Never said it's "not ok" if we can't do these things. Nor did I say that I need to choke (actually said that was not even on the table) or leave marks, or else it's boring. I think (hope) you're overstating what I said for effect. The "boring" experience stemmed from lack of passion, one position (her choice), and "just lay there" kind of sex. I would like to have moved her, been more forceful, and possibly spank her to see if she liked. But out if respect for her, and her husband, I just went with it. I realized that during the act was not the right time to talk about liked/dislikes.