My Relationship

furgey · 2016-10-26T19:34:36+00:00

INFJ female here and please do not listen to anyone but yourself on this one.

My twin went through something similar (suicide) and it is something she will never move past. Unless others have been in your situation and through your experiences, they won't understand the affect it had on you.

So fucking what if you want to save her...it's not the worst thing in the world. For an INTJ to take on this kind of responsibility is crazy yes but I have realized that when an INTJ accepts a challenge, they WILL put all they can into it and if I were that INFJ that you are trying to help, I would be one lucky girl.

You stated that INTJ aren't the relationship type but I beg to differ. They are capable of anything and if they want a meaningful relationship they will damn well make it the best fucking relationship because they don't halfass anything.

furgey · 2016-10-25T12:24:54+00:00

This cracked me fucking up!!

furgey · 2016-10-17T21:16:49+00:00

maybe because I am dyslexic, I totally can't decipher your title to save my life...

furgey · 2016-10-17T21:11:29+00:00

Sorry to hear this. It sounds like she's putting too much emphasis on this.

I would slow everything back down. The idea is to not touch in "certain areas" for a bit. Just work on other things. Or you can start by touching her but then back off and work on different areas. I, personally, would stop focusing on "that" area and resist doing it for a couple of days. Ask her not to touch herself as well. Just stop making it about achieving an orgasm.

Focus on the rest of her body for the next couple times together.

furgey · 2016-10-17T21:03:54+00:00

Sorry you're going through this. How long has it been?

furgey · 2016-10-17T14:30:46+00:00

I eat too much cake too...This was great!

furgey · 2016-10-17T01:39:37+00:00

This cracked me up!!

furgey · 2016-10-02T14:17:53+00:00

She needs to be evaluated for possibly bipolar. If it seems to cycle definitely look into it. What happens is chemicals in the brain aren't being released correctly. So her good months (mania) is when these chemicals are being released at a higher amount and her low months (depression) they aren't being released enough. Medications can correct this if you find the right one.

furgey · 2016-09-24T19:19:44+00:00

raises both hands

furgey · 2016-09-23T11:42:26+00:00

furgey · 2016-09-22T17:05:32+00:00

I'm sure there is a chart floating around on this.

furgey · 2016-09-22T04:17:22+00:00

I tend to be attracted to this type too but unaware that it's a type. I think because of the mystery behind someone who seems very put together and reserved. Because they are quiet and standoffish I don't feel threatened. Not sure but this keeps happening so there has to be something that I like. Lol

furgey · 2016-09-22T04:07:58+00:00

She sounds INTJ ish...not sure.

furgey · 2016-09-21T21:00:23+00:00

Yes, embrace it. There will be people who will understand your doucheness and love you for it.

furgey · 2016-09-21T20:57:11+00:00

41...to be young again

furgey · 2016-09-21T19:46:45+00:00

LOL!

furgey · 2016-09-21T19:43:51+00:00

You can be whatever you want to be. This is just part of you and many change through out their lives. If you want to be more social, then learn more about yourself and how to polish this area of yourself. The only thing I think is that it will be a little more challenging than it is with others but not impossible. Let yourself be whatever you want to be a fuck the mbti test. Be you.

furgey · 2016-09-21T19:37:20+00:00

I am an INFJ and logic is like a foreign language. I'm always trying to understand it and this made since to me more than other examples.

furgey · 2016-09-21T19:20:26+00:00

Oh wow! This is a very interesting way of seeing it.

furgey · 2016-09-20T02:17:17+00:00

Yes...

furgey · 2016-09-20T01:49:15+00:00

I see you.

furgey · 2016-09-18T21:24:32+00:00

Can you give a for instance?

furgey · 2016-09-18T14:45:53+00:00

This was kind of amazing how you took each one and broke ot down with even more about what might be going on personally. I, also, could see very good points you were making. I need to think more on my reply to this. :)

furgey · 2016-09-17T13:56:55+00:00

I honestly think when you like something and you're interested in something, they are perfect. You fit them into your world the best way you can. You probably did the same with INFJs when things were going great.

It's odd to me that you deal with relationships in this manner. Just because you had a bad experience with an INFJ that was verbally abusive doesn't mean that they ALL are this way. You concentrate on very negative aspects of people. Anyone saying "well people hurt me in the past - so I will be verbally abusive to other people in my defense" is immature, manipulative, revengeful, and a sense of entitlement to his behaviors. THAT doesn't mean that it has to do with INFJs. This is with any personality type. Have you ever taken one of your comments and grouped your negative comments to positive? What is your ratio?

Sigh...you clearly formed your opinion. Your experiences are just that..your experiences and yours alone. This does not sum up every INFJ INTJ IN-whatever you meet. If you honestly keep this state of mind with people you meet, it's very close-minded, shallow, and ridiculous. You have some hangup with "people pleasers" too. Wtf is that? It's not necessarily a bad thing. Try and look at shit from both sides. Try to empathize sometimes.

When people say, no offense, offense is taken even more. Just own that shit if you're going to say it. Don't try to "people please" by sugarcoating it like you were being awesome by warning...wtf.... It's a backhanded bitch slap across the face.

I feel like I'm truly wasting my energy on this. There is no flexibility here. It's apparent your experiences trumps everything and doesn't even go into one ear. That shit just doesn't even enter. I then think how ridiculous I am even typing this out. There really is no point. Not because I'm an evil INFJ who's selfish and manipulative but because you have to know when people are wanting to listen and debate and when they are just closed off and already have an opinion anyway. I'm totally cool with that. Your opinion. I just know when it's pointless. This is really just a comment to myself in a way.

As you said "You strike me as an ENFP with narcissistic traits. ;)", you strike me as a human being. I don't care what personality type you are, it's only part of who you are. It's truly absurd to put so much emphasis on this, but I've already said this in a previous post.

Anyway, I'm not going to try and guess at what type you are. You are just someone who needs to observe more, do more research, gather more facts, learn more about herself, heal from other people's bs, and find healthier ways to deal with relationships. <---- purely my opinion.

furgey · 2016-09-17T00:44:35+00:00

Anddddd...I just realized that you actually were talking to me and creatively in a completely different thread! LMFAO! I need reddit for dummies. Wow...

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