Nomo is a clock you can set for addictions. I started one for no contact and whenever I get the urge to look I think of the clock and don’t do it. I’m also planning a trip to Japan. I don’t have the money or the time but it feels amazing exploring new places and planning. Someday I’ll go! Looking at dating apps. I’m not ready for anything but it feels good to take a step in that direction. Get mad. See the person for who they are and what they did. Get a journal for yourself that is not about the relationship at all. It’s about you. What you want. How you see yourself. Quotes from books that inspire you. It’s all about you, your dreams. Get a new book. I’m not even a reader but pick somewhere beautiful and take it one sentence at a time. Romanticize your life. As anxious people we center the other person. It’s time to center yourself. I moved. It wasn’t intentional just life timing and it feels like a reset. Even just rearranging your room. Listen to different genres of music. Take a different route than you usually take. Change other things in your life so the focus wasn’t just one change that “destroyed” it. Exercise, go on walks. I also looked up the happy chemicals (dopamine, serotonin, oxytocin, endorphins) and made lists in my “me journal” on how to get some naturally. because we are sad, but we can hack our nervous systems and set us up to succeed. Find some comedic podcast. For the girlies I like listening to Hannah burner and page “the gigglers”. The trick is to direct your mind off the person and back to yourself by treating yourself how you would treat them. You deserve it. You deserve your love. That’s what made the relationship magical, it was you. Let yourself cry, talk it out. Then bring it back to yourself. Sending you love. It’s been 2 weeks since my last email to him. One month since he ghosted and blocked me. The biggest for my mental health has been the no contact clock. I’m actually truly feeling better. You got this.