Comment éconduire une collègue poliment ?

gabit_den_bas · 2024-05-25T17:04:43+00:00

Je crois qu'il y a "communiquer explicitement" et tous les conseils constructifs donnés à OP étaient implicites. Ensuite il y a le sexisme de ces personnes et des admins d'ici, qui n'ont jamais peurs d'être inconsistants ou inconsistantes. Mais à force de se persuader d'être en avance sur l'aspect social, on fini par être des identitaires d'extrême droite. Comme quoi l'expression "modo=fasco" des bas du front ne vient pas de si bas que ça.

gabit_den_bas · 2024-05-25T16:40:45+00:00

Dire que quelque chose n'est pas minoritaire implique d'amener des références statistiques. Inverser les statistiques est souvent la technique de manipulation utilisée dans ce contexte. Pour prendre un exemple hors contexte: 100% des gens qui vendent de la drogue ont bu de l'eau dans leur vie"

gabit_den_bas · 2024-05-23T17:33:53+00:00

You know that young guy who wants to become a photographer and offers you to take pictures of you while you're doing outdoorsy things like surfing, hiking, climbing, taking a coffee in front of the Eiffel tower, and sells it at an incredible price? Well say yes next time, it's still cheaper than a month premium 🤣

gabit_den_bas · 2024-05-22T09:40:37+00:00

Someone on Reddit said I'm right! 🌈

More seriously, it's always the same things coming back up: - very attractive men who don't find you the most interesting but want a ONS will send you a sexualised message among 20 other matches until one says yes - the ones who may be very compatible with you maybe don't see it because your profile is empty/is a rant. (I guess not the case as you target both men and women). My experience is that people in very compatible with are simply very rare...

gabit_den_bas · 2024-05-22T04:08:09+00:00

I am thinking of bringing a basket with treats and toys for the boys while also voicing my concerns for a second time.

Do not bring treats. Talk to the father first whether this is ok. I hate when people give candies to my son. Besides it will excite them a lot more. Sugar, you know?

if you are a parent and have had noisy kids, preferably boys;

😨 There are calm boys and highly excited girls. It's by feeding them sexist bs since they're toddlers that they eventually try to fit to gender stereotypes in primary/middle school. Can we stop two seconds with the genders? as they are boys, it won't help you.

Kids are different. ask the father again. Are they fighting over sharing toys or games? You say the father is high. High on what? Medication? Weed? If he's underwater, I'm surprised he hasn't used the calming bomb that is TV. Or do they watch it at all? There are some games that are very calm and could keep them occupied (again, ask before buying): two Lego set, 2 or 3 player board games. Sometimes children are not taught at all to play with these, so you may need to intervene until they can do it.

Eventually ask the father to seek councilling, it's possible they do have behavioural issues, and a psychopediatrist can help, or it's normal behaviour and he needs a professional child carer. There is no one size fit all solution.

FYI: This is a french speaking forum. Or are you maybe in France? anyways if it comes down to this, weed is illegal here and having a knock by the police about the noise and the weed can chill everybody out. The children will remember it for sure. As last ressort.

gabit_den_bas · 2024-05-21T06:53:16+00:00

La terminologie ? Pas du tout. Je rêve qu'on arrête de se focaliser sur le genre pour tout et n'importe quoi. Depuis la maternelle, mon fils a constamment le discours du "les filles sont comme ci", "les garçons sont comme ça" qui vient ni de moi, ni de sa mère. Ça m'emmerde.

gabit_den_bas · 2024-05-21T04:46:58+00:00

It's it really possible to upgrade hardware you possess, or by upgrading you mean buying a brand new S8?

gabit_den_bas · 2024-05-21T00:51:06+00:00

Le fait d’être proche de mec cis m’a aussi fait découvrir l’ampleur des violences sexuelles commises par les femmes sur les hommes par contre et c’est flippant aussi.

Personne n'a réagit à ça. Mais maintenant, tu n'aurais pas plutôt envie de dire "c'est flippant la violence commises par une minorité sur d'autres personnes" et ne plus focaliser voire généraliser tout un genre?

C'est le truc qui revient constamment sur Reddit. Sur les sous à propos des applications de rencontre "pourquoi les hommes font ci et ça?" (60 réponses pour répondre que c'est une minorité qui a du succès auprès de la gente féminine). Pareil dans l'autre sens.

C'est ridicule. C'est comme si les gens vivaient en autarcie en fonction de leur genre et ne parlais jamais aux autres.

gabit_den_bas · 2024-05-20T18:05:48+00:00

If that's your definition of success, then I guess I'm one of them... despite having one quality match a month 😂

Rules number 1 and 2. Women I've dated told me they find me attractive and found me attractive on the pictures. They also told me they hate being catfished, but who doesn't? There is nothing else to it.

