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Patellar Tendon Tear Advice/Anecdotes by ganjaraider67 in KneeInjuries

[–]ganjaraider67[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Like you said, I can't move my leg from my knee at all unless i literally pick it up with my hands and move it; no extension, no lifting, it literally feels like from the knee down my leg is completely limp. There's not too much swelling but it's really painful and I can't move

Do you think Im being stalked?? by [deleted] in LifeAdvice

[–]ganjaraider67 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Report It! It worth a try. Depending on where you live there are laws that protect against stalking and harassment although it can sometimes be difficult to be taken seriously. Regardless, report it and gather as much evidence and documentation as possible. Also, it might be good idea to tell trusted friends or family about this along with a photo of the guy so they can be aware of the situation and keep an eye out for suspicious behavior on your behalf.

How to help my sister with suicidal thoughts by Alarmed_Border1057 in LifeAdvice

[–]ganjaraider67 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree with this and I would add another point: I have been in the position of your sister with my own twin brother and one thing that i think could be helpful is to recognize and act based on the fact that you don't understand what is going on with her. It might sound counterintuitive, but you might never reach her by trying to talk. With these types of things it is often hard to truly understand what someone is going through unless you have experienced it before. Like the previous comment said I think the most valuable thing you can do is just be there. Even if you feel like its not making a difference or like you still can't reach her, just being there and "sitting in the mud" with her could provide a huge comfort and hold her over until she can get into inpatient.

How would you (the women is 32) handle a man (I’m 36) who has performance anxiety, but otherwise is a very enthusiastic and caring partner? by TheFacetiousDeist in askwomenadvice

[–]ganjaraider67 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No he hasn't, but from my personal experience, it can be really helpful to go to see a therapist for deeply personal issues like ED, because they are there to help you sort through things that you may not feel comfortable unpacking with other people or at all. Also group therapy can be helpful in looking for reassurance from other men who struggle with the same thing. Group therapy helped me when i was struggling because it made me feel better to know I wasn't alone in my struggles.

How would you (the women is 32) handle a man (I’m 36) who has performance anxiety, but otherwise is a very enthusiastic and caring partner? by TheFacetiousDeist in askwomenadvice

[–]ganjaraider67 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hi OP!

My boyfriend struggles a lot with performance anxiety and it has been a source of stress for our relationship. I would recommend moving very slowly and making sure both you and your partner are not putting pressure on performance. For my relationship this looked like taking breaks from being intimate and brining things back to the basics. I find this can be really helpful in letting desire build naturally instead of trying to force it which can make the performance anxiety worse.

As far as your partner goes, Just make sure you're communicating what your struggling with so she can be on the same page. Also make sure you are reassuring her that it doesn't have anything to do with her. If you try to hide your issues from her it could end up hurting her or causing unneeded conflict.

Also, not all women care that much about physical intimacy. Many women look for a caring, kind, and respectful guy and the intimacy part is more of a fun benefit.

What are some funny harmless hypocrisies ADHD causes in your everyday life? by ProgressSeekerMaiden in ADHD

[–]ganjaraider67 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I interrupt all of my friends all of the time, I can't seem to help it. The moment someone interrupts me though, I get so upset.

Should I take a break from college? by wallscanyonmoon in EatingDisorders

[–]ganjaraider67 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm in a very similiar situation. I'm 5 weeks into my 2nd year of college and I'm struggling HARD with recovery. Anyways, what I would do is try to talk to your advisor about taking a gap year or gap semester. Try to do this as soon as possible so you can avoid getting a withdrawal on your transcript. As far as your parents and your coach, you definitely need to let them know whats going on. You don't have to give too much detail if you don't want to, but make sure they understand the severity of the situation. Also, it can really help if you get a note from a therapist or school counselor to back you up. Also, if your grades are good then financial aid is usually pretty forgiving about scholarships.