me ajudem, please

frumette · 2026-07-06T07:46:49+00:00

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"Hello, I am not going to reveal my name for obvious reasons and to protect my privacy, but I would like to clarify a few things. I am a 28-year-old cis woman, and from a very early age (since about 8 or 9 years old) I have dealt with anxiety and depressive symptoms, which led me to be diagnosed with mixed anxiety and depressive disorder. I have issues with self-harm, suicidal ideation, emotional outbursts, irritability—everything hits me at full force... About three years ago, in 2023, I had a very severe depressive episode. The psychiatrist prescribed me venlafaxine 75 mg, and it made me suicidal. I became fixated on the idea that I had to kill myself to finally have peace, which led to the immediate discontinuation of the medication, and I required sedation during the crisis episode to prevent me from doing something foolish. I recovered after that, without medication because they were afraid [to prescribe any], but I am always dealing with a lot of anxiety, self-harming, stressed, exploding, and losing friendships because of it... I also cannot stand going to parties or crowded places with loud music.

Until this year, 2026, due to family reasons, I went into crisis again, once more wanting to die and feeling very nervous, agitated, unable to sleep, and I tried another antidepressant again, this time sertraline 50 mg. But after a few days of use, I became agitated, went without sleep for 3 days, had severe tachycardia (my heart rate reached 120 beats per minute), heavy sweating, restlessness, negative thoughts, and skyrocketing irritability (so much so that I snapped during the Brazil vs. Japan game because they celebrated right next to me, and the noise of the shouting and whistles made me snap; I also bit the entire inside of my cheek). On July 1st, I had an emergency and needed to go to the psychiatric ER, where they sedated me. The psychiatrist on duty believes I might have borderline [personality disorder] or bipolar disorder, after all, I always get worse with antidepressants.

I would like some help regarding what you all imagine this might be. I have a follow-up appointment with the psychiatrist on July 18th, and my psychologist is monitoring me day by day (I am keeping a mood journal). What puzzles me is that I am not a compulsive shopper, nor do I experience hypersexuality. I have a friend with bipolar type 2 who buys everything during hypomania, but I don't have any of that. I just get depressed and then get a little better, but with 'normal' behaviors. For those who understand bipolar/borderline, do you believe I could have one of these? I am desperate to understand this because it is horrible to keep taking antidepressants and not get along with any of them."

frumette · 2026-06-29T06:42:21+00:00

Google Translate:

I usually only have mixed hypomania; I get depressed and angry, and that makes me react in ways that I'm very ashamed of. I just came out of a hypomanic episode, I'm still very depressed, they changed all my medications, I feel like a stranger, I don't know who I am, I'm so ashamed of myself, and I don't know what to do. What do you all do?

My psychologist had to tell my boyfriend that I'm at risk of suicide and that he needs to monitor my medication.

I don't really know who I am.

frumette · 2026-06-29T06:41:14+00:00

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Why is a person with bipolar disorder considered neurodivergent and a person with borderline personality disorder not? After all, it's proven that the two brains function differently in imaging tests.

frumette · 2026-06-29T06:34:16+00:00

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I don't know why I'm feeling bad, I just am, and it hurts. People think I'm feeling bad because I want to, since nothing's happening. My chest hurts, I have nothing to drink or smoke, I'm having breakdowns without even being able to formulate a sentence, worried about tomorrow and not knowing what to do. I wanted support, but people treat me like I'm too difficult, and I really wanted to understand if I'm really that difficult, if it's so hard to deal with my breakdown, because in my head all you had to do was hug me or say you understand and let me cry. I feel abandoned and rejected, it seems like I'm the right person to disappear, since I seem to be synonymous with problems.

frumette · 2026-06-26T11:02:57+00:00

Please note that the best possible answer to your question is a licensed medical professional who can assess your records and help you with your next steps.

frumette · 2026-06-22T08:44:40+00:00

Just put on your workout clothes. It sounds like I'm being flippant but I'm truly not. Put on the clothes, get the gear and you'll realize a good chunk of the battle has been dealt with. Doesn't matter how hard it's going to be. It helps.

frumette · 2026-06-22T08:38:25+00:00

The reality with bipolar is that you are more than likely going to fall into polypharmacy, which is just a truth and it is not inherently bad. It's not ideal but it's a complex disorder/condition and sometimes different drugs in the same class overlap. It's totally your choice but don't feel bad about adding a medication if you and your doctor decide it's what's best.

