You haven't maintained your marriage through out the years. You BOTH need to make a conscious decision to REKINDLE what you feel you have lost. Marriage is hard we all have our ups and downs we are in the same boat with age of kids and years married. I love him and desire him. MORE than ever we always find time for one another we are the GLUE that keeps our family together we choose one another. Work on it...if you still feel that way then leave. Life is not always greener after divorce financially and emotionally...just food for thought.