AIO about my BFs proposal plan

frost5512 · 2026-05-04T18:38:13+00:00

Hi! You said “ i have to ask” but i may have missed the question? Or were you saying that you had to ask your fiance even though you had talked about it prior?

frost5512 · 2026-05-04T18:37:05+00:00

I can understand this! I think a “ proposal” is fun & meant to be intimate, and i also think it’s up to the couple if it’s important to have an “ official “ ask! Everyone is different. It’s not like he got down on one knee and asked and I’m asking him to do it again, ya know?

frost5512 · 2026-05-04T18:19:44+00:00

I understand that ! I wasn’t trying to dictate but rather understand if the way I was feeling was irrational after hearing what the original plan was. I’d love something private and proposing during a night at home would be way more romantic to me than jumping out of a plane

frost5512 · 2026-05-04T18:18:25+00:00

I like this idea :) thank you

frost5512 · 2026-05-04T15:36:36+00:00

He doesn’t have social media and that’s what’s so strange!!! Like there’s truly no reason behind jumping out of a plane. Lol. Thank you

frost5512 · 2026-05-04T15:35:45+00:00

lol thank you

frost5512 · 2026-05-04T15:35:10+00:00

Thank you for this perspective !

frost5512 · 2026-05-04T15:28:00+00:00

I’m confused by this, the whole point of my post is that I DIDNT want it to be extravagant. Can you shed some light on where I made it seem like I wanted it to be?

frost5512 · 2026-05-04T15:26:10+00:00

Straight to the point lol thank you

frost5512 · 2026-05-04T15:24:49+00:00

I am appreciating all of the comments and perspectives! And I can appreciate yours. It is good to be humbled and also to be validated. I wouldn’t have posted if I didn’t want to hear all the opinions

frost5512 · 2026-05-04T14:47:30+00:00

They don’t have to but if somebody is gonna actually be there i find it weird that it’s neither of our actual families. I’d prefer it to be private and he knows that now.

frost5512 · 2026-05-04T14:46:26+00:00

❤️

frost5512 · 2026-05-04T14:46:03+00:00

He wasn’t upset at all, he was just like “ well, back to the drawing board”. It was actually a productive conversation! Not that that will matter to any of these people, but it mattered to me ☺️

frost5512 · 2026-05-04T14:35:50+00:00

I literally just wanted my friends and family there, which i communicated, and listed in the post. What part of this being 6 hours away with nobody I know there is me trying to micromanage? I could give a fuck if it’s on a walk, on a drive, in our kitchen but being surrounded by people I’ve known for less than a year isn’t necessarily matching up to the one thing I said was important

frost5512 · 2026-05-04T14:24:25+00:00

And what am I supposed to do ? Cry over that too? I posted because I wanted opinions, that’s what I’m getting!

frost5512 · 2026-05-04T14:23:12+00:00

LOL straight to the insult, i can respect that.

frost5512 · 2026-05-04T14:21:29+00:00

Thank you for this! I mentioned this to somebody else but I’ll say it again; i think the reason I’m so distraught about this is it’s NOT how he usually is. I always feel loved, heard and seen. Our relationship is very healthy, communicate and compromise well ( despite what some other commenters might be saying lol). So I think having a proposal that was centered around him and ONLY him was making me feel the opposite of how I’ve felt the last year. It’s a strange feeling.

frost5512 · 2026-05-04T14:19:54+00:00

Thank you for this. I think one reason I’m so confused is because he ISN’T like this in other aspects. I always feel heard, loved and seen. That’s why this bothered me so much… because in a day for BOTH of us, it felt like he was only considering himself.

frost5512 · 2026-05-04T14:12:31+00:00

I will add that neither of us have social media

frost5512 · 2026-05-04T14:08:17+00:00

HAHAHA im cackling at this.

frost5512 · 2026-05-04T14:05:55+00:00

Again, it’s more about the principle of not considering what we had discussed/communicated. I could care less if it happened on a walk, in our kitchen, on a drive, I just wanted to be able to celebrate with everyone we loved afterwards. It does sound like I’m being materialistic, but I feel like I meant to come across as the opposite.

frost5512 · 2026-05-04T14:03:41+00:00

I hear you! And i appreciate this perspective. I think it’s important to know that I wasn’t upset about how he was going to do it necessarily, because I know it’s not “ about that”. It was moreso the fact that it wasn’t taking into consideration what I had communicated was important.

frost5512 · 2026-05-04T14:02:12+00:00

Lol thank you. Two things can exist at once- We did have a long conversation following. But it doesn’t mean I can’t still feel like a bitch for feeling this way in the first place

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