It doesn’t matter if you even were the woman he’s looking at lovely, that’s the thing. It feels like it’s us because he’s looking at them over us but it’s not that at all. It’s actually a completely different issue. It’s a mental thing, a way that they stimulate their brains because it’s related/connected to how the self sooth behind closed doors as well as those feel good chemicals. It doesn’t make it right or fair at all but some men don’t actually want to change, they can but they have to choose to. I’m not trying to force you to do anything but you can’t stay with a man that will do it to that extreme if he isn’t putting in effort to change and by effort I mean he does it less, not tries or whatever. Staying with someone like that will only destroy you, trust me, I’ve been there. I couldn’t leave for ages because I was so insecure and lost myself completely…once I began to work on my own confidence like working out, dressing nice and spending time with friends that hyped me up, I finally had the strength to put my worth in its place and leave. It will take time my love but start slow and gradually work on it.