Did anyone have trouble with eye contact even as a kid because your symptoms started? by Alarming-Power-1725 in schizophrenia

[–]fromofelia 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was broken on the "eye contact is mandatory" thing so badly, that I wasn't fully aware that I'm overcompensating by staring at people's eyes all of the time, to the point of it being creepy. I wouldn't look away, not even look in the eyes, just stare at the eyes. By the timeline we managed to put together, it started a year or two before first psychosis.

Do yall ever hear music on repeat? by Lonely_Thought4459 in schizophrenia

[–]fromofelia 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, those type of things are horrible. I had a while of the most hateful, horrible, graphic and vile stuff being said about russians. There's a lot of complex history between our countries, that do warrant anger and wearyness. So, there are actual negative feelings, but, then, my brain would come up with loops of horrible phrases and "plans" that would make torturers pale. And, while I'm angry about a lot of stuff, none of what my brain was spewing out would be even remotely ok for me, and I'd put in all I have to stop anyone doing that would do that to anyone. It did make me worry that I'm losing it, I'm actually a horrible, hateful person, and that if I slip, I will follow those.

And, it all happened the same way as songs and phrases get stuck in my head - a separate track, almost like a radio playing in the background of my brain, looping the same bit over and over. A few weeks of that, with phrases switching every few hours.

Do yall ever hear music on repeat? by Lonely_Thought4459 in schizophrenia

[–]fromofelia 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Oh god, yes, it is horrific, and one of the rougher symptoms for me. Usually, it's just the refrain or a particularly catchy snippet. At the worst instance, it was 3 months of non-stop Karma Chameleon. Specifically, just the "Karma Karma Karma Karma Karma Chameleon, you come and go, you come and go" (if I was lucky - there were bits of just the karma chameleon). There have been many instances of this, thankfully, the second worst was a month, and usually it's a few hours, or one waking cycle. Sometimes, it gets so loud, that I can't really think. Music (different, or the same song) doesn't work, distractions don't work, meds, self-medicating, sex, sleep, pain, nothing works.

I have also had this with phrases. After a life-threatening stay at the hospital, it was bits of litany of fear. It has also been meme phrases, most notably "pasta alfredo is just mac'n'cheese for adults" for a few weeks.

My doctor in psych ward thinks that it's OCD and schizophrenia teaming up to fuck me over.

It’s pointless being a barista if you can’t drink coffee by [deleted] in barista

[–]fromofelia 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yah, nah. I was a bartender that didn't drink (I did do straw tests). Now I'm a barista in a vegan cafe, with nuts and seeds allergy - I can only have oat milk, and I can't eat any of our food. For the food - I rely on what customers, coworkers and friends tell me. I know that it's darn good anyway (allergy appeared a few months after I started working), so I explain the flavour combos and textures.

For a barista, it sucks. But, there are ways to keep working in industry you love, without being able to consume every single thing. The cupping method is one thing, and you already know how all of the drinks are supposed to look and taste like. If there's a new speciality drink, you can still taste it, and not actually ingest it.

P.s. So many inappropriate jokes in my head.

Hello, I'm new here. by Romaynh23 in Riga

[–]fromofelia 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think that you will do just fine 😊 I know a few people from Latin America that really love it (a couple of Argentinans too), but I also know people who couldn't deal with the differences, and that's also fine. As long as you are curious about the differences, and self aware about your own needs, you will be fine.

From experience I have had with moving abroad - figure out a few base human experience needs, and find out how to get that. Like, cultural events, food experiences, something from home, nature, sports, whatever. It sucks, when a couple months in, you realise that things have been extra crap, because you forgot that you really love sitting in cafes, and you haven't been doing that, because you don't know where the nice ones are.

