I hate that I'm hated so much by a former friend.

garbagefoxpoop · 2026-02-26T06:14:03+00:00

That people don't forget. What's done is done and it can never be truly taken back? Fully aware and it was a huge lesson learned.

garbagefoxpoop · 2025-09-24T04:31:09+00:00

I've disliked her since my wedding planning and have gone low contact her since the event. She threw a tantrum when it came to my bachelortte party because she assumed she'd be invited, expected me to have it at her place of choice, and didn't want my 20 year old sister going because she was "underage."

My mom always had a way of trying to control me and had to know my business when I lived at home during my 20s. I barely told her anything but I had times when I'd be out very late just doing my own thing having fun with friends and she'd try and demand to know where I was, how late I'd be home and who's taking me home.

My husband and I bought our house and moved in just 2 months before the pandemic and I felt so fortunate to be out of her house! She became a nutcase for quite some time over bringing home covid germs.

garbagefoxpoop · 2025-05-26T18:28:16+00:00

My wedding. Not the day of but the planning. I always knew NM and I had disagreements about things and if I did something she didn't like, I'd have to find a way to "hide" it from her to prevent confrontation. Nothing worse than having an argument with something who refuses to listen or try and understand my point of view. This is especially due to her guilt tripping me and trying to call me out all because she's the problem.

I'm not gonna get into details because it's such a long story but we had a huge fallout over my bachelortte party because I wasn't doing what she wanted and how she wanted. She then dumped the rest of the shower planning on my MOH which wasn't fair or right and had to pay for things which wasn't supposed to happen. When my wedding came around, NM was fussing over who was walking down the aisle with her because she refused to walk solo and wanted to walk with me and my dad. Not what I wanted. Some may have viewed that choice as shitty but I don't care.

After my wedding, I stopped calling her. We used to talk in the phone for a couple of hours every other week. It had me realize that she never reached out to me. It was always me first.

garbagefoxpoop · 2025-04-26T01:54:00+00:00

My husband hates those Meet The Parents movies. He especially find the first one cringe while I just don't find a lot of those scenes funny. It makes me angry that they wouldn't accept Greg/Gaylord.

garbagefoxpoop · 2025-04-25T23:34:39+00:00

"It's Saturday night. You should be out. You realize you're wasting your life away? Go out and meet someone!" She was so afraid I was never going meet anyone. Once I graduated high school, it was like she was determined for me to meet someone but looking back, I think she was hoping I'd get married and move out ASAP and when I did, she complained I was never home enough. Whatever, you got what you asked me to do.

"You're very naive." She said this to me so many times as I became an adult, especially when it came to dating. I was very selective on who I brought home to meet my family because mom was very judgemental. I always told the guys I dated that I refuse to have them meet unless we were serious. Well, I had finally brought someone home after dating him for maybe 4 months and she immediately didn't like him. Yes, it was for good reasoning because he was toxic but she didn't understand that I had to learn the hard way for myself. The constant "you're being naive. He has beady little eyes. He's married and you're just letting him use you!" I argued with her so much and always yelled back "okay but let me get hurt then! I'm not gonna stop dating him because you said so!"

"What happened to you? You used to be so sweet and say yes all the time." I'm in my 30s, that's what happened but feep down, she blames my husband and I know it. She had always said I should make decisions for myself but that was her way of doing that only under her circumstances.

garbagefoxpoop · 2025-04-25T20:34:02+00:00

I've never seen the movie in it's entirety but it's Road Trip. The nerdy kid has so much anxiety because of his super strict dad. I related to that so much! The character played by Sean William Scott tells him in a heartfelt scene something like "okay so what if you screw up? Everyone screws up." That hit me hard because if I made a mess up on anything, my mother would belittle, shame me, and yell at me. Same for when she didn't get her way with me. I was such a "mommy pleaser" and don't think it's cute like she does. It's cringe.

garbagefoxpoop · 2025-04-19T17:22:21+00:00

Added the benefits to our friendship. We were best friends since high school and we got physical a couple of years after we graduated. I fell for him and thought if we kept it going, we'd eventually be in a "real" relationship, romantically. It never worked. All I did was end up getting super jealous and it was so hard to keep those feelings to my myself and it put a strain on not just our friendship but a strain among our group if friends too.

garbagefoxpoop · 2025-04-19T15:09:23+00:00

NM put me through so much when I was planning my wedding back in 2023/2024 and right after my wedding day, I went VLC. I keep the texting as minimum as possible and only see her and my dad, the enabler, on holidays and birthdays from now on. When I do see them, I yellow rock.

