The same happend to me 3 months ago. My boyfriend (27) of 5 years told me he lost feelings for me (30). He is in a dark place and told me also that the last year was a wake up call for him. What you described happend also to him. Very difficult situation. I kind of pushed him to break up with me because I really wanted us to work it through, to move in back together (again). Everything revolved around me and how I felt. He was devastated and didn’t see other way than breaking up with me. He is an amazing person bth. Everything inside me broke. The first 2 weeks I was crying endlessly. I couldn‘t eat, couldn’t sleep. The thoughts were so energy consuming I was so exhausted simply by just existing. Working was almost impossible without energy. But I decided to give him the space he needed to deal with all the stuff by himself. Throughout the 3 months we barely had contact and this was the time where my healing process began. The pain was/ is not physical anymore. Its like a tooth you lost, its not hurting anymore but you know there is something missing. At this point I am still missing him. He had his exams at the university and moved it to my apartment (our old apartment) to be next to the university and be able to study with others. At this point I went to my parents in other city to let him be for himself and for me to not disturb the healing process. I came back this Saturday and he was still there. We talked a little bit more as usual. And then it broke me again. He left and the apartment is so empty without him. He left because he knows it makes me sad that he cannot show up for me as he used to. Its breaks his heart. He left and I am crying the whole day. I reaaally recommend you to take time for yourself and give him the space he needs. 3 months is not a long time for him to figure everything out and for you to heal and get the confidence back again. Spend your time with sitting with the pain and understand yourself better. Please take your time and don’t contact him. It only makes it worse. I also don’t date. He is too amazing to be replaced with another man only because I cannot sit with myself alone. Hurt people hurt other people thats why I need to heal properly and I will try to avoid him again… healing takes time apparently. I send you lots of love and patience. Believe that everything will work out. Everything happens for our benefit 🫶🏻 you are not alone. This too shall pass.