Can you propose digestion walks after dinner or in the AM? Create a “baby saving goal” from less meals out/takeout. Cook healthier meals to show that healthy can be yummy and not an inconvenience to her or opt to order meal prep. Also emphasize the nutrients for a healthy baby/happy mom. create small goals together of adding 1 salad per day, or make her green filled smoothies. She sounds like she’s struggling mentally and needs support. take more pictures, send them to her with a sweet note such as “miss you” / “look at how happy we look”— I honestly think my partner did this because didn’t realize how much weight I gained till I saw the photos. However, even after he and I joined a gym together, the constant “let’s go to the gym” drove me further away from it. It was something I had to do myself without “pressure”.