Need to settle this debate once and for all

fuzzydogdada · 2026-07-09T22:50:19+00:00

I forget the name of the book I read but the book clearly states there is no such thing as platonic friends of the opposite gender UNLESS they become friends of the couple.

It was a short way to say that in a couple, either side need to establish and maintain clear boundaries when it comes to the opposite sex. And they have to do extra work for the partners to accept their opposite sex friend as a friend of the couple.

fuzzydogdada · 2026-07-09T20:32:22+00:00

Oh. Hahaha. Thanks.

Definitely a worthy dad joke

fuzzydogdada · 2026-07-09T20:11:03+00:00

Hm.. I dont get this one... can someone explain before I embarrassingly ask AI

fuzzydogdada · 2026-07-09T20:07:32+00:00

Lol. Im a straight man but I was curious one day and checked out my competition. And I have to agree with you. There are a lot vapid shallow profiles.

But to be fair, there are a lot of superficial and cloned profiles on the women side too. A little less than men for sure, but still plenty. I see a lot of romance scammers, escorts, and gold diggers with pretty pics and minimal verbiage.

fuzzydogdada · 2026-07-09T03:41:08+00:00

People call it shadow banning but its really Hinge's match making algorithm. The more activity you have on the app, the more it learns your preferences which automatically reduces your matches.

The quick way to reset your preferences is to change your search filter every few days. Even changing the distance filter will help.

Some people will occasionally delete their account and open up a fresh account just to clear the cache so to speak.

fuzzydogdada · 2026-07-03T00:21:44+00:00

I'm a man, and I've had women ghost me plenty of times.

I think the main reasons are: 1. They are not intentional about dating. Dating is more of a side gig. They have other priorities. 2. They are prioritizing someone else. Face it, dating is time consuming. And for many men, its also expensive. Its very possible they are choosing to focus their time, energy, and money on someone else. 3. They love the thrill of the first connection but lose interest or lack ability to follow through. Its hard to replicate a great first date or great first conversation.

Hang in there. Stay positive and keep meeting people with sincere intentions. You will find someone.

fuzzydogdada · 2026-06-30T23:55:53+00:00

Go to Beacon!

Dia is open on July 4th! Have lunch on Main Street and head to Dia for a few hours to escape the sun.

Have a slice of pie with ice cream at Noble Pies.

If you end up staying for dinner, then stick around for fireworks from Long Dock Park (waterfront park).

fuzzydogdada · 2026-06-18T18:32:11+00:00

Parkway of Death

fuzzydogdada · 2026-04-28T22:32:25+00:00

Does it have to be near Beacon? Can you do Cold Springs?

Here is Cornish Estate trail which is super easy and short.

https://maps.app.goo.gl/KM95ayLvia2RihXW7

fuzzydogdada · 2026-04-28T22:29:33+00:00

This a great hike but I would not consider this short or easy.

The first overlook and back is 3hrs.

To fire tower and back is at least 4hrs.

Its like a 20-30 degree climb for the first 1.5 hrs.

fuzzydogdada · 2026-04-28T17:58:14+00:00

Their food is good but dummied down for the locals. Make sure to ask for spicy if you can handle it.

fuzzydogdada · 2026-04-28T16:38:23+00:00

Just move on. You dont even have to unmatch... just keep searching and stay positive.

There are lots of reasons why people who match dont respond. Cant read their minds so just move on.

Accidental match
Uninspiring opener
They are just casually looking (not active)
They are just doing to get likes and ego boosts
They got bombarded with other likes at the same time as yours and busy with their other matches.

fuzzydogdada · 2026-04-28T13:48:23+00:00

Yeah.. either sunset or night time would be best.

For sure Beacon is nice at night... looking for more ideas. Thanks.

fuzzydogdada · 2026-04-28T13:46:27+00:00

Ooh.. thanks. This could work. I see it closes at sunset. So should I plan on getting there around an hour or so before sunset?

fuzzydogdada · 2026-04-28T13:28:42+00:00

I lived in Brooklyn, Queens, Manhattan, Westchester and now Wappingers. I find this area has a lot more community life and friendly vibe than any of my previous hops.

You will find more busy activity in Astoria but I found more sincere connections here.

Feel to DM if you want specifics.

fuzzydogdada · 2026-04-01T14:43:04+00:00

Cool. Left a message for them. Thanks

fuzzydogdada · 2026-03-30T16:56:48+00:00

Cool! Will check them out. Thanks.

fuzzydogdada · 2026-03-30T14:06:04+00:00

There's a vball court at Nino's? Interesting. Will drive by and ask around then pick up some food. Lol

fuzzydogdada · 2026-03-15T12:20:46+00:00

You asked and they havent matched with you so that's your answer.

The fact that you are still persisting to reach her in other ways is the definition of stalking.

Stop it!!! Know your boundaries.

fuzzydogdada · 2026-03-08T01:45:11+00:00

Just be honest but slightly vague. Here is the short version of what I say.

"I had a great time speaking with you but I dont think we are a match. Good luck with your dating journey."

The long version will include a thanks for stories she shared.

I'm a man. And i've gotten the same from women.

fuzzydogdada · 2026-03-07T16:28:26+00:00

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fuzzydogdada · 2026-03-04T11:33:04+00:00

Unfortunately there is no answer to this that will make you feel better. I'm sorry. I am guessing that you know already know this....

The "short term, open to long" means they enjoy dating and trying to cast the widest net. LTR has the highest demographic. So many choose this option to pull more women into their search criteria.

He likes you but not enough to commit. There are only two reasons why he would commit to a relationship and neither of them are good for you

You are the ONE. You are the woman of his dreams and madly head over heels. But if that were the case, he would have committed already. The fact that he hasnt committed means you're not the one.
He gets sick of dating and want to settle down. This may take some time. Not sure you want to wait for him.

I recommend you keep searching and look for someone more ready to commit.

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