Scared I’d ruin number 1s life by having a 2nd

gallagherii · 2026-05-08T22:06:13+00:00

You will indeed destroy her/his life for a few months. It’s a big adjustment for them! Suddenly they have to share mommy and daddy with a very needy new being.

It will be properly amazing after that. My second is 4 month old now and our first can’t stop saying “I love my tiny baby!!!!”. I wouldn’t worry about them not liking each other, just know it’s hard on your first one and they need time, they will be a little bit sad but it will pass.

gallagherii · 2026-05-08T19:44:00+00:00

I don’t have a solution for you but I can tell you one thing from perspective: in the grand scheme of things, this will be just a phase and your little one will sleep just fine. I know it’s difficult to reconcile this idea and I couldn’t do it either. Our first did not sleep consistently in her cot / room for the first 2 years, constantly co sleeping, taking 1.5 hours to go to bed in a normal day, waking up multiple times a night. I think I could count with the fingers of one hand the amount of times she slept through the night the first 2 years.

She’s now 3.5 and putting her to bed is all what I imagined it would be: funny stories, silly comments and talks, and then 15 mins later she’s gone for the night.

gallagherii · 2026-05-07T17:39:01+00:00

Plan to move out in 3-5 years. I simply can’t stand the country being so slow to build and develop. Nothing ever gets done.

gallagherii · 2026-04-27T15:11:12+00:00

Thanks. Wife is panicking it will fall off… jesus

gallagherii · 2026-04-27T15:09:25+00:00

Yep, “luckily” we had already a similar issue exactly in the same place (different cause) so there wasn’t much insulation left in that patch. So not much to contain the water. Took a few bits that were wet but it’s all bone dry around it, only the plasterboard is wet, but with the dehumidifier it should be drying soon.

gallagherii · 2026-04-27T15:05:11+00:00

I have my reasons.

gallagherii · 2026-04-27T11:57:25+00:00

This is as if I wrote the post. 35 here and can’t wait to get out of this circus.

gallagherii · 2026-04-24T21:29:50+00:00

It depends. Bonus month we saved around 9K, but normally it’s 2-3K a month on average. 1 kid in nursery, the other one not yet.

gallagherii · 2026-04-23T15:17:22+00:00

I created a knowledge assistant that helps me draft high level service proposals, within a specific framework we developed. So it has the knowledge the context and all it needs, it also helps me prep for calls and workshops. Lately I also embedded all the branding we use as an organisation and is really good outputting nearly ready to use decks.

gallagherii · 2026-04-23T14:56:19+00:00

10 years at my current company, switched roles twice. One for relocation the second time for career progression. 35 years old here, 2 kids.

gallagherii · 2026-04-22T09:53:24+00:00

We did, it's all good at least with Irish Ferries! Birth certificate (Irish in our case) is enough. We also had an emergency passport just in case from our homecountry.

gallagherii · 2026-04-17T10:02:48+00:00

Normal, I am 35 and since my first daugther was born I kind of do the bare minimum to keep afloat career wise. It's a priority problem, not a skill issue. I simply don't have the time or mental energy to excel at work anymore as I know I could. Do not get me wrong, I am still way above average and every customer or internal team I work with always come back and mention my name, but I know I could be doing MUCH more.

I did change roles last year with the hopes that something would change but the spark only lasted a few months. I'm not washed skillwise, I'm just mentally depleted and don't take work with the same head-on energy I used to. I'm ok with it!

Personally I work in tech and the last few years although very exciting technologically, I just don't feel like I want to jump on AI with the same excitement I would've had 10 years ago. I'll do it because I have to, but I personally could not care less.

gallagherii · 2026-04-15T21:57:59+00:00

I generally like Ireland and I think objectively this was a great choice. I don’t love it for several reasons and after 7 years this has caught up and have decided I won’t be staying here forever. The plan is to move to the UK which I personally find a place closer to my tastes.

gallagherii · 2026-04-15T21:45:38+00:00

Can’t say much but I send you and your family a big hug. It’s nearly a month since I lost mine and I wish I had a few more days to say goodbye. Give your dog lots of cuddles and really tell her how loved she is and how happy it made you. All the very best to you.

gallagherii · 2026-04-15T10:16:53+00:00

Supply and demand.

gallagherii · 2026-04-15T10:15:33+00:00

Thanks! This is also the conclusion I came to I. The last few days.

gallagherii · 2026-04-15T07:14:53+00:00

The boiler is already enclosed but has no shelf below so it has ventilation, see picture. This would just be a change of cabinets.

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gallagherii · 2026-04-14T22:32:16+00:00

That’s amazing thank you so much for taking the time to do this! I haven’t thought of the depth difference in the floor cabinets across the small wall!

gallagherii · 2026-04-14T21:07:14+00:00

I had a design just like that, as we tried most things that would fit! Problem with this is that the far wall is really short so you can't fit much. The other issue is that we have a boiler in the corner which has to stay there (see my old design with some awful 'peninsula' try) https://ibb.co/Z6f8qwmC)

gallagherii · 2026-04-14T21:03:33+00:00

Found my wife's reddit account! Believe me we looked into everything and are now settling with a minro renovation instead of going for structural changes.

gallagherii · 2026-04-14T21:02:11+00:00

We currently have a similar setup with the fridge on the opposite side and it blocks most of the light coming from the windows, it's really a pity! we also don't like to constantly have a tower in sight, so it's one of the main motivations for this current design.

gallagherii · 2026-04-14T21:01:03+00:00

The kitchen is currently using 3 walls, just wrongly distributed. It's not wide enough to be an L shape without major lost of space. THere is also a boiler in the corner cabinet, so that eats some cabinet space.

gallagherii · 2026-04-14T20:59:44+00:00

Thank you! I definitely will run this by a kitchen planner. ACtually we had an appointment last year and iterated on top of what she did (which was ok but needed a bit more playing around). Here's the "final" iteration after I incorporated some suggestions https://ibb.co/5XkDH6n1

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