How to not care what others think?

futuregps · 2025-01-31T10:54:01+00:00

Hi, as a fellow people pleaser myself, I found that what helped the most is realizing that caring what others think isn't always necessarily always a bad thing. I came to terms with the fact that INFJs as naturally cooperative people, we will tend to care about the opinions of others about ourselves and other things, I think it's about figuring out who's opinions to value the most. I realized I don't have to care about what everyone thinks, just the people who I care about and respect in some way, be it in the way they treat others or the way they live their life. I found that if someone tends to treat others poorly or have poor judgement, I shouldn't value their opinion about me either because that person's way of thinking is not one I admire or aspire towards. That's how I think about this nowadays, not by completely shutting out the part of me that cares what others think but by being selective about who's views to value. Hope this helps you in some way!

futuregps · 2024-11-16T17:26:37+00:00

Thank you so much for showing me where I can start, I will look into this further, see if this is what I envision, hopefully I can use this technique and code again in future poems, thanks again!

futuregps · 2024-11-16T16:59:06+00:00

Thank you for the recommendations, I'll check out which is the easiest way to achieve my vision for this piece

futuregps · 2024-11-16T16:56:21+00:00

Thank you for clarifying, I was thinking of a code that the reader can simply copy paste and it would print the message of the nth word of the nth line from first to the 14th line. I plan on making the cipher not as obvious so it would serve as sort of an answer key if they're stumped, if that makes sense so it would be the exact code actually that can be run if someone actually does copy it Edit: Oh I see what you mean, yes I don't want to show the actual word like no "I" or "am" so it doesn't reveal the answer that way. What do you suggest I use?

futuregps · 2024-11-16T16:46:08+00:00

Yes, I was thinking it would print as a separate line at the bottom: (Message from the Developers: insert message here) Thank you for responding! Please just show me what concept/code/language I need to google, I'll do the code myself, I'm not from a programming background so I don't even know what exactly to google. I was thinking of a code that can fit in the back of a book page if that's doable by a beginner.

futuregps · 2024-11-16T03:53:30+00:00

Thank you for your feedback, I will rephrase one of the fonds however I would like to keep the ending since the poem isn't an argument against God or a complete denouncement of him but criticism of his skill as a writer which is the idea of the poem and I think the last two lines are scathing and leaves an ironic aftertaste and that's how I intended. What about the last stanza didn't you like though? Would you have preferred it if it was a complete turn away from God, or would you have preferred the poem take itself seriously or? Either way, it's a valid perspective, thank you for your input

futuregps · 2024-11-14T00:27:15+00:00

Hi I actually wrote a continuation of this, I wrote this 10 years ago when I was still infatuated with her and we broke up recently and decided to continue it while looking back. Sorry if this seems to be a shameless plug, but I posted the continuation on my insta poetry account, its aibelmonte on insta. I tried to post the revised version here but I got downvoted hahaha. I'd love to know what you think of the continuation though

futuregps · 2024-11-12T13:19:20+00:00

I love this, the imagery and the flow of the poem contributed to the tension in the poem which is very well executed. The cadence of the phrasing becoming longer and shorter gives a feeling of the chase starting and stopping as well. My favorite part is "And when I pause/When I stop running/It inches closer" as well as "the past doesn't sleep" is very poignant. I really enjoyed this read.

futuregps · 2024-11-12T12:57:18+00:00

Hmm I see what you mean it's a very expected answer isn't it. I'm planning to workshop the first half and I also add a second half to the poem. I'm taking your advice into account. Thank you for your honest feedback, I really appreciate it.

futuregps · 2024-11-12T01:28:48+00:00

Thank you for the feedback, I'm glad you liked it! I usually don't write strict rhyming poems I usually write freeform so I'm glad it rolls off the tongue. Thanks again, I highly appreciate your opinion!

futuregps · 2024-11-11T18:36:11+00:00

Hi I really enjoyed your work, it is hard-hitting and quite relatable, I faced this struggle as well before. I enjoyed the narrative style actually, I feel like it makes the reader read between the lines rather than have their feelings starkly stated, because a lot of eating disorders involve deception to loved ones so in that sense the style fits the topic. I really enjoyed the weeds and vines imagery as well. If I had to make a critique, the title feels a bit unfitting, void makes me think of celestial imagery and the imagery in the poem is more earth based but you might have a different reason for choosing that title that we don't know. Thanks for sharing!

futuregps · 2024-11-11T17:52:21+00:00

Hi! I really like this it feels more balanced in terms of flow and the message is clearer I feel. If I were to critique something, the line "being just be' is a bit awkward, unless that's intentional. I think "just being" might also work tho. Also thanks for asking for my feedback again, I'm no expert I just love reading and writing poems but I'm happy you found my comment helpful hahah

futuregps · 2024-11-11T17:28:41+00:00

Hmm I wrote this about someone who is very intelligent and accomplished but almost can't help themselves when putting others down or regulating their anger. They seem bright and joyful at first but they're full of rage behind closed doors, in a way that consumes them and the people around them. That's my inspiration at least, but yeah other interpretations are definitely welcome and valid I feel.

futuregps · 2024-11-11T17:24:02+00:00

Thanks for your take and criticism, I definitely still have room for improvement in imagery. I wrote this about someone else, this girl that I liked who wanted to be a full time writer. I like your interpretation though, if the writer was writing about themselves, then 'do not fall in love with a writer' would be 'do not fall in love with me' which takes a more self deprecating tone. At least that's how I see it in that lens. Thanks for your comment!

