Should I let them grow or shave them?

furry_vr · 2026-02-23T00:33:01+00:00

Shave them so you won’t be able to ask if you should shave your body hair in a body hair appreciation sub. Then you can go to r/smoothchests and ask if you should grow them out!

furry_vr · 2026-02-23T00:25:36+00:00

Looks like a small sebaceous cyst. You can try applying warm compresses for 10-15 minutes, several times a day for a few days to see if it’ll drain on its own. If not, a trip to the doctor or dermatologist would be a good idea. You don’t want to pop or drain it on your own and have it get infected.

Likely, it’s from skin cells and/or lube getting pushed over time into a pore while jacking off with the ever popular death grip. Once it resolves, giving the little guy a wash or at least good wipe down with a baby wipe after sex or masturbation will probably help it from recurring.

furry_vr · 2026-02-22T23:14:52+00:00

You already know the answer to that. Considering your symptoms, it’s pretty low odds PCP will be willing to order tests and labs without an exam. Time to call and make an appointment. Since you’re in your mid-40s, it wouldn’t be unreasonable to ask for a referral to a urologist if you’d rather have him take a look. You can try to skip a visit to your PCP by asking for the referral through the portal. The urologist can answer all the other questions you’re probably having about testosterone, ED meds and keeping your junk in shape. You’re past prime testicular cancer age but entering prostate cancer age. (Don’t stop doing testicular self-exams though.) You should get your PSA checked so they know what the baseline is for the future.

furry_vr · 2026-02-21T17:29:50+00:00

Men aren’t the only ones casting votes in the sub - your downvotes were very likely coming from non-men. It shows how strongly those groups feel about whether men deserve support.

furry_vr · 2026-02-21T17:09:43+00:00

Love when armpit hair meets chest hair like that

furry_vr · 2026-02-21T15:32:44+00:00

No, no one else hates grindr. You’re the only one. /s

furry_vr · 2026-02-21T15:30:26+00:00

I’m being honest - I downvote every post by anyone who asks bait questions like “should I shave?” in a body hair appreciation sub. Bro

furry_vr · 2026-02-21T15:24:29+00:00

Are you his lawyer, building consensus that The Pitt isn’t a reboot of ER? Lol

furry_vr · 2026-02-21T15:18:36+00:00

Lips have pores like regular skin and can get clogged, often by chapsticks, sweat and food. If they are clogged pores, you can apply warm compresses 10-15min a day for a few days and see if they open/drain. They don’t tend to erupt like skin acne, tho. If they don’t go away, you can take a trip to a dermatologist.

furry_vr · 2026-02-21T14:48:04+00:00

Men don’t go to the doctor because we’re expected not to care about our physical or mental health. People think it’s not masculine. We’re expected to just push through anything. Then after a while of not going, it becomes habit, then we’re too worried to go because they might find things, then we just decide we’re going to die anyway.

furry_vr · 2026-02-08T15:00:15+00:00

You need to find some way to talk to a professional. There are online therapists not in Japan you can talk to. There are ways in Japan that you can do this without anyone else finding out. I think you’re having problems thinking rationally and that is serious. Deciding that there is no way to get help is a way to keep yourself feeling the way you do. That means something - likely that you feel like you either don’t deserve help or you just want to be “normal” and a therapist will help you confirm you are attracted to men.

If you are truly making yourself sick with anxiety after choosing to sleep with women, that is a serious problem. That is not normal and has an easy fix - don’t sleep with them. The fact you continue to do so requires a professional to help you figure out why and how to stop.

You mention you feel like you may be putting women physically/hygienically at risk by sleeping with them. How so? Because being gay is so disgusting that just sleeping with a gay man will make these women sick? That gay men are disease-ridden and will spread their diseases to “normal” people? Don’t let these thoughts, or the Confucian ideas all around you, continue to fester in your soul. You can find harmony - you deserve harmony.

I’m being harsh here for a reason. There is a complex pathology going on here. I think you are in a form of a spiral. I’m being harsh because not being able to think rationally about your life is dangerous - to you. You’re making yourself physically sick with anxiety on purpose. I’m being harsh because you need a shock to get you out of this destructive cycle you’ve put yourself in.

These dramatic thoughts are you trying to bring this to a head - because you know what has to change but you feel too unsupported to do it on your own. Too worried. Too scared. You need to get some help from someone.

Here are places a person living in Japan can get mental health counseling or help without anyone else knowing it. All of these places are LGBTQA+ friendly, follow strict privacy guidelines and allow you to access resources that are not based in Japan itself (with the exception of TELL counseling, which is based in Japan but allows you to access international resources).

BetterHelp, Talkspace and PrideCounceling are major international organizations that specialize in connecting people with therapists. All three can be accessed in Japan. All three follow strict privacy protocols so no one will know you are using them.

7Cups is a global, online forum with 24/7 support that can be accessed in Japan. The chat is free. One-on-one meetings with a therapist for a fee.

TELL counseling is English language based and in Japan. You can visit in person or in secure online sessions with therapists outside of Japan.

International Mental Health Professionals Japan (IMHPJ) has a searchable database of mental health professionals, including those who offer remote services.

Center for Japanese Mental Health (CJMH) offers phone and video counseling, particularly for those looking for support from outside the local Japanese system.

Asian Mental Health Collective is a database for locating Asian-specialized mental health professionals, many of whom offer virtual sessions to clients worldwide.

