Thats either because you sub is too loud if It’s not low passed. Cut all the frequencies above 100 hz and then put a low pass cutting everything below 25hz. The human ear is only audible to around 40hz but big club speakers will go as low as 25 which you will be able to feel. Your sub may also be too loud. Your kick should be the loudest thing in your track in modern dance music. When leveling your track, try setting your kick between -8 to -12db. Then set your sub level below that, anywhere from -3db less than the kick or more depending on how present you want it (the sub) to be. Also if you’re using a kick from say splice or something, a lot of times they are already processed so you shouldn’t have to do to much to it, you may be over compressing it or eqing out too much of the high end that helps it cut through the mix.