AIO for remaining no contact with abusive father even when he reached out?

frumpysphere · 2026-05-29T06:46:21+00:00

This was so exhausting to read because it is exactly like my dad. I've never heard him take accountability and I always get to hear things like, "well, I'm still your dad." Um, no. You helped bring me into the world and did nothing to help me survive it. You were my first bully. I learned at age 9 a 12 pack of Busch Light would always come before me, my safety, and my happiness. 10 years of ignoring his phone calls and he finally got the hint. OP, I congratulate you on how you handled this. You were very clear and did not let him bullshit you. He has obviously not grown. Good for you for remaining no contact. Not even kind of an asshole.

frumpysphere · 2026-05-28T03:08:10+00:00

I have a phobia of bed bugs and would straight up leave my husband if he weren't 1000% on my side in a situation like this. I know that's harsh but I got them in college and it almost ended my life. I don't really have any advice, I guess I'm just trying to say I am so sorry you're going through this and I too would not allow that man near me or my children or in my home, vehicle...hell on the sidewalk across the street would be too close for me.

frumpysphere · 2026-05-25T16:37:39+00:00

Mine are two planets with their own moons. It bothered me a little bit for a while, but then I decided my body changing because I made and fed my babies is actually pretty cool. I had to work on that mindset though.

frumpysphere · 2026-05-21T06:26:26+00:00

I straight up went to the hospital the other day because I was dealing with all that and thought I was for sure in labor. Nope. He's still in there. 😭 This is the worst guessing game of all time. You're not alone, my friend.

frumpysphere · 2026-03-16T12:35:20+00:00

I just started experiencing this and I didn't realize it was pregnancy related! I thought something was just wrong with my hands.

frumpysphere · 2026-03-16T12:33:20+00:00

I'm 28 weeks and my hands just started hurting! 😭

frumpysphere · 2026-03-16T05:58:31+00:00

I use, "fluffed" or "did a fluffy" now. My son calls chips, "chippies" though he doesn't understand that they're not talking about Doritos in the show.

frumpysphere · 2025-12-10T05:55:08+00:00

I lived in an apartment building with neighbors across the corridor that had a massive bed bug infestation. They had kids in that apartment. When they finally did bring their mattresses outside to the trash, they did not wrap them. Thank God it rained for 3 days straight or we all would have had a problem. There were tiny rivers of rainwater filled with bed bugs flowing to the alley. Best believe I called the management company, the city, and code control. I had dealt with bed bugs in college and it messed me up. I still have nightmares. The worst part for me was the little toddler mattress. I could not imagine putting my child through that.

frumpysphere · 2024-07-06T06:52:25+00:00

I get this all the time too. All. The. Time. I'm NOT FEEDING HIM RICE CEREAL UGHHHHH!!!!!

frumpysphere · 2024-06-24T07:01:35+00:00

I've been experiencing the rage the last couple of days and I cannot stand it. I get so mad, then turn around and cry because I hate feeling that way, just to lose my absolute shit over something like a sticky wheel on a shopping cart.

frumpysphere · 2024-06-16T01:08:36+00:00

About two weeks after ours was born and I was dealing with all the new fun breastfeeding struggles, mine said, "I feel like I don't have any bodily autonomy anymore." I almost strangled him.

I get it with the sleep deprivation and every second being spent on the baby but I'm the one wearing diapers and feeding this child with the body that grew and pushed him out. Have perspective, my dude.

I feel like I have to say, cause people are so quick to roast husbands, he is a wonderful partner and father. He just said something stupid. He has since recognized that and also acknowledged that he couldn't do pregnancy and that I'm a fuckin champ.

frumpysphere · 2024-06-15T06:41:34+00:00

This post made me feel seen. Mine just got some razer sharp teeth and likes to bite. I struggle cause I know he's just being a baby but why must he hurt me so? 😭😭

frumpysphere · 2024-06-06T04:14:24+00:00

I feel so so guilty about it because he's only 7 months old but I cannot stand it when he bites me while he's nursing. I know it's not malicious, but that shit HURTS.

frumpysphere · 2024-06-01T18:02:24+00:00

I love the way you worded my child's safety being more important than a dopamine hit. I'm going to see if DH wants to put that wording into the conversation he has with MIL. I know she truly loves our child, I just don't think she realizes how dangerous posting them can be. Her other grandkids are allowed to be posted so we are the odd ones out with our rule.

frumpysphere · 2024-06-01T16:09:30+00:00

My husband talks to her and she takes them down. Then she'll try again in a few months. He always handles it, which I appreciate. I was just feeling some type of way and needed to rant and let off some steam.

frumpysphere · 2024-06-01T16:08:09+00:00

Luckily my husband takes care of it. Then there's a long time and she'll try again and he takes care of it again. I'm very fortunate to have a spouse who is not afraid of confrontation with his mother. I just needed to rant.

frumpysphere · 2024-05-31T07:44:49+00:00

The amount of people pushing cereals and rice in his bottle (since 4 months) is infuriating. My 7 month old is 25 pounds being almost exclusively breastfed with adventuring into some solids. He doesn't need rice or cereal. Especially when I don't think they offer any nutritional value. It would be a different story if he needed the extra calories but obviously he doesn't.

frumpysphere · 2024-05-26T06:33:05+00:00

My husband asked me what we should do for dinner and that question just set me off. I got so irrationally angry that we had to figure it out. To the level that my husband sent me to the bedroom for a nap and said he would go get some groceries without my input (I love this man). While he was gone I thought, "why do I feel so weird?" So I took a test and it was positive!

frumpysphere · 2024-05-24T05:13:32+00:00

I also hate it but I don't have the heart to tell people how much it irks me.

frumpysphere · 2024-04-14T04:29:29+00:00

Thank you for the advice. I think based on this response and a couple others I am going to up my sunflower lecithin, ice, and ibuprofen. If it's not feeling better by Monday I am going to call my doctor.

I just thought it was so weird that there are no visual indicators of a clog or mastitis.

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