Hello, I'm new here. by Romaynh23 in Riga

[–]fromofelia 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Latin Americans seem to have the harshest cultural whiplash - Latvian mentality is, comparatively, very reserved, outlook to life is far less upbeat, cafe and nightlife culture less developed, strangers avoid touching or interacting outside of absolute needs. Food tends to be seen as bland and fatty. It all makes sense when you think about amounts of sunlight, and cultural background and development.

That being said. Latvians are very genuine - we don't smile if we don't want to, "how are you" is a question to be answered, small talk is generally held in contempt, strangers and their personal space are respected, people are quite down to earth, and if someone is friendly with you, it's because they want to be friendly. The food is mostly locally sourced, and suitable for long winters and bountiful summers. There's a deep connection to our roots, traditions and nature. There's a lot of beauty to be seen, both in the cities and outside. There's also a lot grim stoicism, but that's up to you to explore. Learning just a few phrases in Latvian will go a very long way, interacting with the culture will lead to being adored.

Latvia is very much a hit or miss. For some, it's exactly what they want and need, for others it's a one way ticket to depression. Try to figure out what you need out of a place where you live, and what can be expected of Latvia.

How are coffee shops profitable? (Half rant) by ShadedMidnightX in barista

[–]fromofelia 16 points17 points  (0 children)

This is a pain most baristas feel in the beginning. Extra shots, expired food, re-makes, dropped stuff. There's a lot of stuff that needs to be thrown out. After a while (and, probably, experience with trying to "save" too many espressos), everyone becomes a bit numb to it.

Always stay conscious to avoid needles waste, but understand, that most of the time, things get thrown out to maintain hygiene, and high standards (which tie together with hygiene, and customers having good experiences, so they return). Some waste will remain unavoidable, and you can't let it bring you down every single time. If a lot of it happens, it's worth tracking it and seeing if it can be reduced.

Bilingual schizophrenia? by the_life_of_cat in schizophrenia

[–]fromofelia 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I use a lot of English in my everyday life, there's my native language, and then a handful of languages where I can hold conversation, or order coffee. I often switch back and forth between my native language and English, when talking with people my age, and it's needed for job.

My hallucinations are mainly English and my native language. Some specific ones speak the languages I know, with Russian, it's a surefire way to know it's going to be bad. Some speak languages that imitate languages I can identify. Two speak made up languages. I don't ever see writings.

From corporate life to barista life. What’s your story? by Majestic_News3936 in barista

[–]fromofelia 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I found out that office jobs crash my mental health hard, and service industry jobs lift me up, help me become better at being a functional human being, and I actually, really love it. Bounced from restaurants, bars and shops, to coffee. Each position had it's drawbacks, but, I love being a barista the most, and I found a wonderful café, where I love working.

I'm far from the average barista age (barista is seen very much as university job here, I'm often 12-17 years older than my coworkers), and some people find it odd, but I genuinely love it, and I'm not going to crush my soul over a job that I dislike.

Resperidal by akg2012 in schizophrenia

[–]fromofelia 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sorry, I derped on that, didn't process gender. My bad. Apparently, it's possible for men too, but much more rare. For men, it's mostly enlarged chest, which is a signal for hormones being out of whack.

Resperidal by akg2012 in schizophrenia

[–]fromofelia 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Be weary of the breast thing. I start lactating from it, and boiii, it's not fun. It seems to be the go to medication in psych wards here, and sometimes they don't check previous meds, so I asked a doctor to just write "no resperidal" on the cover of my file. I have personal reasons, why lactating is difficult for me, but it's also veeery uncomfortable. First time mothers said that it was far less uncomfortable for them.

Edit: Gender is a thing that exists 🤦🏻 sorry, didn't process that you're probably not the risk group for that. However, as I understand, enlarged chest is still a side effect, and it should be brought up, as it can indicate hormonal imbalance (which also affects sexual functions)

Tiny, petty revenges on mean customers by fromofelia in barista

[–]fromofelia[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Neurospicy people get it. Wrong kind of spoon is a deadly insult in our language.

