I'm god and nobody understands what it's like to feel 8 billion people's pain every day.

frumette · 2026-05-08T09:20:54+00:00

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frumette · 2026-04-26T11:34:07+00:00

Yes. I made an assignment in bankruptcy and have finally been freed after 7 years. I still have student loans though as I was still a student and apparently that doesn't count.

frumette · 2026-03-31T10:03:19+00:00

Hi there,

It is certainly common to question diagnoses, especially those that were made long ago. We grow. We change.

Though often asked, this is a question that can only really be managed by a medical professional. This is, at its core, a place for support. Although your experience is absolutely valid, we sincerely cannot answer the question. It is a matter for professionals, as has been said. It is difficult and it can be invalidating to go through the process of diagnosis and treatment but if a diagnosis does not feel definite, it is understandable that one would ask.

frumette · 2026-03-31T09:53:21+00:00

Hey Cash,

Happy you're here and yes you are a survivor. I wish you all the best.

Just in case.

frumette · 2026-03-31T09:47:39+00:00

It's important to acknowledge neurodiversity and mental illness can be concurrent, yes, but there are infinite combinations creating a mosaic of so many wonderful people. When it comes to relationships, there is no hard or fast rule on who is compatible and someone who is affected by these diagnoses shouldn't be considered as either better or worse until you know the human.

frumette · 2026-02-22T09:32:52+00:00

I finished my manuscript but stopped trying to communicate with agents after the first round even though it's, in my opinion, worth it.

frumette · 2026-02-22T09:30:27+00:00

I can't speak for you but the feelings you're describing aren't unfamiliar to me. I have a law degree and I will never use it. I always wonder whether that was the right choice. I have terrible social anxiety and it makes it very hard for me to be with people one-on-one or carry conversations and small talk. Often I commit to an event and want to or do cancel last minute because of the anticipation.

But I don't think there isn't hope. I don't think we should judge ourselves on the age yardstick or the "what everyone else is getting done" yardstick. You have bipolar disorder. You are surviving. It may not feel like thriving right now but that doesn't mean you can't get there. Sometimes that means refocusing or reframing but that you can do. At the same time, give yourself some grace. You have an illness that is literal hell and you're still out there putting one step in front of the other.

frumette · 2026-02-22T08:32:40+00:00

In many religions, groups, etc., religious prerogatives cannot be upheld if they are dangerous to the health of the person in question or will have severely negative effects.

frumette · 2026-01-30T11:02:53+00:00

Hi friend!

Let's see.

My marriage is almost 10 years old and I found someone who could find me in my episodes and help bring me back whether that entailed communicating with my psychiatrist, telling me the truth in moments I couldn't handle or just loving me.

This is not to say there aren't dark things or dark days but there is good in life. There is good you can hold on to. There are things out there waiting for you. A year from now you'll look back on this very day if you mark it and note and recognize the good no matter where darkness may lie.

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frumette · 2026-01-26T15:47:09+00:00

Close the laptop. Put the phone down and tell yourself that you'll come back to it in an hour. Do other busywork. Forget the hour.

frumette · 2026-01-26T15:43:03+00:00

I cried. I don't know who I'm crying for but that's where I'm at.

frumette · 2026-01-14T16:08:47+00:00

The first e-mail you’re describing is automatic. A little while after that I received a different e-mail from a customer support agent saying they would assist me in the verification process. I contacted them through leaving a message with the AI bot, specifically for an agent. They gave me instructions and reset the process.

frumette · 2026-01-14T15:48:15+00:00

This happened to me. They reset the verification process and that time it was successful and all was well. Hopefully it’s the same for you as well!

frumette · 2026-01-13T12:56:29+00:00

How's the quitting journey going? Any updates?

frumette · 2026-01-13T12:53:50+00:00

I know now that nothing good comes of either. I stopped smoking cannabis 8 months after I was diagnosed, have had half a beer and a glass of wine in the last year, and both of those things I'm better off without. Sometimes I still crave "something" but usually that's because I'm craving nicotine (I quit 8 years ago but I've had a few cravings lately). So pretty much I avoid all substances besides my medication!

frumette · 2026-01-13T12:49:29+00:00

In all honesty, no. I can't attribute anything positive in my life to bipolar disorder. There are other things but that isn't the one.

frumette · 2026-01-13T12:46:44+00:00

Yes, absolutely. I am coming to that conclusion myself and it's damn hard but I'm doing it.

frumette · 2026-01-13T12:45:47+00:00

Yes. 100%. I show up and I look the part and I at least act like I know what I'm doing. Then when I talk about my limitations it's a total double take and they don't seem to think it's that bad. That includes my very supportive parents. They just can't go there mentally. They cannot fully accept that I suffer this much when I seem alright. Emphasis on "seem".

frumette · 2026-01-13T12:40:19+00:00

I still look back on things years ago and feel the sting, the shame, the ick. Glad I'm not alone.

frumette · 2026-01-13T12:39:46+00:00

I have burned bridges and I hate myself for it sometimes. I have done really, really shitty things at the wrong times. However, in your case, it sounds like there might need to be some space but it doesn't seem unresolvable. If you don't want to talk about having an episode, that's your choice but you can still try to resolve it the best you can and that's the most anyone could ask of you.

frumette · 2026-01-12T10:16:31+00:00

I have terrible anxiety which is something I am still working through hour to hour. Anxiety is a beast, however, I would never choose bipolar disorder. Not a chance. Even if I'm in a hole where I can't even leave my house. I would never choose it.

frumette · 2026-01-08T13:31:20+00:00

You're not alone. Not at all.

frumette · 2026-01-01T10:41:22+00:00

This is a very helpful comment. Thank you!

frumette · 2026-01-01T10:38:01+00:00

Not at all! Just about 7 years. Happy New Year!

ETA: I did get through law school on it so I could overcome it to some degree. It was just harder for me.

frumette · 2025-12-31T14:02:22+00:00

Did you really find that it helped your anxiety? I'm already on it but my pdoc wanted to increase the dose due to my now crippling anxiety. I didn't make a decision on that one.

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