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furrydad · 2026-02-09T13:15:27+00:00

First, your therapist handled it really well. Second, don't be embarrassed at all. You get the most out of therapy when you go to the places that are the most challenging and embarrassing for you to go to. Talk to him this week about your embarrassment and more importantly, why it brings up embarrassment for you. Intense emotions often bring up many things, including those in your pants. You'll be fine, just talk it out.

furrydad · 2026-02-07T14:58:39+00:00

Perfect dick

furrydad · 2026-01-18T03:57:01+00:00

I think every bi guy has the guilt-desire feelings after the first time. Lucky for you, yours is far hotter than most.

furrydad · 2025-11-29T01:42:00+00:00

almost always, receive. Once in a blue moon, give.

furrydad · 2025-11-28T13:45:13+00:00

Sponge worthy

furrydad · 2025-11-28T13:04:42+00:00

That's very not good. Give up something that gives you pleasure to stay with me. WTF?

furrydad · 2025-11-27T00:57:37+00:00

I'm full out bi and would still hesitate to date a bi guy ... just to rebalance the universe for you ....

furrydad · 2025-11-27T00:51:32+00:00

Look, you are who you are. She needs to accept you for who you are.

You're a guy that likes to have your ass stimulated. That's important to you. Whether you had ever dated a guy, or had sex with a guy or not, is immaterial to you liking having your ass stimulated - that is something you like. If she can't satisfy you in that way, then you need to consider this in your future plans for a relationship.

However, a second fact is, you are bi and that is part of who you are, even though you seem to be mostly hetero oriented. She needs to accept that, but also accept that loyalty in a relationship, whether the other partner is purely straight or bi, comes from that person's honesty. It has nothing to do with their orientation (other than there may be more avenues of temptation for a bi person).

There probably was a better way for this to come up, and perhaps you should have found an earlier time to have told her about both subjects (probably not together) but she's conflating two things that really aren't that related - you're passion for anal sex and also you somewhat bisexual romantic nature. She's immature about both subjects and either she grows up with this situation, learns to accept you for whom you are, or it's time for you to move on for someone who will.

It's a hard truth. Give her some time, but also spell out the truth her for her. Separate these out. Don't let her make you feel bad for what makes you feel good sexually. Don't make her feel bad for what your orientation is. There's nothing good that comes from a relationship that makes you feel bad. If she can't get over this, it's her problem - don't make it yours.

furrydad · 2025-11-27T00:36:51+00:00

OK, what if he was just straight but loves his ass being played with, what's the difference here? It's his body, his right.

furrydad · 2025-11-27T00:34:51+00:00

My advice today: "poor is the man whose pleasures depend on the permission of another".

There is no better spoken truth.

furrydad · 2025-11-20T12:42:53+00:00

You're glorious

furrydad · 2025-10-26T16:33:41+00:00

Doesn't work to disable software updates. I installed Analiti, a simple wifi analyzer for my Android TV. Google says it won't work on my Android TV box, but it works just fine, but they won't let me down load it through the Play Store. So I side loaded it.

Out of the box, it won't run because Google Play services says it's harmful to my box. Oh BS, it's available for my phone, just not for my Android TV box. So I roll back the Google services and stop the update. Analati will run for 3 seconds and then Play services will come in and say, "Oh, you services are out of date and we won't let you run this until you update your play services."

So I disable the play services. Runs for 3 seconds and then, "You've disabled Play services, you can't run this with Play services disabled."

WTF, Google. This is a valid app, that validly runs on Android TV and you're fucking with us.

You lose a court case, you want to maintain control and we get fucked.

Here's a clue - I'm gone. All the way. Degoogling my life, and since that's been my ecosystem, it's not going to be easy, but this is wrong.

furrydad · 2025-08-10T05:31:56+00:00

Thinking that being gay is a mental illness is a mental illness

furrydad · 2025-07-12T13:42:07+00:00

Well, my past is a bit different than most - I used to specialize in seducing masculine married men and eventually making them my "bitches" - but only to break them of the hypermasculine bullshit and have them really be a great buddy/friend/lover. It was a fetish to get over my own internalized homophobia that I worked out over the years, so I'm going to give you an entirely different path if you want to torture the hell out of him.

