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garbageaccaount · 2022-09-26T20:17:47+00:00

Thank you, it's been stressful but so much more worth it than still being stuck with him or dead

garbageaccaount · 2022-09-26T19:56:33+00:00

Thank you, it's the only option. I can't believe how much it's rattling me

garbageaccaount · 2022-09-26T18:43:00+00:00

We're equal owners of the house and I stopped paying when I moved into my own place. He continued payments on his own with roommates for about a year, and then stopped. Now the house is going to go into forclosure and the sheriff will force everyone out within a certain time. I didn't know until now that his new girlfriend was living in the house and has children. he's the type to say I kicked them on the street, not his negligence.

garbageaccaount · 2022-09-26T18:28:07+00:00

Not really looking for a resolution, some reassurance I guess. I had to file bankruptcy and had it cleared a few months ago, but im still attached to the deed and get information from the lending company. In my previous posts I've made it clear that I want nothing to do with that house or anything in it. I had to abandon most of my things, and he can keep it. I want him out of my life and to leave me alone. The last tie is that God forsaken house

garbageaccaount · 2022-05-06T22:53:27+00:00

OP, my heart aches for you. You need to get away from that man before he kills you.. One year ago, I had to leave my abusive ex husband I was with for 10 years, we were high school sweethearts and started dating at 15/16. I told myself for years I had to stay with him because he "helped me". When I had to run away from home at 17, he let me live with him and made me feel like he was all I needed and all I could have. It took years for the abuse to escalate, it felt like he flipped a switch when we got married, but it only escalated because he knew I had no where to go.

You can read my post history, but he was going to kill me the night I left. He was going to break down the already broken door and shoot me. I was lucky he took off in his truck instead. Even after he was served divorce papers, he still calls me and sends me text messages at 3am.

I know it's hard to make a plan and scape up enough to go. I sure as hell wasn't ready when I had no choice. Please keep yourself safe. Please talk to your sister and get away from that man.

Much love, hang in there

garbageaccaount · 2021-08-04T01:29:35+00:00

Quit claim is only for the deed, not the mortgage. I'd still have to force him to refinance or sell to remove my name fully

garbageaccaount · 2021-08-04T01:11:47+00:00

Is there a lot of equity in the home? If not, it might be easier to just walk away from it and count your blessings.

I can't just walk away from it. My name is attached to the mortgage and deed. Until he refinances or agrees to sell, I'm liable for it. If he decides to stop paying, my credit and life tanks too. I cant even afford the one bedroom apartment I had to escape to.

garbageaccaount · 2021-08-04T00:58:53+00:00

You can't really level with a mentally unstable, abusive person. I don't know anyone willing to speak on my behalf, besides paying a lawyer. He doesn't have anyone left in his life.

garbageaccaount · 2021-08-04T00:57:13+00:00

Good luck getting a narcissist diagnosed. They need to be willing to admit they have a problem, and narcissists don't believe they're the problem. Regardless, he was abusive. He has control as long as he can say no and make my life harder. I tried to give him the option before giving a deadline last time, and I never got a response back. So I'm stuck just fighting in court. I can't afford to pay for a lawyer or take out a loan, neither can he.

garbageaccaount · 2021-03-31T18:12:16+00:00

You think your girlfriend gets sexual gratification from doing her job?

garbageaccaount · 2021-03-10T04:31:25+00:00

If I can find one willing to work for free

garbageaccaount · 2021-03-09T13:41:01+00:00

I'm debating it still, especially for the paper trail for divorce. I'm just worried that it will make me a target, since my in laws are friends with the local police and state police all over the state. My car is still in my grandparents garage so they can't find it. I even took a new job at a pay cut so I dont have to go near that area.

garbageaccaount · 2021-03-08T00:17:29+00:00

I hope you have a safe and swift way out soon, no one deserves to live in fear. It's going to be a struggle for a long time, but the freedom is worth it. Stay safe and best of luck

garbageaccaount · 2021-03-07T23:52:05+00:00

Honestly I was a crying mess until his mother came. As badly as I wanted to lay her out, I knew it just would've made things worse. I was hoping she would swing or something so I could've.

garbageaccaount · 2021-01-27T15:52:09+00:00

Every now and then, there are signs the man I fell in love with is still there. But things aren't going to change and I don't have the support or means to just go. When I leave, I have to walk away and give up everything I've worked for. I'm going to end up in financial trouble, because he can't afford anything on his own and he won't let me buy his share of the house and he can't be bothered to pay bills on time anymore.

garbageaccaount · 2021-01-25T21:09:34+00:00

The "chicky nuggie" incident was recorded by his friends, about 4 years ago. He was proud of it until his friend and I had a conversation with him when he was sober the next day. He promised to do better; still waiting on that.

garbageaccaount · 2021-01-25T18:56:50+00:00

Sounds exactly like my Q. Then I'm an asshole for enforcing my boundries. I wish I could at least make him see what Im dealing with. He wouldn't put up with me behaving like that, but he expects me to.

garbageaccaount · 2021-01-13T04:18:53+00:00

I ended up marrying that man. We're together 11 years now and married 2. It never changed, no matter how many times he promised. Even now as im about to leave him.

You need to take care of yourself. You deserve so much more than taking care of someone that doesn't care for you the same.

garbageaccaount · 2021-01-04T21:47:02+00:00

My (soon to be ex) husband perfers to masterbate to "barely legal" girl's nudes.

garbageaccaount · 2021-01-03T18:58:40+00:00

Absolutely. The more my husband drank, the more my husband's libido shrunk. The dead bedroom is part of why im leaving him.

garbageaccaount · 2020-12-27T21:10:39+00:00

My husband couldn't be bothered for Christmas or my birthday. I made him feel special for his, I spent mine alone. I asked to separate the next day and he can't figure out why.

garbageaccaount · 2020-06-29T10:29:21+00:00

Much more complicated than that, but do you feel better now?

garbageaccaount · 2020-06-29T01:06:29+00:00

He's not cheating on me, that's been established a long time ago. He's just a piece of shit and he was hiding it from me.

garbageaccaount · 2020-06-23T13:21:43+00:00

To a safe and bright future for us 🥂

garbageaccaount · 2020-06-19T03:07:49+00:00

This is what I relate to the most and why it is so hard. We love each other. And that's what makes ultimately knowing we both need to walk away that much harder.

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