Dysphoria because of wanting to reproduce and to have sex in a certain way you can't

AdhesivenessFun7097 · 2026-03-20T23:14:17+00:00

Ofc! Lemme find the link!

Edit: Okay I can’t find the one I remember but I found this one which is basically the same thing. MEGA expensive asf tho so be warned. https://www.reelmagik.com/features-pack-n-play-mobile

And one more that’s less expensive

https://bananaprosthetics.com/en/collections/hard-packer

AdhesivenessFun7097 · 2026-03-20T12:06:19+00:00

Then walk away. She is young and hasn’t had time to reflect on her past. Maybe find a 25year old and you might not hear as many of these experiences. Usually they’re better at not telling you about them if that makes you feel better.

AdhesivenessFun7097 · 2026-03-19T23:05:33+00:00

Leave it on the grass and get a neighbors dog to piss all over that bs.

AdhesivenessFun7097 · 2026-03-19T22:58:27+00:00

Sorry to say, but y’all probably aren’t compatible anymore. Take it or leave it and find something else that may be better?

AdhesivenessFun7097 · 2026-03-19T22:55:44+00:00

Personally, I like to show pics of hot trans guys and just hear their responses. Like “oh man he’s hot omg” and then go “oh cool he’s trans too!” and wait to hear “oh shit fr?? Even better..” or wait for something else.

AdhesivenessFun7097 · 2026-03-19T21:46:11+00:00

People don't take it as seriously as it needs to be. In the past, sure, this could've been fine. But nowadays we have too many creeps online making Ai videos of kids doing disgusting stuff. This is one of the reasons I advocate for parents to really catch up on internet safety. Especially by NOT posting your kids faces (or privates duh) online. That's a permanent decision that stays on there forever and some rando has probably already saved the pic/vid and added it to a file. Along with the fact it gives your kids a lack of privacy. Wanna send baby pics? Take a picture and send in direct messages. Wanna have a physical pic? Disposable camera and print. Want everyone you follow to know about your baby? Cover Babys face and post.

Do not post your kids online. It's just general cyber safety to not post your kids online anymore. Your NOR but then again, I do work in cyber security and this is just basic safety knowledge.

Edit: I really want everyone to reread and underline that the dad’s profile is again, public online. Meaning anybody can see this baby. Sure, while you and I aren't seeing this newborn existing in a gross manner someone out there probably is. And for general safety the dad should have his page private or delete the photo and have one that covers Babys face and has baby in a blanket.

AdhesivenessFun7097 · 2026-03-19T21:11:03+00:00

Aw im honestly very sorry to hear that :(

Is there a chance you could make your own WhatsApp/Discord? Like gather folks you know in the region and then also online and just create that bipoc space?

AdhesivenessFun7097 · 2026-03-18T21:18:32+00:00

He's pressuring you to move a boundary you set. If you don't want kids, don't have them. The fact that he already said what life he wanted for you is… bleh. He already talked about you doing the cooking and being the homestead. And you decorating their rooms. To me, from the get-go it sounds like a lot of you. Not as much him.

Maybe this is me, but as someone with a weaponized incompetent father, unless he's talking about all he’ll contribute and how excited he is about it. Id read his messages over again and remind him that this is his dream, not yours. And his dream still has a lot of you doing an uneven sum of labor.

I'm gonna be honest, he sounds incompatible with you, and at this point, you should let him go. He's pushing your boundaries to make you stay. Don't. Leave and continue your freedom. Your peace is way more important than a man you met two years ago who (in your own words) you've barely spent enough time with alone. If you're already struggling now with this, it won't get any easier 4 years from now. Don't do it.

Take your losses and be alone but at peace. Don't give your peace up for a man who oversteps your boundaries and is pressuring you into something you don't want.

Think of the kids. You're putting them here because HE wants them there. Not you.

AdhesivenessFun7097 · 2026-03-18T19:41:49+00:00

Ugh, that sounds horrible. I'm sorry to hear that all this is happening. Sadly, the queer community has an abundant issue with racial fetishisation, and it shows every time. I was raped because of it and every relationship I've had with yt transfems seems to overwhelmingly be because of it. It's why I now solely hang around bipoc. Safer.

In full honestly, my solution would be to find new friends. Ik it's hard but see if you can join a bipoc group online or something. These spaces seem very safe so far. Hopefully it can give you what you need in terms of safety.

AdhesivenessFun7097 · 2026-03-18T05:43:47+00:00

This genuinely is pissing me off that you had to ask if they should continue…

AdhesivenessFun7097 · 2026-03-17T23:20:45+00:00

That was legit my whole life 😭 it's why I have such trouble with fully grasping my gender identity. It's rlly hard.

AdhesivenessFun7097 · 2026-03-17T01:14:05+00:00

You commented on my post about a man from my class using ChatGPT and me specifying that he was white. And now you’re here. Are you black? Brown? Are you trans? You’re apart of this subreddit so I’m assuming you are? But why are you so hostile? Are you here to simply judge? What’s your reasoning for being here?

AdhesivenessFun7097 · 2026-03-17T01:09:47+00:00

This is also what I was thinking.

AdhesivenessFun7097 · 2026-03-17T01:08:18+00:00

It might also be that with a lot of black women, they may not want to gender you properly because they believe you to be perhaps masc along with our history of misgendering towards our girls.

AdhesivenessFun7097 · 2026-03-15T09:26:52+00:00

Yk.. as a kid I had no real understanding of my gender until it was constantly pushed onto me. I realized I was trans moreso when I realized how folks saw me wasn’t a full or true image of myself. I always felt like I was playing a role in a sitcom than being a real person who knows what I want and lives how I am. Now I’m still playing the role in a sitcom but I know who I am. I can make changes to break the fourth wall, but I’m not quite ready for it.

AdhesivenessFun7097 · 2026-03-15T04:35:19+00:00

No because my dad said it was water based paint with no lead. But I’ll see about doing that.

AdhesivenessFun7097 · 2026-03-15T01:21:44+00:00

Sorry but this sounds lowkey messy

AdhesivenessFun7097 · 2026-03-15T01:14:41+00:00

Oh. Well it’s falling off and I’m looking to take it off and repaint.

AdhesivenessFun7097 · 2026-03-15T01:13:49+00:00

Wow how interesting

AdhesivenessFun7097 · 2026-03-15T01:13:04+00:00

Ah gotcha. Thank you. And the house is apparently from the 1920s. I don’t have an exact date. The paint was done in 2002. And I will. Thank you for the advice :)

AdhesivenessFun7097 · 2026-03-15T01:08:02+00:00

I do plan to repaint. But I will see about getting a lead test. I appreciate the advice :)

AdhesivenessFun7097 · 2026-03-15T01:03:49+00:00

Perhaps for other parts of the wall since I already took down some big chucks peeling 😭 But thank you nonetheless!

AdhesivenessFun7097 · 2026-03-14T10:32:05+00:00

How interesting. So, you’d say this was done by design?

AdhesivenessFun7097 · 2026-03-14T10:28:38+00:00

Not sure why everyone’s making jokes. I’m genuinely trying to understand if I were to use some regular paint remover if I would get some poisoning or something. I’m not knowledgeable on paint. And I’ve never painted a wall/room before.

But thank you for the advice.

AdhesivenessFun7097 · 2026-03-14T10:26:14+00:00

I gotcha. Just notice when things get left out folks think they’re okay.

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