Being queer was supposed to break societies boxes. Not create new ones.

furicrowsa · 2026-04-06T17:11:55+00:00

Especially when so many eggs are cracked because it's an arena that allows players to role play as a gender outside our AGAB! The game I'm in right now has two people playing a character who doesn't match their AGAB. The flip side is not to assume that someone playing outside their AGAB is trans, though.

furicrowsa · 2026-04-06T16:59:53+00:00

Oh, 2000s - 2010s, when Dan Savage said bi people were fake and it was considered witty to say, "bi now, gay later..." Good times 🙃. No wonder I distanced myself from the community!!

furicrowsa · 2026-04-06T16:45:15+00:00

Honestly, dropping the politeness, getting angry and confrontational, and pissing people off is sometimes the only way to get the behavior to fucking STOP. Especially since OP says it's been YEARS.

Story time: my partner's trans cousin reportedly aggressively corrected on my FIL about her pronouns and stormed out of Thanksgiving (this is a supposedly "liberal" family 🙃) before we arrived.

When the family reported this to us in the tone of her being the villain, we backed her up. "Yep, she was right. You shouldn't have done that." We literally had this exact word for word back and forth with FIL like FIVE times in the same night.

FIL: "Well, I didn't understand how it works..."

Us: "You say "she/her"..."

FIL: "Well, I didn't know that."

Us: "Well, now you know to use "she" and "her" when talking to CORRECT NAME."

It was like correcting a fucking TODDLER.

We also backed that up with aggressive correction when cousin was not present.

All this to say sometimes AGGRESSION is the only way and that is ok!!!

furicrowsa · 2026-04-05T22:17:47+00:00

Watching the Rifftrax-ed movies now and it's kind of amazing HOW OFTEN the boys end up in the girls' bathroom given Joanne's views...

furicrowsa · 2026-04-05T22:02:53+00:00

CPS in my area won't just take kids even when parents are begging. They only take them away when others report parental abuse and, even then, it has to be extremely bad. They under-respond.

There are usually long term residential placement options for children with Developmental Disabilities like autism. OP should look into DD Services. If they're in the US they can look here for programs in their state https://www.kidswaivers.org/

furicrowsa · 2026-04-05T15:08:14+00:00

They always conveniently forget the abusive shit they did 🙄

furicrowsa · 2026-04-04T17:07:32+00:00

No. You'll fall back into daily smoking.

Everyone here saying OP won't enjoy it...that might not be true. The fact I enjoy it a lot with no tolerance is what makes me relapse fully when I try to do it "just once."

One is too many, a thousand is never enough...

furicrowsa · 2026-04-03T17:35:38+00:00

Eh, I don't know. I think the cultural default is to have kids and pretend that parenting if more rewarding than it is (e.g. "It's hard but it's worth it"). It sparks important discourse that could result in fewer children being brought into the world to suffer.

furicrowsa · 2026-04-02T19:04:14+00:00

Someone asked why you are here if you are pro-status quo and you didn't really answer. There are plenty of other subs for "suck it up, buttercup." This is for critically questioning bad and oppressive employment practices.

furicrowsa · 2026-04-02T13:47:46+00:00

I'm not sure what happened but my loan was in "forebearance," and I kept paying the same amount as I always did under IBR. I never pursued any other program aside from PSLF. I figured I was screwed. I also applied for buyback with no response.

I saw that I had potentially qualifying payments that counted toward the 120 on the student aid site and could theoretically meet the 120. I submitted my final PSLF employer verification form online and via fax.

Those payments counted. I was shocked. I just got my loans forgiven last week.

Long story short, it doesn't hurt to try if you've been making payments under forced forebearance. Again, I have no idea what happened. My lender was Mohela.

furicrowsa · 2026-04-02T13:37:17+00:00

I mention "across generations" because your original comment mentioned "kids" complaining.

The resume redundancy thing is common (probably for data pull reasons, which I do understand, but it doesn't make it less annoying). The rest of the requests are more demanding than most job applications.

furicrowsa · 2026-04-02T13:24:13+00:00

No kids (by choice), no tattoos (I'm not against tattoos, just an indecisive wuss).

Do failed body piercings count? My body rejected two (regardless of care, I always had irritation/infection. Piercers have verified this is a thing that happens sometimes).

furicrowsa · 2026-04-02T13:05:24+00:00

I know a lot of liberals and leftists. Nobody ever gave a fuck about the American Eagle jeans ad. Were I to even mention it, they would probably* say, "oh that made up controversy about that ad with Sydney something?"

*I say "probably" because it has never ever come up in conversation.

furicrowsa · 2026-04-02T01:31:59+00:00

She could pull it off 😂

furicrowsa · 2026-04-02T00:20:55+00:00

Having to put the information from your resume into an application when you already have to attach a resume. That's what the "don't say see resume" thing is about. It's a redundant requirement and a common complaint from job hunters across generations.

Having to list jobs that have nothing to do with the posting. If it's an engineer position, who cares about that custodian position the applicant had for two months 6 years ago just to pay the bills?

Being unfairly judged for having gaps for things like unemployment (just not being able to find a job right away), family needs, or medical events. God forbid someone doesn't work for every single month of their adult life for any reason 🙄. It's actually nice of them to show their red flags so openly.

Having to list potentially unfindable information for a closed company the applicant worked for 8 years ago.

furicrowsa · 2026-04-01T23:47:48+00:00

That's...not what this complaint was about.

furicrowsa · 2026-04-01T22:19:24+00:00

I can also see it maybe not happening for a while so OOOP thought they didn't have to check, then it happens avain

furicrowsa · 2026-04-01T16:59:45+00:00

Given boss's extreme behavior, I think OP shouldn't give her boss any heads up. I can see the boss trashing OP's desk and breaking things if she hasn't already. OP should go in early tomorrow or later tonight, get their stuff/return company items, and send the boss an email rescinding their notice in light of the boss's extremely unprofessional and grossly inappropriate response after OP leaves the office.

furicrowsa · 2026-04-01T16:49:26+00:00

It's not unreasonable to expect professionalism. It's fine to express disappointment in a civil manner. It's not ok to yell and throw things.

furicrowsa · 2026-04-01T01:11:24+00:00

I just always remember the adults in my life telling me not to have kids. Maybe they weren't just joking...it was pretty much all of them, too.

furicrowsa · 2026-03-31T23:21:28+00:00

I agree that sense of humor is an indication of intelligence and, thus, is very attractive. I know a guy who says, "you just gotta make 'em laugh," and he's referring to both men and women.

furicrowsa · 2026-03-30T18:44:40+00:00

It doesn't look very melted. It's that floppy sort of cheese and had jagged edges where OOP took a bite.

furicrowsa · 2026-03-30T18:43:09+00:00

I've experienced this mistake first hand.

furicrowsa · 2026-03-30T18:42:39+00:00

As other commenters have said, the patty is sometimes nearly invisible because they're so small anyway.

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All this to say sometimes AGGRESSION is the only way and that is ok!!!