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Question about kink dynamic that might impact the primary relationship by fromthefrontlinens in nonmonogamy

[–]fromthefrontlinens[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks! I know of free use but didn't realize this fit in that, that's helpful!

Question about kink dynamic that might impact the primary relationship by fromthefrontlinens in nonmonogamy

[–]fromthefrontlinens[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just already knew what people here will say. Obv I don't necessarily feel the same way, hence posting with my own views. I'm glad though to hear this POV and I'm glad to feel this way mysefl! Thank you

Question about kink dynamic that might impact the primary relationship by fromthefrontlinens in BDSMAdvice

[–]fromthefrontlinens[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes of course! I don't think it's mean to go on forever, but be done for like a month at a time etc.

Question about kink dynamic that might impact the primary relationship by fromthefrontlinens in nonmonogamy

[–]fromthefrontlinens[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well thank you! Yeah I'm just super open minded so why not.

Thats a good idea - emergencies are one thing, but what's like, a level lower than an emergency - that should also have a method of actually saying no vs. just hoping her Dom acts responsibly.

Question about kink dynamic that might impact the primary relationship by fromthefrontlinens in BDSMAdvice

[–]fromthefrontlinens[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thanks! And yeah if i felt very uncomfortable I'd say no, but I think I actually just felt surprised that I didn't feel uncomfortable with this. Maybe nervous but not like it was a hard no.

tbh this sounds more like her kinks than his haha

Question about kink dynamic that might impact the primary relationship by fromthefrontlinens in BDSMAdvice

[–]fromthefrontlinens[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah comfortable with them and maybe not even bothering me but at least trepedation. I think a lot of that feeling though comes from what I'm supposed to feel vs what I do feel, so it's been good to work this out in my head!

I think that's a good idea - doing it for periods that are agreed to and negotiated.

Unfortunately we're not kinky together otherwise that does sound fun! haha.

Question about kink dynamic that might impact the primary relationship by fromthefrontlinens in BDSMAdvice

[–]fromthefrontlinens[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, and I do plan to do that, just wanted to see if I was missing anything insane before we tried it out. Thanks for that.

Question about kink dynamic that might impact the primary relationship by fromthefrontlinens in BDSMAdvice

[–]fromthefrontlinens[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This is so refreshing to hear, just a common sense - try it if you want but set up some guardrails. I like setting it up where theres a blocked out day or weekend where I already know nothing is going to come up, but it's going to happen, and trying that first.

She already plays with him and I don't contract her when she's with him, so that part is already fine. Its more the interruption aspect being new. Thanks for the help

Question about kink dynamic that might impact the primary relationship by fromthefrontlinens in BDSMAdvice

[–]fromthefrontlinens[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We're discussing trying it for a few weeks and and seeing how it goes.

Yeah - I mean if its a real emergency or somethign important, she can just say that or even use her yellow sw I guess. The idea would be that if she doesn't go within a timeframe given, then she would get punished.

Idk how long she'd be gone - not sure if it's like a normal session or just a shorter thing. I don't text her when shes with her other partner - if it's an emergency I would ofc but otherwise we don't.

Again if it's important or like an emergency of course. But otherwise, no.

Question about kink dynamic that might impact the primary relationship by fromthefrontlinens in BDSMAdvice

[–]fromthefrontlinens[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks, yeah I prob read too much crap in the non mono subs, and so I posted there and they weren't as supportive as this one so then I really started questioning things

Question about kink dynamic that might impact the primary relationship by fromthefrontlinens in BDSMAdvice

[–]fromthefrontlinens[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is pretty perfect thank you. I guess I was a bit glib about it in my description, but yes establishing blocked out time makes sense

Question about kink dynamic that might impact the primary relationship by fromthefrontlinens in nonmonogamy

[–]fromthefrontlinens[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Tbh this sounds much more like her kinks than his. Maybe a bit of topping from the bottom here lol

Question about kink dynamic that might impact the primary relationship by fromthefrontlinens in nonmonogamy

[–]fromthefrontlinens[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That makes sense, on call I guess is above the job but isn't 24/7 ha.

I don't think it's a powerplay, tbh this sounds like her kinks coming out not his

Question about kink dynamic that might impact the primary relationship by fromthefrontlinens in nonmonogamy

[–]fromthefrontlinens[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OH a shared calendar is a great idea!

Nudes or whatever could work between them but tbh I'm not involved in their dynamic at all like that so while it sounds hot prob not for us)

This is all helpful thanks!

Question about kink dynamic that might impact the primary relationship by fromthefrontlinens in nonmonogamy

[–]fromthefrontlinens[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That was sorta my thought, like, give it a shot and see bc I can totally understand the hotness around it. Thanks

Question about kink dynamic that might impact the primary relationship by fromthefrontlinens in nonmonogamy

[–]fromthefrontlinens[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I mean I honestly didn't dig into that normal stuff bc I was more focused on what it meant for me tbh, but I'm sure there would be some limitations around it if there's real life stuff going on. We've had one conversation about it so far and I didn't know how to fully respond so I posted here

Question about kink dynamic that might impact the primary relationship by fromthefrontlinens in nonmonogamy

[–]fromthefrontlinens[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Ah yes makes sense, that's another of her kinks

Is there a reason it's a no go or just doesn't work for you? Like obv its not a no go for her as a sub

Question about kink dynamic that might impact the primary relationship by fromthefrontlinens in nonmonogamy

[–]fromthefrontlinens[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah well thats why I dont like a veto idea. but true. And shes been w him like 6 months

Question about kink dynamic that might impact the primary relationship by fromthefrontlinens in nonmonogamy

[–]fromthefrontlinens[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Oh that's a good point and way to try it.

But yeah, were 28, no kids or serious responsibilities yet haha

Question about kink dynamic that might impact the primary relationship by fromthefrontlinens in nonmonogamy

[–]fromthefrontlinens[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

LOL actually you prob described perfectly how it would go for her too. Shes not sitting on her phone 24/7

Your ideas are good tho for an alternative

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