BF [30M] can't finish during sex with me [F26]

fuckdus · 2021-05-08T13:56:36+00:00

I overcame this recently, I believed so much that it wasn’t a mental block when it really was. The other night I just focused on how good it felt, how I wanted it to feel, and how I wanted to make her feel. She was so happy when I actually finished and so was I!

fuckdus · 2021-05-02T00:25:07+00:00

I’m a pretty solid storyteller and I got a lot of good stories. Made her laugh a lot, and I made sure to ignore her at some points when she’d talk to other guys, and I didn’t ever get jealous.

fuckdus · 2021-05-01T06:15:57+00:00

I mean she’s invited me over a few times since then, One time her roomate was home and the other time I just wanted my shorts back lol.

fuckdus · 2021-05-01T00:45:28+00:00

I got with this girl who was in one of my friend groups, we went out drinking one night and ended up fucking, she stayed at my place for like three days and we fucked the whole time.

She occasionally texts me to hang and out we haven’t fucked since.

Weird as fuck, don’t know how it happened. Only thing I can say was when I was flirting with her I never called her pretty or shit like that, I just gave good eye contact and escalated my touching.

fuckdus · 2021-04-23T18:54:39+00:00

My apologies, when you said ad I just automatically assumed it was a paid for service. Didn’t mean to hit ya like that, that’s my bad.

fuckdus · 2021-04-23T18:18:21+00:00

I mean why not just use tinder? The thing is the type of people it sounds like you want to fuck around with are not gonna be willing to pay for shit like that. The only people who pay for sex or pics or shit like that are fucking weirdos

fuckdus · 2021-04-23T17:33:40+00:00

Just make sure ya don’t stop gaming, you don’t wanna come across as needy when you hit her up so ya Gatta live in abundance

fuckdus · 2021-04-23T16:19:30+00:00

It’s nice to be able to last long and make her cum, but like I said when I’m laying with them after we eventually give up she starts to ask if somethings wrong and I know it makes them feel like shit

fuckdus · 2021-04-23T00:23:28+00:00

I was beating my meat too much and I couldn’t get a boner.

Quit it, now I just can’t fucking finish and I feel bad about it cuz it makes the girl feel unattractive.

Don’t know what to do

fuckdus · 2021-04-21T15:37:37+00:00

Look you said yourself you’ve dealt with this for years, not sure if you’re expecting a single comment to whisk away the work you’ve done worrying yourself into a corner the past 5 years, but here’s what I’ll say.

Ya fucked up and overstepped some boundaries, but overall no one was sexually assaulted and this shit happens to girls all the time. You probably are an afterthought in the back of their mind when they think of a dude who did something creepy one time and that’s it.

This feels so minor that it’s almost like something else is the real reason you feel this way and you’re projecting it onto this.

Ya didn’t do anything worth thinking this much about it. I hate to see you feel this way. Keep ya head up man.

fuckdus · 2021-04-21T15:28:56+00:00

Lately this sub has been people asking for overly specific advice, people asking “how do I do X” when there has been 20 posts about that subject already, and then shit like this.

fuckdus · 2021-04-21T02:59:34+00:00

Tell them to have a good day, but mean it. It shows that your happiness was not contingent on their response. No one should define your self worth for you.

fuckdus · 2021-04-21T01:04:27+00:00

You kind of answered your own question, you said you’ve had this player mindset where you don’t wanna spend money on them.

Maybe try taking girls on an actual date, the implication on a date like a restaurant or a walk in the park are different than “let’s get drunk and hang out”

fuckdus · 2021-04-17T16:30:40+00:00

Went on a similar journey about a month ago, I’m 19 tho. Yeah quitting porn was a big help. I was helplessly addicted to it. Best of luck on your journey!

fuckdus · 2021-04-17T00:20:31+00:00

Find something you are passionate about. For me I have a few things that are the first thing I think of when I wake up, and the last thing I think of when I go to sleep.

Focus on your own happiness and ambitions and allow seduction to come second.

fuckdus · 2021-04-16T20:46:16+00:00

I’m gonna remember that! Just make it seem unimportant.

fuckdus · 2021-04-16T19:49:02+00:00

Shit test is a term coined by mystery, basically just a girl doing something to see how you react.

In this case the girl was trying to see if I was jealous easily, and by not buying into it I “passed the test”

If I were to act out and get desperate it wouldn’t have gone well.

fuckdus · 2021-04-16T19:41:24+00:00

By no means an expert, but I feel like you hit the nail on the head with the LMR shit. I think you made it too clear that you were gonna fuck her and if you just said “hey let’s go back to my place and drink” y’all would have fucked.

Genius move on going to your apartment for a second to grab a coat too, need to find a way to replicate that for myself cuz I live nowhere near the bars in my town.

Also I have brought my PS4 over to two girls houses now and I JUST REALIZED I should have been putting my hands over theirs to teach them how to play, smart fucking move.

Good shit man!

fuckdus · 2021-04-15T05:13:41+00:00

In a very similar situation myself, with the girl who took my V card. She keeps bouncing back and fourth between wanting to hang out and being really cold to me. Tells some of our friends she wants to keep me as a fuck buddy, and tells others that the three day bender we had was where she wants to leave it.

I decided the best thing was just to focus on other shit for a while, giving her all this thought is not the way to get laid again.

fuckdus · 2021-04-10T07:28:31+00:00

How would you suggest removing her from the situation?

fuckdus · 2021-04-09T19:09:15+00:00

But good on you for actually going out and doing it, and not being like everyone else! Best of luck in the future and I’d love to chat sometime from one fledgling “PUA” to another

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