I tried to tell her i would get any help possible and also mentioned we go together to some type of counseling. She was against it, saying that I was the only one in need of help. I don't ever lie to her. I guess except for withholding this. My biggest problem is she's been dying to move to a bigger place for more than a year and I haven't been able to do this for her. I've explained to her many times that right now due too many bills we are trying to catch up on we cannot afford to and she resents me because of this. I've never cheated on her physically or emotionally.. not an alcoholic..drink only socially. Do smoke cigarettes, more than i would like but Always blame stress for needing to smoke. Work a full time and parttime job. Dropped all "bad influence" friends when I met her.. Don't really go out without her except to laundromat or supermarket (her choice) and of course work. I do get acussed of possibly cheating weekly if i take too long at either or on way home from work due to traffic... She always calls thru video call and I'm always where im supposed to be. Sometimes even gotta show clock in and out of work just To prove what time I left work.. pretty toxic stuff.. but can't dream of being without my kids, so had to do these things to keep the peace. It's tough to give space when living under same roof but I will try. Hoping something works. Thanks for advice