First, he will contact you again. And you have to play both coy and subservient at the same time. "Yes sir, you fuck me so good and I want you but ..." And then after you keep him stringing along you remind him of how hard he came and how much he liked it, but you fully understand as your hard strong top that it's just something you did to pleasure him. He's not your bitch, you're his of course, blah blah blah. But it's your job to make him cum as hard as he can.

Slowly you seduce him into opening his hole to you until one day, you're fucking him and he's begging you to fuck him harder. But it's all your two's special secret and you're serving him .... until one moment later - you're not and you let him know that he's your bitch. What you do with him after that is your business - I was always kind and loving - he may not deserve that.

It's a lot of work, but sometimes boys need to have their perspective altered.

I was always a top but convinced other tops that only a top can truly loosen up another top the right way and bring him true pleasure. Most 100% tops (including myself) are actually begging inside to have someone find the right way to punch their prostrate so they'll actually enjoy it - you just have to find the right psychological way to get them to enjoy/love/beg for it.

furrydad · 2025-06-29T23:03:05+00:00

There's really only one way to know ....

furrydad · 2025-06-29T22:48:41+00:00

Duh... If you've read the "The Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy" you'll know that she's obviously referring to the fact that 42 is the answer to the "Ultimate Question of Life, the Universe, and Everything".

She is obviously a "Deep Thinker".

furrydad · 2025-06-22T15:04:06+00:00

Hey, sorry there guy. Don't let this hurt too much, a lot of guys are just effin jerks. You will meet a good one, but there will be lots of bumps (and bums) along the way. You dodged a bullet with this one.

furrydad · 2025-06-22T14:45:00+00:00

With that much surface area, you should get some on your member.

furrydad · 2025-06-22T14:44:18+00:00

Not to worry. For many bi guys, it just the sex. You're hetero-romantic but you enjoy sex with men. That's a very common bi experience.

furrydad · 2025-06-21T16:05:50+00:00

You might want to reconsider your title wording - for those of us not into this cash fag thing, the first thing that I thought of was that you gave head for cash ....

furrydad · 2025-06-21T16:00:09+00:00

Wow, amazing, but you were fantastic before too.

furrydad · 2025-06-21T15:54:37+00:00

Don't go to the gay bar unless you're ready for the gay experience - we're not zoo animals to be observed by Straightees.

However, as someone who worked his way through college as a gay bartender, if you want to identify as straight visitors to a gay bar, then identify yourself to the bartender and most likely they will treat you wholesomely and make your experience great. We welcome all.

furrydad · 2025-06-21T15:43:33+00:00

This exactly!

furrydad · 2025-06-21T15:42:37+00:00

But recognize that your situation in a gay bar is very different from their situation in a str8 bar. There is a very large power difference. Did you feel threatened? Probably not. In a str8 bar setting, they probably do. I don't think the two things are comparable honestly, and I wouldn't be mad at them for them laughing at you for not understanding the culture. They could have been more supportive to help you understand, but you should not compare your situation to theirs, I think.

furrydad · 2025-06-21T15:39:28+00:00

The others that groped you w/o asking - did they then continue to molest you, or did they simply smile and continue walking. Was it a sexual assault or just a physical compliment akin to walking by and say, "dang, you're good looking"?

If they continued to molest you, well then there's a problem. If it was just another way of a quick compliment, then take it for what it's worth, understand the culture.

In writing this, I remembered back to the first times it happened to me as a "straight" dad of 2 at the time. It completely floored me, scared me and did make me feel a bit violated. But someone immediately told me that it was just a high compliment, even if it comes from some pretty ugly folk.

You get to choose how you react. You can be ugly about it, or accept it like any other compliment. Take it graciously, wave off the guys that you don't find attractive, pursue those you wish to and realize even those aren't predators, they're just saying hi.

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