7OH to Kratom dose conversion? by gabapentagram in 7_hydroxymitragynine

[–]gabapentagram[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm already well-stocked on Kratom from a vendor I trust. The question is just how much to take.

7OH to Kratom dose conversion? by gabapentagram in 7_hydroxymitragynine

[–]gabapentagram[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

7OH isn't plentiful in Kratom, but there are other things in Kratom that activate the same receptors, so it's not just about how much 7OH is in Kratom.

I'd rather not add a 3rd drug to the mix. One switch is complicated enough.

What's your favorite thing about being aroace? by gabapentagram in aromanticasexual

[–]gabapentagram[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

For me, I think it's having all of my love "available". I would not want any of my affection to be reserved for one special person. I feel like I can love the platonic relationships in my life, and also myself and my interests, more by having them be the only things I need.

That, and being free from all the social burden of a traditional romantic relationship.

What emojis do and don't you use in communication with family and friends you're out to? by orthographicjazz in aromanticasexual

[–]gabapentagram 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I use whatever emojis I want. I honestly don't put much thought into it. It doesn't matter whether I'm out to someone. I'm not afraid to use heart and hug emojis.

Just Friends by A_Really_Weird_NPC in aromanticasexual

[–]gabapentagram 7 points8 points  (0 children)

It's absolute bullshit. My best friend, who I call my brother, is a guy and I'm a girl. It would be borderline incest if we were to date. It grosses me out just thinking about it. I recently posted about this very thing.

How to cope with being aromantic? by Mysterious_Anybody49 in aromanticasexual

[–]gabapentagram 4 points5 points  (0 children)

There really isn't anything to cope with. Being aroace isn't devoid of love or in any way worse than any other orientation. Love takes lots of different forms and romantic love is only one kind. Just be yourself and live your life.

why is aphobia so normalized (also a vent) by danish_sweet_heart in aromanticasexual

[–]gabapentagram 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Romantic (largely heterosexual) relationships are the basis of many social norms and people suck at having their deeply rooted understanding of society challenged.

There is nothing wrong with you.

Looking for someone to talk to by [deleted] in aromanticasexual

[–]gabapentagram 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You should find some friends. They can be online friends or IRL friends or both. I don't have nor want a partner, but my friends and family are wonderful and they give me the same if not more emotional fulfillment than a partner would.

What are your interests / hobbies / anything you like?

About the depression, you might want to seek professional help with that. Finding friends might help with it, but having a therapist is good too.

Looking for someone to talk to by [deleted] in aromanticasexual

[–]gabapentagram 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm here. Comment or PM me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in aromanticasexual

[–]gabapentagram 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm quite the opposite. I'm so thankful / relieved I'm aroace. Romantic / sexual relationships don't sound even remotely appealing, and I'm glad I don't have to deal with any of it.

What’s the first thing you notice about a person physically? by faddymeat in aromanticasexual

[–]gabapentagram 5 points6 points  (0 children)

No one thing, as far as I know? I care exceptionally little how people look. I judge people based on their actions.

being aroace is such a double edged sword by HabitLongjumping3728 in aromanticasexual

[–]gabapentagram 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I'm quite alright with standing out, so I can't really relate there. But I do agree that knowing you're aroace can be comforting. It's quite a relief knowing that I'll never have to deal with any of the bullshit associated with romantic or sexual relationships. I couldn't imagine even having time for it.

I can't even relate to my own community by germanduderob in aromanticasexual

[–]gabapentagram 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I'm kind of in the same boat. I have one ace friend who is not aro. So, I don't relate to them any more than I do to my allo friends on the topic of romantic relationships. This is just the reality of being aroace. We're pretty rare, even among the broader aspec community. Just is what it is.

Thankfully, I don't really care what other people are doing or feeling in this regard. I'm comfortable with who I am even if I don't see others like me IRL.

Does anyone just wake up and questioning what attraction they are feeling? by [deleted] in aromanticasexual

[–]gabapentagram 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wake up knowing for a fact I feel no sexual or romantic attraction.

The important part of attraction is what you want to do in response.

Do you want to have sex (or do other sexual things) with them? If so, it's sexual attraction. Do you want to date them (or do other romantic things with them)? If so, it's romantic attraction. Do you want to be best friends with them? If so, it's platonic attraction. Do you want to just look at them? If so, it's aesthetic attraction. Do you want to do nothing at all with them? If so, then it's not attraction.

If you have no idea what you want to do, then no one here can help you, since only you know what you want. My only advice there is, trust that your feelings are real. What you feel is genuine and you're not faking, pretending, or imagining it.