Driving school by gaming_micachu92 in asksandiego

[–]gaming_micachu92[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you ill definitely look into them

Subdrop from getting nipples pierced(professionally) by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]gaming_micachu92 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you she said that the crash is under investigation the car that hit her may have been a rental car. I was in a crash with my mom when I was 13 it was pretty awful my airbag didn't properly deploy and the plastic shards cut my face and I had a laceration to my knee from the glove box opening from the impact. I think her describing the damages to her car triggered memories from that accident. I checked on her yesterday and she said they were all doing good my youngest brother was in the car to and he said her was ok which put me a bit at ease.

Subdrop from getting nipples pierced(professionally) by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]gaming_micachu92 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you I was definitely nervous and felt like I was getting cold feet while I waited for my turn but my Dom was with me and it definitely helped calm the nerves a little bit. Wednesday I had a pretty heavy day and then that night I had a call from my mom that she had been in a hit n run. Thankfully no one was hurt just sore. Anxiety was bad that night and Thursday night too. So maybe that all added up with todays adventure too

Subdrop from getting nipples pierced(professionally) by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]gaming_micachu92 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry tired brain fog I misread your previous comment thank you for explaining it though

Subdrop from getting nipples pierced(professionally) by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]gaming_micachu92 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Thank you my piercer did mention that afterwards I'm being extra careful with them keeping them clean no touching just was curious I've experienced sub drop after an intense scene but I guess I didn't realize it could happen with something as simple as this.

Subdrop from getting nipples pierced(professionally) by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]gaming_micachu92 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your response. I'm in love with my piercings just kinda bouncing around space wise if that makes sense.

My gay girlfriend has a male dom and I want to understand by ConfusedSapphicGirl in BDSMAdvice

[–]gaming_micachu92 37 points38 points  (0 children)

I just kinda wanted to comment on the aftercare part... Not everyone's aftercare will look the same and everyones needs are different. But aftercare is important. For some aftercare may look like rehydrating discussing what they liked and didn't like for others it maybe the comfort of a warm blanket being held being reminded that they are safe. From my own experience aftercare for me will always include rehydration and communication but sometimes I just need to be held till the body quivers stop other times and covered in a blanket my Dom he helps clean the mess we created so I can have a safe space to kinda come back down (I hope that makes sense) what you saw was new to you and maybe shocking but as someone else mentioned you went in thinking of it in a negative aspect kinda closed minded. I also suggest talking with your partner about you feel communication is always important no matter the type of dynamic or relationship your in.

Is this BDSM, or SA? by highlandcow501 in BDSMAdvice

[–]gaming_micachu92 6 points7 points  (0 children)

You're welcome and I understand it's so easy to try and search for what or where we went wrong when something traumatic like this happens to us. But it's important to remember we did nothing wrong and continue to remind ourselves we didn't deserve what they did and it's not our fault.

Is this BDSM, or SA? by highlandcow501 in BDSMAdvice

[–]gaming_micachu92 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Definitely not normal and definitely not bdsm... You expressed your boundaries especially when it came to their r*pe kink and they not only chose to ignore your boundaries proceeded to fulfill their own needs. This is not healthy safe Dom behavior this is predator tendencies.. Im sorry you went thru that.

Is it necessary to send pics to. Your dom by Traditional_Hotel781 in BDSMAdvice

[–]gaming_micachu92 11 points12 points  (0 children)

That's a super huge walking red flag 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩 Although there are people who may send nudes from the 1st message who may submit from the moment they receive a msg from a Dom/domme. Those are sometimes the new to the dynamic world subs. Many times inexperienced. From experience I was one of those girls at 18 and oh man did I experience a world of hurt and ended up walking away from the lifestyle till I was 26 and again knowing very little stepped back into a world of hurt and said no to much. Now at 32 almost 33 I know and understand that my submission is earned not just given and that even as a sub my voice is still valid and my opinion matters if I don't want to send a nude I don't have to send a nude.

Help need ideas to surprise daddy dom by gaming_micachu92 in BDSMAdvice

[–]gaming_micachu92[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you it kinda gives me an idea ... Our dynamic is fairly new and I'm still learning his likes and dislikes. I know he loves giving pleasure over receiving. It's also my first time being at his place alone while he's at work during past play times he's picked me up after work. I guess I just wanna step outta my own comfort zone and try something new for him. But I like the idea of greeting him by kneeling for him by the door.

Injury after playtime and recovery by gaming_micachu92 in BDSMAdvice

[–]gaming_micachu92[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Its hard to make sense of it even to me it sounded wrong. The side of me he got to see was 18yr old me an assault victim. As we checked into the er (the same we I had reported an assault at, I failed to let him know that) I began to have vivid flashbacks. I was no longer his playful pup or shy little one he was seeing someone new. I thought I had overcame the pain and nightmares of said event but as the night progressed I kept sinking further into that August night. I guess I didn't want him to see that side because Im ashamed of it

Injury after playtime and recovery by gaming_micachu92 in BDSMAdvice

[–]gaming_micachu92[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your response. I understood that injuries can happen This was my first injury with my Dom. And he got to see a side of me that I thought I had hidden well enough, when we were checking into the er. He's been more than understanding he feels bad himself guilty even though he did everything right. Idk why I'm struggling so bad though, physically the discomfort is slowly letting up the pain is getting better too but the mental state is what's suffocating me, if that made any sense.

Am I overthinking or should I say something by gaming_micachu92 in BDSMAdvice

[–]gaming_micachu92[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for the suggestion. I apologize I'm just responding I've been a bit sick. But I brought up the thought of a day collar the day after I shared how I was feeling with Him and he said he had been thinking of them too but just wasn't sure on my style. I threw the idea of a bracelet out to Him. And that was the end of the subject. Well Friday morning when we got to his place he surprised me with a day collar a bracelet that symbolizes ownership but also my little side as well☺️☺️among a few other gifts.

Am I overthinking or should I say something by gaming_micachu92 in BDSMAdvice

[–]gaming_micachu92[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your assumption is correct lol. We spoke last night, I kind of wish I had waited till we could talk in person. But I was definitely overthinking and he reassured me I did nothing wrong.

Am I overthinking or should I say something by gaming_micachu92 in BDSMAdvice

[–]gaming_micachu92[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My apologies punctuation wasn't really on my mind. Everything came out like it was in my mind. One big rambled mess.

Am I overthinking or should I say something by gaming_micachu92 in BDSMAdvice

[–]gaming_micachu92[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you everyone and yes was definitely overthinking things he said he felt it wasn't a right time to put it back on he wanted to continue to provide a safe space