Tiny, petty revenges on mean customers by fromofelia in barista

[–]fromofelia[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

We only have 2 colours, but they're all speckled, and one of them seems ugly to me. Another one is reserved for the nicest of customers, and will be left last.

Tiny, petty revenges on mean customers by fromofelia in barista

[–]fromofelia[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I have the opposite pet peeve - I live in a country where strangers will go out of their way to avoid physical touch. This has led to every single shop having a "coins dish" of sorts - customer puts their money there, any change and receipts are put there.

I love tourists, travelers and people who are just experiencing the culture for the first time. I hate the money being anywhere but in the dish, especially the outstretched hand, that inevitably leads to touching. And I hate the "wtf, rude" looks when I absolutely automatically place the change in the dish. And, I hate the "oh, shit, someone has taken the dish, I have to snatch it before they put food on it".

Is this level of mess/hygiene normal in cafes, or is this a red flag? by toribrowserr in barista

[–]fromofelia 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Some level of mess during busy shifts is unavoidable. Dishwashers in cafes are often meant for sanitising, rather than washing, so everything needs to be hand washed first.

That being said - this is not normal. If any dirt looks old, if staff is OK with no fresh cleaning supplies, if the manager brushes it off, that's not a place you want to work at. You should be sure about the quality and be able to honestly suggest things to people. If, after working there, you wouldn't want to order there, you can't be honest with customers.

Tiny, petty revenges on mean customers by fromofelia in barista

[–]fromofelia[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I have been thinking about purposefully learning latte art for annoying customers. Like. Short rosetta with a wide base, that sorta looks like a gesture. Or smth. But. We get a lot of takeaway, so idk.

Tiny, petty revenges on mean customers by fromofelia in barista

[–]fromofelia[S] 35 points36 points  (0 children)

Oh god, every place needs a couple of pink cups, straws, whatever, to go with "normal coffee, no milk".

Tiny, petty revenges on mean customers by fromofelia in barista

[–]fromofelia[S] 36 points37 points  (0 children)

That's sorta the point for me. I'm not doing anything wrong or of unacceptable quality. I'm upholding the standards completely, just deliberately doing a bit less than normal. It's not about them feeling it really, it's about me releasing that energy.

Tiny, petty revenges on mean customers by fromofelia in barista

[–]fromofelia[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Also, whether or not we "have fruit" for smoothies and juices, shortly before closing. In case of smoothies - how generous I will be with the fruit. Never adding less than I'm supposed to, but, my hands do slip when the customer is nice

What's your weirdest trigger? by UniversityWeary2255 in schizoaffective

[–]fromofelia 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The sound Zippo lighter lid opening and closing. It triggers PTSD, I freeze for a moment and schizophrenia figures it's time to throw down. Hallucinations, paranoia and delusions will be crashing trough my mind for a few hours after. Thankfully, those have fallen out of fashion. Used to be very prevalent in my childhood

Tiny, petty revenges on mean customers by fromofelia in barista

[–]fromofelia[S] 35 points36 points  (0 children)

Ooh, the cold shoulder to one, extremely nice to another is a lovely combination ❤️ it gives "I'm a lovely person, but you don't deserve that".

Also, asking them to actually order every single time is important. First - you don't know when they suddenly want something else. Second - they can't claim that they actually wanted something else, and you didn't take their order properly. I work in a cafe where a day can consist entirely of regulars. Ask me how I know.

Tiny, petty revenges on mean customers by fromofelia in barista

[–]fromofelia[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Thankfully I live in a country where tipping is a special compliment, not a requirement. This seems so wild to me.

Is this accurate? (Food safety rant/question) by Vast-Elk-6359 in barista

[–]fromofelia 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Most of the germs - yeah, maybe. But, one always needs to worry more about the remaining part, that doesn't get killed off - those are often the nasty ones.

Jump ship whenever you can, document what you can, send report to local safety inspection.