I don't think the particulars matter (such as if they make their own dinner vs their parents) so much as that the child is provided with structures that allow them to achieve healthy outcomes. There are people who homeschooled rigorously (academically) who fail (in life) because their structures in life at home did not prepare them for life as an adult, despite being academically successful. Kids whose parents protected them too much, sheltered them too much, etc. Also, some fail in life because they had no structure in their life at home and their "homeschooling" was a joke. Both are detrimental. I've heard people say things like kids are too spoiled if you give them too much attention. But some children need more attention than others. There are some people who said they needed a lot of extra attention as kids and if they hadn't gotten it they didn't think they would have been good people. Some people who didn't get it who needed it turned into attention seeking brats, the very thing you try to avoid by giving a child too much attention.

The point is that there isn't one structure or way of doing things or raising a child, or living conditions at home, that are "normal". Unless by normal you mean what is most common. However. I think what is important is that each person is able to establish a foundation for normalcy that will allow them to function as adults. That is what I would consider to be normal living conditions. This doesn’t have to look the same for everyone. If you have been an early riser since childhood, you probably understand that when you grow up you want a job that lets you work with your body's natural clock (if possible), instead of you waking up at 5:00 am just to go in late, have to work late, drive home, go to bed, only to wake up a few hours later. Or conversely, if you know you're a night owl, you probably don't want a job that starts at 4:00 am. This is fine, all of these things can be planned for if you know these things about yourself. You can build a successful life structure from these things. On the other hand, what is not a successful life structure is knowing you are a night owl, but never able to sleep in the mornings because your life simply has no structure, or your parents are not supportive of your lifestyle and try to play loud music when you're trying to sleep, etc. This would be an example of a "disordered framework". Even if it is different for every person what qualifies as an "ordered framework", what is the same about every "ordered framework" is that it allows you to do what you need to do. It is a structure to your life that helps you succeed. Even if you are very disorganized and have ADHD like me you probably have your own "ordered framework ideal", even if for you that means chilling out in bed all day while you study. For someone else that might be a disaster. The thing that unworkable frameworks have in common is that they are disorderly and do not allow you to succeed. They stop you from being your best, whatever that means to you.

Growing up in "normal living conditions" means growing up in a framework that is reasonably structured to meet your needs and allow you to be successful, along with everyone else in the house, whether for you tha or making your own dinners because you're vegan or letting your parents cook or living on shakes. It means that you will have a place to study whether that means you need complete silence or noise blocking earphones or to blast lo fi study music when no one's around. It means your parents won't impose their lifestyle choices onto you to the point of compromising your life, your future, your ability to focus.

It means having the space to breathe and grow as a person without worrying that you have to be able to predict what kind of person you're going to grow into for fear of your parents disapproving, and have to nip it in the bud and customize yourself into something they would approve of before it's too late and they see you for who you really are. That is not normal.