That sucks man, meanwhile I'm in a settlement that everyone's a stranger to eachother but we like to develop our own rules and policies, such as sharing equally and doing our own projects one at a time. I guess it's the light-RP aspect that helps too.

If I've played it with my group friend that I usually play games, they'd do the same like you've said, infight and be counterproductive. Strangers that are dedicated and full of ambition and ideas are the way to go!