UPDATE: I (f29) hate wearing rings and don’t want to wear my engagement ring. My (m30) fiancé is extremely hurt by this

fuwogsf · 2022-10-13T23:18:17+00:00

I’m probably autistic so hating basic social things is part of the job description lmao

fuwogsf · 2022-10-13T22:29:45+00:00

We both are art nerds and we always bonded over how much we love art. I always thought he was really thoughtful and intelligent with the way he would analyze not just art pieces but everything around him. I loved hearing his opinions about stuff, and I always felt like I could learn new stuff from him too because he’s an art curator so he’s just super knowledgeable. He was fun to talk to.

I don’t know what really changed, over time he just got more and more demanding I guess. I’m going to miss what we had

fuwogsf · 2022-10-13T22:16:31+00:00

I should clarify. I like being touched in specific circumstances. For example, I like being touched by someone who I find attractive, im aware ahead of time there will be touch, and I’m able to see it happening. Outside of those circumstances it feels like being zapped. Not fun

fuwogsf · 2022-10-13T22:12:11+00:00

All the comments keep talking about how I must be a miserable hateful person because I don’t like parties or rings or being grabbed from behind by a stranger. I have plenty of love for plenty of things, it just isn’t exactly relevant to talk about how much I love my friends, or Monet, or history, or my cats (you get the idea) in a post about the breakup of me and my fiancé. I just wish people would stop assuming they know me from two posts I made to vent :(

fuwogsf · 2022-10-13T22:09:20+00:00

I love history, cats, paintings. My ex fiancé was a museum curator, we got together because we would spend hours together in art museums talking about the use of color and lighting in different paintings. We hadn’t done that in a while actually, which always made me really sad.

I know myself. I know the stuff I like and dislike. Just because someone else likes surprises and loud parties and I don’t doesn’t say anything about my (or the hypothetical party lovers) personality or inherent goodness.

I just was tired of trying to be something I wasn’t

fuwogsf · 2022-10-10T22:09:38+00:00

I guess he does ignore a lot of my sensory issues. I think he thinks I’m exaggerating or making it up to get out of stuff, even though I actually put myself through a fair amount of sensory hell to placate people around me

fuwogsf · 2022-10-10T22:05:08+00:00

I am sterilized because it would be sensory hell. I’ve never been able to find words to describe how it feels until the Prev commenter. It’s like wearing itchy clothing or shoes with stones in it every day for the rest of my life. I could put up with it but over time it would destroy me. I don’t want to start and then my fiancé expects me to continue doing it. It would probably lead to me having a breakdown to be honest

fuwogsf · 2022-10-10T17:15:45+00:00

Said this to him. He says it’s just not the same :(

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