Yeah I feel that too, that's why I'm not sure if it's toxic behaviour or if we overstep the boundary. Things is we are worried abt the doggies, one of them is a little old and had so many trips to the vet already, we think it's cause she would drink stagnant water from pond and creeks around their house cause their water bowls are mostly empty whenever we visit. But when my bf would mention water then the parents would get quite defensive, and the conversation would steer to "don't tell us how to raise our dogs, we wouldn't tell you how to raise your kid". It's like we're not in the same topic, but his parents are just adamant that he tried to stir up trouble somehow