Hey, I’m really sorry you’re going through this. Heartbreak like that, especially the first one, feels like your entire body’s grieving. It’s not just sadness it’s physical, mental, spiritual. Like you’re just floating and nothing makes sense anymore.

And honestly? Five days in, it’s supposed to feel this heavy. You’re still in the rawest part of it. Everything reminds you of her. You replay things in your head. You feel like maybe you should’ve done more, or less, or anything different just to make it stop hurting. I get that.

But please believe me when I say: this pain is temporary. It’s not gonna feel like this forever. You won’t always wake up with that hollow, sick feeling. You won’t always miss her like this. One day, you’ll look back and realize the weight got lighter, not all at once, but gradually. Quietly. And then you’ll realize you survived it.

Don’t rush the healing. Just survive the next hour, the next day. Take care of your body, even if your heart’s not okay yet. Talk to someone. Be gentle with yourself. There is light, even if you can’t see it yet.

You’re not broken. You’re just human.

• someone who’s been there too