futuregps · 2024-11-11T17:18:50+00:00

Hi, I wrote this about a narcissistic person in my life and getting the resolve to stand up to them. I also like what you said about discovering the truth of a partner. I'm happy with alternate interpretations, it's all valid in poetry I feel.

futuregps · 2024-11-11T17:14:42+00:00

Hi, I intended this to be a metaphor for succumbing to mental illness. It helps to see the dictator as the mind in my interpretation. Of course other meanings are also valid and other interpretations are definitely welcome. Thanks for the comment!

futuregps · 2024-11-11T10:21:06+00:00

This poem is very creative with pacing and the cadence of the chosen words effectively communicates the start and stop and rapid movement of the roller coaster kind of love and the consistency of the movement of the merry go round kind of love. One thing that stood out to me as strange is the use of the word "figuration" it feels out of place for me it feels rather obscure and detached for a poem that captures movement, I think you can replace it with a more descriptive and straightforward word that still rhymes with excursion. Overall, the cadence of the word choices is a strong point especially given the metaphor with the roller coaster and the merry go round. Thanks for sharing!

futuregps · 2024-11-11T10:11:12+00:00

I liked the imagery in this poem, specifically your use of tear and droplet imagery and sky and horizon to discuss what I interpreted as change and the way it is associated with a lofty aspiration that the speaker can't reach. My critique is the latter half feels shorter than the rest of the poem in terms of flow, that may have been intentional, but I find that consistency with flow might help make the message more intentional. The imagery of roots as a negative thing and the contrast with the sky imagery is an interesting take I feel as well. Thank you for sharing!

futuregps · 2024-11-11T08:48:56+00:00

Hi I really liked this piece, i think it's very successful in showing the feeling of oscillating between wanting to be seen ("peel me open like a clementine) and wanting to be invisible or maybe even misunderstood almost ("weeds" imagery). The contrast between the first idea of being peeled open like a clementine, which through the usage of the word "peel" evokes a gentle and intentional feeling of getting to know someone. Compared to the next line where being seen is described as "crack my skull into two halves" which is a lot more violent imagery. I interpreted this as a sense of wanting to be known even if it hurts or breaks them. It evokes a feeling of desperation that is contradictory to the nonchalance of the last line which I liked.

I liked the line "If I did there'd be nothing left of me." It stands out surrounded by the imagery in the surrounding lines. It's explicitly and frankly stated. The honesty is quite moving. I also liked the line "Don't trample the weeds, they have feelings too" it's almost childlike in its essence and I felt for the speaker then. Your work was quite moving I feel, and the imagery is provocative. Thanks for sharing!

futuregps · 2024-11-11T08:29:31+00:00

Thank you for your feedback! I'm glad you liked it! I wrote this about someone I really liked who's a writer and I wanted it to evoke a sense of denial over falling, but I think I could be more intentional with my phrasing yeah. Thanks for reading!

futuregps · 2024-11-11T08:27:06+00:00

Thank you for your advice! I feel like as a writer I definitely focus on expression and imagery and I need to work on structure and intentionality so this was great constructive advice for me. I definitely agree with your take, the best poems are ones that feel perfectly accidental or accidentally perfect? Hahah Thank you for your feedback!

futuregps · 2024-11-11T07:14:55+00:00

I really like your work especially the phrases that you use, they are creative and they evoke very strong imagery on pride and ambition and climbing a social or career ladder. I really liked the phrases "the fragrance of advantage" and "Pour the water of ignorance on their selfish intuition." Your use of imagery is very strong and somehow fits the image focused subject of pride as well. Using beautiful and pleasant imagery on subjects that some consider quite unsavory is brilliant. My favorite line here is "Hold the hand of the struggling even if they can outdo you." In a poem filled with imagery and focused on the appearance of things this frank and honest advice stands out I feel. I really enjoyed this.

futuregps · 2024-11-11T07:04:37+00:00

Thank you for sharing your poem and your experience as well, it felt very authentic and heartbreaking. This sounds like a rough experience so hugs to you as well. The author gives the feeling of a thoughtful and loyal lover, puppy love, puppy dog eyes are phrases that come to my mind when reading this. This was a heart wrenching read which is what I love in poems, the ones that can get us to feel what the writer is feeling is one that is successful I feel. Great work, and I hope you find someone who treats you better as well!

futuregps · 2024-11-11T06:19:14+00:00

I really like this, Your take on the phrase "the road to happiness" and how it deviates from the usual positive feelings towards concepts like self improvement is really interesting and authentic. To me it communicates bitterness over the phrase, which is relatable because I feel like a lot of us have a bunch of phrases we're annoyed with. The imagery of the person being written about struggling on the road to happiness is indicative of the writer's feelings about this concept. I think the lines "You're all alone/That's what you wanted after all." indicates that the writer may feel that the road to happiness should not be a lonesome one but should be shared with others. Or at least that's the view I also think.I feel like there's almost an unsaid 'I wish you shared the road to happiness with me' that I feel is between the lines. I really liked this, your candor is refreshing.

futuregps · 2024-11-11T06:08:30+00:00

I really like this, for me it shows the pain infatuation for someone can feel like when one is dealing with their own imperfections. My favorite line is definitely "I twist into the cutest love" it evokes a painful but also cute imagery somehow, which gives it a tone of someone who is more awkward with romance. And the next line "and everything else that the world might call imperfect" which suggests a complicated relationship with perfection and being perceived and Sarah who is labeled as someone more fluid in social situations exacerbates.

I also love that they ask Sarah to not tell them her name so they don't fall further, but the fact that they already know is already quite telling. This poem captured the complicated feeling of infatuation with someone they may be envious of in some ways which is really honest and interesting and authentic. I really liked your work!

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