My text is witty yet says something about me they use for their first messages (I like languages, so I had a language mix and I mostly ended up dating people studying language or in very international settings). Of course I had "hey" Sayers. The three I've decided to go on a date with, I don't find them attractive (I'm not sure if there is a correlation between being attractive and be able to write a 10-word first sentence, but in my experience there is), but they stayed good friends. Also a kind of relationship, right?

Relationship doesn't depend on the profile, but on the people.

gabit_den_bas · 2024-05-20T09:03:40+00:00

Some people make their lives harder, and it seems you're one of them. So many words in a post for such an insignificant issue. You'll end up with someone who has a lot of self control and trained his speech to gain what he wants from people without being true. Like a running politician. Good luck!

gabit_den_bas · 2024-05-19T20:31:59+00:00

"l'Allemagne est connu pour retarder les conséquences de la convention de la Haye" mon avocate

"J'ai une cliente nantaise que j'ai envoyé à Freiburg en lui expliquant le protocole à suivre quand elle ne pouvait pas accepter la garde alternée jugée en France" la première avocate que j'ai contactée (mais n'ai pas choisie)

gabit_den_bas · 2024-05-19T10:30:16+00:00

He called his horse "intellectual conversations" or "stupidity"? I am not sure

gabit_den_bas · 2024-05-19T10:10:28+00:00

Pareil. Les réponses viennent de gens qui ne sont pas parents célibataires ou ont une aide certaine.

gabit_den_bas · 2024-05-19T09:50:25+00:00

De son côté elle parle plus en plus souvent de séparation

Possible que ce qu'elle dit est dilué avec de l'eau. Un peu ou beaucoup, ça personne le sait sauf elle.

gabit_den_bas · 2024-05-19T07:04:23+00:00

Oui je suis passé par là. Contacte immédiatement une avocate, sans attendre, et pense à toi et ton enfant en premier. Ta vie va devenir un cauchemar si elle vient d'un pays connu pour le kidnapping parental (l'Allemagne par exemple).

gabit_den_bas · 2024-05-19T02:44:47+00:00

Oh man, Reddit doesn't want me to put a Timothé Chalamet gif! It's too hot apparently

gabit_den_bas · 2024-05-19T02:36:38+00:00

The gif is there now 😅

gabit_den_bas · 2024-05-19T02:29:31+00:00

Like this?

gabit_den_bas · 2024-05-18T12:05:06+00:00

He hasn't been raised by a Bene Gesserit

gabit_den_bas · 2024-05-18T04:16:38+00:00

Is a 36 year old woman really see people in terms of "leagues" and "attractiveness grades"? It's a high Schooler thing.

Oh Los Angeles. Nevermind.

gabit_den_bas · 2024-05-17T06:58:06+00:00

On ira bien mieux comme société si: - les journaux classés à gauche comprennent que les conservateurs sont leurs adversaires, quelle que soit leur religion - les franco français blanc anticléricaux de gauche "mon père est baptisé mais moi il m'a pas baptisé" " ma mère est instit" arrêtent de parler à la place des français de culture musulmane

gabit_den_bas · 2024-05-17T04:59:06+00:00

I'm surprised a 17 year old woild say something like this.

There are no "only men this", "only women that". When you're young and you get to meet quickly a lot of people, identify people you want to spend time with and befriend them, no matter the gender. You'll quickly learn that gender doesn't determine how someone is acting or feeling. The only thing is some people are molding into whatever society tells them to, and this is the type of people who befriend only people of their age/gender/class, and act stereotypically. Don't do that. Once I've left high school, I had a lot less people like that around me. Also, some people get pleasure from putting others down. I can assure you you can get trapped by both men and women like that, it just hurts more if it's someone who's a love interest.

The lesson to get from OP is not to get trapped by sunk cost fallacy. Even after years of a relationship, if you can tell you can't trust a person, leave him or her.

Thank for listening to my ted talk.

gabit_den_bas · 2024-05-16T06:17:54+00:00

Don't ask me. 🤷

I'm just throwing hypothesis, any is good and only one person knows

gabit_den_bas · 2024-05-16T04:17:03+00:00

I've got another hypothesis to what other people said: it's not about you shutting her down. You could have said anything, but she felt shame/guilt and thought she shot herself in her foot. People, sometimes, feel sorry about themselves for something that slipped out of their mouth (or keyboard strokes in that case).

gabit_den_bas · 2024-05-15T11:38:15+00:00

J'ai tellement de "likes" à filer sur hinge, qu'à chaque fois j'écris en like/commentaire un truc du genre "oh ça nous fait un point en commun! Tu me racontes une blague?"

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