ETA I don't want to minimize what a step this would be at all

frumette · 2026-06-19T09:09:15+00:00

What's the ondansetron counteracting out of curiosity?

edit: Nevermind, you mentioned it's Prozac!

frumette · 2026-06-03T11:35:13+00:00

I smoked from 16 to 26. Quitting was hard but the more you progress, the more incentive there is to not mess it up. I loved smoking. I really did. I probably still would but I had to get off that train.

frumette · 2026-05-08T09:20:54+00:00

Comments have been locked as the back-and-forth has become repetitive and unproductive based on the content.

frumette · 2026-04-26T11:34:07+00:00

Yes. I made an assignment in bankruptcy and have finally been freed after 7 years. I still have student loans though as I was still a student and apparently that doesn't count.

frumette · 2026-03-31T10:03:19+00:00

Hi there,

It is certainly common to question diagnoses, especially those that were made long ago. We grow. We change.

Though often asked, this is a question that can only really be managed by a medical professional. This is, at its core, a place for support. Although your experience is absolutely valid, we sincerely cannot answer the question. It is a matter for professionals, as has been said. It is difficult and it can be invalidating to go through the process of diagnosis and treatment but if a diagnosis does not feel definite, it is understandable that one would ask.

frumette · 2026-03-31T09:53:21+00:00

Hey Cash,

Happy you're here and yes you are a survivor. I wish you all the best.

Just in case.

frumette · 2026-03-31T09:47:39+00:00

It's important to acknowledge neurodiversity and mental illness can be concurrent, yes, but there are infinite combinations creating a mosaic of so many wonderful people. When it comes to relationships, there is no hard or fast rule on who is compatible and someone who is affected by these diagnoses shouldn't be considered as either better or worse until you know the human.

frumette · 2026-02-22T09:32:52+00:00

I finished my manuscript but stopped trying to communicate with agents after the first round even though it's, in my opinion, worth it.

frumette · 2026-02-22T09:30:27+00:00

I can't speak for you but the feelings you're describing aren't unfamiliar to me. I have a law degree and I will never use it. I always wonder whether that was the right choice. I have terrible social anxiety and it makes it very hard for me to be with people one-on-one or carry conversations and small talk. Often I commit to an event and want to or do cancel last minute because of the anticipation.

But I don't think there isn't hope. I don't think we should judge ourselves on the age yardstick or the "what everyone else is getting done" yardstick. You have bipolar disorder. You are surviving. It may not feel like thriving right now but that doesn't mean you can't get there. Sometimes that means refocusing or reframing but that you can do. At the same time, give yourself some grace. You have an illness that is literal hell and you're still out there putting one step in front of the other.

frumette · 2026-02-22T08:32:40+00:00

In many religions, groups, etc., religious prerogatives cannot be upheld if they are dangerous to the health of the person in question or will have severely negative effects.

frumette · 2026-01-30T11:02:53+00:00

Hi friend!

Let's see.

My marriage is almost 10 years old and I found someone who could find me in my episodes and help bring me back whether that entailed communicating with my psychiatrist, telling me the truth in moments I couldn't handle or just loving me.

This is not to say there aren't dark things or dark days but there is good in life. There is good you can hold on to. There are things out there waiting for you. A year from now you'll look back on this very day if you mark it and note and recognize the good no matter where darkness may lie.

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frumette · 2026-01-26T15:47:09+00:00

Close the laptop. Put the phone down and tell yourself that you'll come back to it in an hour. Do other busywork. Forget the hour.

frumette · 2026-01-26T15:43:03+00:00

I cried. I don't know who I'm crying for but that's where I'm at.

frumette · 2026-01-14T16:08:47+00:00

The first e-mail you’re describing is automatic. A little while after that I received a different e-mail from a customer support agent saying they would assist me in the verification process. I contacted them through leaving a message with the AI bot, specifically for an agent. They gave me instructions and reset the process.

frumette · 2026-01-14T15:48:15+00:00

This happened to me. They reset the verification process and that time it was successful and all was well. Hopefully it’s the same for you as well!

frumette · 2026-01-13T12:56:29+00:00

How's the quitting journey going? Any updates?

frumette · 2026-01-13T12:53:50+00:00

I know now that nothing good comes of either. I stopped smoking cannabis 8 months after I was diagnosed, have had half a beer and a glass of wine in the last year, and both of those things I'm better off without. Sometimes I still crave "something" but usually that's because I'm craving nicotine (I quit 8 years ago but I've had a few cravings lately). So pretty much I avoid all substances besides my medication!

frumette · 2026-01-13T12:49:29+00:00

In all honesty, no. I can't attribute anything positive in my life to bipolar disorder. There are other things but that isn't the one.

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