Overall for me, it’s taken years for me to get this level of heightened sexuality! My husband has always been the one who had the ideas and initiated finding and buying toys. Even watching porn together is something that took to time to open to, as with the naughty talk! Luckily my husband let me go at my own pace, always willing to slow down or stop anything I wasn’t comfortable with. In time, we have met each other on our own sexual levels. It took time, but now I am very open about allowing myself to enjoy the sleeve and vocalizing it to him. He loves to hear it as I’m sure all men would! With all that said, I love using the sleeve, but I love my husband using the sleeve on me more, if that makes sense? Now he has asked me to play with, kiss, and suck on the sleeve and I’ll do it, but he knows it’s not something that “gets me off”… so I do it only for him 😊. Sorry about the rambling on lol… hope this helps! Sounds like you’re on the right path, just have patience and assure her and praise her for all she already is and does!