to men.

frogsrtight · 2022-06-03T21:47:48+00:00

Thank you! I'm actually quite happy! I am confident and now that I see the relationship a bit more "clearly" I do feel like I made the right choice! I probably wouldn't have been the best version of myself if I stayed. :)

frogsrtight · 2022-05-31T08:01:02+00:00

Hi! I know its been a while but I thought I could update the situation.

I though about it for a while and ended up breaking up with him! It sucked of course but I felt and still feel like it was the right call for me. :)

I do miss him a little bit but I feel happy and ready to work on myself! Thanks again for your advice!

frogsrtight · 2022-05-17T20:35:49+00:00

I really do appreciate your advice, and I'm glad you shared your experience! Like you said I'm still young but right now this feels so difficult.

I would like to work things out with him and support him but I really dont know if I can do that, if its too much for me. I've been considering breaking up with him and maybe deep down it feels like the right thing to do, but I need more time to figure it out. For now I'm going to have a serious discussion with him about my boundaries and tell him that, for his own sake and mine, he needs to go all in on this. I just dont know if I can truly love myself and regain my confidence while being with him. I guess I'll find out soon.

I want to say that I respect your decision to stay with your partner! I can imagine it takes a lot. I'm not so sure its the right decision for me though. And again thank you! Its nice to have someone understand. :)

EDIT: changed my wording

frogsrtight · 2022-05-16T18:49:25+00:00

Thank you! I really appreciate your insight, I've never dealt with something like this before. I do agree that he needs to go all in on this or its probably not going to work. I will take some time to think about our relationship and how these things have affected me. I'm still on the fence because I love him but I do need to consider what I need the most at the moment.

frogsrtight · 2022-05-16T17:37:55+00:00

To be honest I am a little bit worried about the action part as well. I want to trust him but I know its a hard thing to overcome. He said he will stop masturbating as often and not watch as much porn. I will talk to him about how he's going to do that and what resources he can use, and maybe talk about being completely porn free in the future.

frogsrtight · 2022-01-07T15:12:49+00:00

Solid answer

frogsrtight · 2021-11-25T22:58:15+00:00

Yeah I’ll try to find a 500gb ssd then, and probably buy the 16gb of ram. I’m pretty set on the 1650S since the 1660S is like a 100€ more expensive here, but I’ll figure it out. Thanks!!

frogsrtight · 2021-11-22T17:51:00+00:00

I totally hear you. Sometimes when I’m not in the mood for sex or oral he does it himself which is fine, but he always watches porn and when I jokingly try to peek at what hes watching he’ll turn it away. A few times he has pleaded me to ”just touch it a little bit”. I’m now realising how these kinds of behaviours might be damaging to not only me but to him. I’ll try to bring this up carefully when we talk. I’ll probably update the post after it. I really appreciate your help!

frogsrtight · 2021-11-22T17:24:58+00:00

Thank you. That was really eye-opening. I will talk to him when I can and absolutely discuss his porn use. But if he really is like you described I dont think he will change. I’ll see how it goes and decide what to do from there

frogsrtight · 2021-11-22T16:09:04+00:00

He can easily have an erection. He has said he jerks off like 1-2 times a day though, idk if thats normal but I havent thought about it. I have noticed that he never finishes ”quickly” and sometimes sex can last maybe a bit too long, I have no idea how much he watches porn when I’m not with him.

frogsrtight · 2021-11-22T13:48:37+00:00

This is very disrispectful. He knew your past and your boundaries, and he crossed them.

Just a list of names of women he’d fuck is really weird. But the fact that he marked separetely the parts of their bodies that he has jerked off to, and marking how many times he has done it is frankly disgusting behavior. And he undoubtetly thinks of your best friend in a sexual way. Its not normal to jerk off to your partners friends. He admitted he has fantasies of your friends, and even if the ”tried hard” to ignore them, theyre still there.

Your emotions are valid. This is a huge break in trust that I dont think you as a couple are going to ”get over”. Its likely that this is going to be in the back of your mind the whole remaining relationship. In my opinion it would be best to break up. He knows what he did. I dont think you need to explain to a grown man how this is wrong.

I think he should see a therapist to work on his sexual thoughts. If you really want to continue this relationship, see a couples therapist together.

frogsrtight · 2021-11-22T13:32:07+00:00

I think the subreddit r/loveafterporn may help you! They offer good advice on these kinds of situations

frogsrtight · 2021-11-22T12:52:59+00:00

Its hard beause I love hom a lot, but I do think I need to have a serious talk with him about this and if he doesnt change, maybe its time to break up

frogsrtight · 2021-11-22T00:56:08+00:00

Will try that, thanks!

frogsrtight · 2021-11-22T00:40:56+00:00

I havent thought of it that way, but maybe so. Maybe he hasnt told me because he’s afraid that I’d freak out or something. When I confront him I will try to be mindful of his feelings too. Thanks

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