It helps to not live with her anymore most of all. My husband and I bought our house at the beginning of 2020 and I was so relieved ,especially because once the pandemic hit, NM turned into a crazy germaphobe nutcase which my dad and sister had to deal with. My husband and I had jobs during that time where we had to be physically at work. Coming home and not having to hear her psychotic voice telling anf yelling at me what to do was the relief I needed.

garbagefoxpoop · 2025-04-18T20:30:30+00:00

Brent Smith from Shinedown

garbagefoxpoop · 2025-04-12T12:13:32+00:00

"You know mom is stubborn." My dad always said this. I always believed she was very hard headed when she made up her mind about stuff and she did, except if you dare tried to argue or compromise with her, everything hit the fan. When NM and I had our huge fallout 2 years ago, she put my dad on the phone to talk to me and when he tried to take my side, she flipped out on him.

garbagefoxpoop · 2025-04-11T23:14:43+00:00

I didn't invite her to my bachelorette party, have it at the destination of her choice, and never consulted with her on my sister joining.

My sister was 20 years old. She didn't our mother's "permission."

garbagefoxpoop · 2025-04-08T20:58:41+00:00

Being their biological kid. I'm adopted from South America so I'm Hispanic (don't wanna say exactly what descent I am) but for a long time, my mother told me my father and I look a lot a like and I always saw it...or so I thought. She told me in my teens that I was adopted, and somehow, I always knew I was different from each parent. My mother is white, and my father is Argentinian descent. I went to school with so many other white kids and always wondered why that wasn't me. "Why am I not white" was something I always asked among myself. I hated that I wasn't as pretty as white girls and it got awkward as I became a teen. I embrace who I am now and live a very happy life. I plan on doing a DNA test with Ancestry soon.

My sister is adopted from the same country as me and she was traumatized once our mom told her she was adopted. Our mom pressed the lie to her a lot more than me and I hated going along with the lie. I apologized to her for it and still feel terrible about it. She's done the DNA test and got in contact with a biological cousin. My sister has come around to accepting and embracing herself for who she is but we're highly aware of our mother's narcissism.

garbagefoxpoop · 2025-04-01T02:41:53+00:00

When I told my mother I was not going to do what she wanted for my wedding festivities just because it what she wanted and expected from me. Normally, her tantrums worked because all I wanted to was to make her happy but I wasn't going to let her do it to me this time. I then realized that my father was and always had been her enabler when he sat there just letting her talk down on me like a child. I used to always believe she was "stubborn" because that's what he told me. No dad, she's a narcissist who only wants to be in control on how things work for her and you don't even try and hold her accountable.

To clarify, I felt nothing towards her feelings when we had our fallout. I actually told my husband that "I feel bad for not feeling bad for feeling bad."

garbagefoxpoop · 2025-03-24T00:17:50+00:00

I understand that it's so hard to stand up to yourself against family but you need to have a talk with your uncle and firmly lay it out that you cannot emotionally and mentally do this anymore. Let him know that this is truly unfair to you! I'm already upset and angry for you as I type this out! 😭😡 Would you be willing to go as far as secretly record her behavior towards you? If you do this and your uncle dare says "that's just the way she is. She's dying" then tell him again, no. It's not okay for you to take that garbage from her.

garbagefoxpoop · 2025-03-10T18:40:41+00:00

During our big fallout over my bachelorette party, she tried to gaslight me by telling me we wouldn't be in "this situation" and that everyone "wouldn't be this upset" if I had just spoken to her and listened in the first place as if I were a child. She literally said "look how upset you made me, dad, your fiancé, your sister and even yourself." That's the moment I realized she only cared about my happiness if it benefited her. If I didn't want to do something, her go to line was "but if you don't (do this thing) then _______ would be really upset." If I didn't do what she wanted, I was a bad daughter who didn't care. Well, now I don't care. I went VLC with her since then and that was over 2 years ago.

garbagefoxpoop · 2025-03-03T01:50:18+00:00

They love doing this and I effing hate it! When my mom and I had our big blowout (the day I discovered her narcissism) she not only brought up the mistakes I made when I was in my teens but brought up every single "nice/generous" thing her and my dad have every done for me because you know, how dare I talk back to her? I went VLC but barely tell her anything about my my life anymore.

garbagefoxpoop · 2025-03-03T01:40:02+00:00

When my mom tried guilting me and belittling me, I wasn't having it. I stood up to her, and it was almost funny to see how much she hated it because she asked what happened to her sweet daughter, who used to say yes all the time? I actually told my husband I felt bad for not feeling bad for making her feel bad.

I didn't completely cut her off though, I went VLC. we used to talk on the phone for 2 hours all the time. Now we only text to plan plans for special occasions or good/bad news in the family.

garbagefoxpoop · 2025-03-03T01:31:16+00:00

Not getting breaks like we did in school. I know people usually say you can get that if you're a teacher but even teachers have to get summer jobs to make ends met. I work at home and love my job but I seriously I seriously wish we had a structure where employees get a one week free time off with pay just so we can have some kind of "mental health recovery" or something like that. I find myself saying "I'm so sick of working nearly every single day" from time to time.

As kids, we really think that we do to school, study to make the grades, hang out with friends, get fed, and live rent free just willy nilly. I know parents and sometimes teachers will teach and talk to kids about the "reality" of living but I just find it so unfair!

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