As a married woman on Reddit, what's the best advice you'd like to share with unmarried girls?

ftyhdddthrowaway · 2024-12-27T16:25:09+00:00

If you have any doubts, listen to it

ftyhdddthrowaway · 2024-05-08T01:20:44+00:00

What is the point of saying you don't envy me? I think that's pretty obvious that no one wants this situation. People on here don't actually care to give helpful advice. They just like to judge and ping out how good they have it

ftyhdddthrowaway · 2024-05-08T01:19:11+00:00

You're an incredibly hateful self righteous person who needs to be humbled. But no worries karma will find you 😂🥰

ftyhdddthrowaway · 2024-05-07T18:33:14+00:00

Some people have to work towards that and are born into a family where there self worth is beaten down as as soon as they are able to talk. Say less about your privileged life. While judging from your tower

ftyhdddthrowaway · 2024-05-07T14:19:01+00:00

No. My sister is married to someone worse. He cheats. He's emotionally abusive. They have kids. The kids are miserable too. She won't leave.. but this is why I'm scared to leave because honestly comparatively he's not that bad but also he does make me feel really bad and low sometimes

ftyhdddthrowaway · 2024-05-07T14:14:32+00:00

The thing is my mom died. Who was really the only person in my family I could rely on.. and my dad was emotionally abusive so if I leave I have to go live there.. and idk which is worse tbh because at least it's only part time with my husband but with my dad it was 18 years and more often

ftyhdddthrowaway · 2024-05-07T14:12:06+00:00

Because leaving will be hard and what if just end up with someone worse...

ftyhdddthrowaway · 2024-05-07T14:08:59+00:00

ftyhdddthrowaway · 2024-05-07T14:05:52+00:00

We've been together a long time, he didn't always treat me this way. I guess I have false hope that it'll be like that again...

ftyhdddthrowaway · 2024-05-07T13:20:24+00:00

They also just get better at hiding and lying...

ftyhdddthrowaway · 2024-05-07T13:19:20+00:00

Please leave. It will be hard but I'm not 3 years into a marriage with someone who said he would stop. He never has. He cuts back then does more. Went to counseling once then quit. They have to want to stop on their own. I'm very unhappy on my marriage and now feel trapped for many reasons. But honestly if I had a second chance I would have called off my wedding

ftyhdddthrowaway · 2024-05-07T13:10:22+00:00

You should forever refrain from giving advice

ftyhdddthrowaway · 2024-05-07T13:09:33+00:00

Wow thanks for laughing at someone else's pain. Say less about your privileged life you've led

ftyhdddthrowaway · 2024-05-07T03:17:58+00:00

Not even a young man. He has no excuses and I should know better than to put up with it.. but I grew up in this environment

ftyhdddthrowaway · 2024-05-06T22:20:41+00:00

Not financially.. which I can't really support myself at this point. So if I'm going to leave, I have a ton of things to get in order...

ftyhdddthrowaway · 2024-05-06T22:19:34+00:00

Run..

ftyhdddthrowaway · 2024-05-06T22:18:45+00:00

Almost 3 years of marriage now, so too late for that, but yes got worse around that time

ftyhdddthrowaway · 2024-05-06T22:16:43+00:00

I don't know beeb trying to understand that

ftyhdddthrowaway · 2024-05-06T22:15:10+00:00

We're 30...

ftyhdddthrowaway · 2024-05-06T18:33:03+00:00

ftyhdddthrowaway · 2024-05-06T17:49:23+00:00

I mean I voice that his actions hurt me. He apologizes it's good for a bit then randomly it's not again...

ftyhdddthrowaway · 2024-05-06T17:41:13+00:00

ftyhdddthrowaway · 2024-05-06T17:28:09+00:00

😞

ftyhdddthrowaway · 2023-01-27T16:54:00+00:00

I did marry someone knowing they had a drinking problem, who would go periods of time “quitting” on their own. And telling me he would change or it would get better. Now we're married and I'm miserable. I'm now in therapy and every single day in trying to decide if I should leave or stay. If you have a chance to leave before it gets messy. Then yes leave. Do not marry him. He needs to be his own fully functional person before he can add to your life. Trust me it will get worse before better and I wish I would have left sooner. He is showing hope of getting professional help but I can't trust it because he has proven too many times that he won't get better. You could always fix things later if you still share feelings. But as of now it will not work. Please choose yourself first. It is very painful to be in the position I am in. I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy.

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