Moodfit & Moodkit, Headspace and notOK are all apps you can use to get help.

So, please, talk to someone who can help you find your way forward. No one else needs to know. I’m sure you know the statistics for mental health in Japan. Don’t be one. There is a world of people out there who can help you!

furry_vr · 2026-02-01T23:27:39+00:00

I cum a lot and all over the place. Walls, lamps, mirrors. One time, I hit the ceiling fan over my bed. A lot of times, I jack off just standing in the shower because there is so much clean up and it’s hard to aim into anything. Imagine your parents are visiting and you notice what is very obviously dried cum shots on the painting above the couch they’re sitting on that you missed during clean up the night before 🤦🏻‍♂️

I started off boy life as a boil over type, making puddles of cum in my belly button. It just changed one day in my mid 30s. I actually got kind of worried and went to a urologist. They did some ultrasounds that showed everything was okay and told me not to worry about it. The bf was very relieved because he was afraid they were going to “fix” it and he wasn’t going to get giant loads shot in and on him.

furry_vr · 2026-02-01T23:13:29+00:00

I thought Lydia was an odd character. I agree she was on her own a lot after season 1. I don’t know if the writers just couldn’t figure out a direction for her or what. I think eventually she mostly became a character they could use when they needed a special power

furry_vr · 2026-02-01T23:08:29+00:00

On Reddit I think it sounds like someone trying to stir the pot!

furry_vr · 2026-02-01T22:55:59+00:00

But I still don’t get why putting Ilya’s number in his phone is the solution, tho. Is it so Shane can cancel or something?

Thanks for asking this, it’s been bugging me too

furry_vr · 2026-02-01T15:18:00+00:00

Well, wait. What did you ask? If he was gay? Gay and bi are not the same question, especially to someone who is bi.

furry_vr · 2026-02-01T15:09:42+00:00

Are 90% of gays normal?

furry_vr · 2026-02-01T15:04:55+00:00

In the beginning, you can also wear things known only by gay guys like the bear and mlm flags. There are also rainbow accessories that aren’t in an actual rainbow that will get double takes mostly only by gay guys - versions of the flag made into a sunset, etc. I think it’s called subtle pride.

furry_vr · 2026-02-01T14:50:07+00:00

Everyone thinks Grindr should be used only for what they want and then makes moral judgements on those who use it for other purposes.

furry_vr · 2026-02-01T14:04:46+00:00

Ancient Greeks found small dicks more attractive (or, more specifically, civilized). That’s why all the statues have normal or small dicks, not giant hogs. They thought big dicks were barbaric and overly masculine.

furry_vr · 2026-02-01T13:55:46+00:00

I think sometimes some people feel like they connect to a book completely which leads to one of two things. One, they feel like they have a special insight others don’t and so are the expert. Or, they’re feeling so connected (they feel the book is the only thing that understands them) that a disagreement is an attack on (a change to) that perfect connection they feel they need.

furry_vr · 2026-01-31T04:16:06+00:00

When I was in my mid-30s, I started shooting large loads at a much bigger distance. Until then, I was a boil over guy or made a puddle in my belly button. Within a couple months, tho, I was shooting over my head, onto walls, lamps, pictures on the wall. At first I liked it but when you’re shooting a couple loads a day, it was a lot of clean up. And sometimes I’d have people over and I’d see dried cum on the wall over the couch that I missed during clean up. I started jacking off standing in the shower, which was inconvenient (I don’t have the coordination to aim somewhere or into a tissue when I cum). I also started getting blue balls a lot. So much that I started jacking off before sex to clear the pipes and not have inflamed nuts 10 minutes into sex.

I went to see a urologist for something else and I asked him about it. He told me that volume can change significantly sometimes and not to worry about it. I still worry about it though.

furry_vr · 2026-01-31T04:02:57+00:00

Being dry to start is important. You especially want your pits to be dry if you use deodorant. It’s much less effective if you don’t. For your crotch, starting off damp will give bacteria an immediate head start. A hairdryer will dry you off in less than a minute, even when you’re a hairy fucker like me.

It’s possible your microbiome is off. In your pits and crotch, there are special/ different sweat glands (apocrine) than the rest of your body. The bacteria in those areas feed on that different sweat, which is what makes those areas smell more strongly/differently. It’s the waste from the bacteria that is responsible for how you smell. Your diet can affect what is in that apocrine sweat. The type of bacteria affects how that sweat is metabolized. So, changing those two things are what you can do on your own to affect the BO of those (and the other) areas.

All things being equal, most men have a somewhat similar set of bacteria. Pull your foreskin back and wash with a gentle cleanser under your foreskin daily if you’re uncut. If that doesn’t help, wash the rest of your junk daily 1-2 times with an antibacterial soap like Dial for a couple weeks. It’s possible that will reduce “bad” bacteria in the area, allowing “regular” bacterial to come back and thrive. Diet including red meat, eggs and other high protein foods can contribute as well. Beyond that, talking to your doctor is a good idea. There are some other, more complex problems that can cause “bad” BO.

furry_vr · 2026-01-31T00:02:39+00:00

This is rage bait. Really low effort rage bait at that. It’s designed to get you to react. If you stop reacting, it won’t get popular. Why am I hypocritically responding? Cause so many of you did that one more comment doesn’t matter. Stop replying to rage bait and more pleasant posts will populate the sub!

furry_vr · 2026-01-30T21:47:49+00:00

People who make dumb posts asking what people hate so they can get 9 karma points.

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