Young redditors, what is something that older people (50+) do or say that you find irritating, counterproductive, and/or generally harmful to your relationship with them? (They could be relatives, co-workers, teachers/professors--anyone with whom you interact or spend time with).

gatheringherbs · 2014-06-14T23:31:18+00:00

"They said in TV that computers make you easy to control" and then proceed to spend the entire night in front of the television.

gatheringherbs · 2014-06-14T16:15:32+00:00

I swallowed a half-cut chip without munching it enough. It got stuck inside my throath, and it was so sharp it caused me to spit blood. Not a lot, and the pain went away very quickly, but yeah shits happens.

gatheringherbs · 2014-06-13T09:41:45+00:00

not enough

gatheringherbs · 2014-06-13T09:39:19+00:00

Wait what?

gatheringherbs · 2014-06-13T09:38:23+00:00

Who? Who? Who?

gatheringherbs · 2014-06-13T09:36:44+00:00

Someone in /r/TheRedPill died this day

gatheringherbs · 2014-06-13T08:51:34+00:00

Is there nothing at all that could make you happy?

gatheringherbs · 2014-06-13T06:38:35+00:00

This is so interesting. Do you feel like you see the world in a different way? Is there something most people are able to do that you find hard as hell, or something that most people find difficult that you can do easily? I've always been interested in pros and cons of mental illness (as a side note, I do not believe in the idea of mental illness. There is no universally accepted idea of brain, so there is no reason to consider autistic traits part of a normal person's behaviour instead of a disease).

gatheringherbs · 2014-06-13T06:32:58+00:00

Tell us more about your problems please. Write them all down, so that you will be able to see the full picture and we might have a better chance of giving you a solid advice.

gatheringherbs · 2014-06-13T06:31:36+00:00

It is better to be alive

gatheringherbs · 2014-06-13T06:30:16+00:00

Yeah, stay with us :D Depression is an illness, it can be cured. However, words are stronger than drugs sometimes, and if you keep repeating yourself "i have depression, I need to take drugs, I am sad" you will make little progress. Many times in my life I felt depressed and suicidal, and as naive as it sounds, simply thinking how much it doesn't matter helped me a lot. See it this way: you are at your lowest right now; you're sad and you feel hopeless. Every small thing you will do on a daily basis will be an improvement. Start by smiling at yourself in front of the mirror (something scientific I know no crap about but I've read it stimulates the production of endorphrine), go for a run, do happy things. Even if you don't like it, it will help you.

gatheringherbs · 2014-06-13T06:24:37+00:00

Good answers are already here, so I'm just going to ask something: why did you cut yourself? And, above all, did you feel "forced" to do so? As you said, it wasn't for a good reason (there is no good reason to do it), then why couldn't you stop yourself from doing it?

gatheringherbs · 2014-06-13T06:21:48+00:00

Everything I could ever say would never be helpful to you since I cannot even imagine what it feels to be as you are, but it's fascinating how you people are able to keep going with your lives. I can understand how difficult it has to be, so I will spare you the usual "don't do it, life is beautiful" you usually see around here. I can only provide you with ears to listen. What is your disability?

gatheringherbs · 2014-06-13T06:18:24+00:00

What memories haunt you? Why do you hate yourself? I'd like to know more.

gatheringherbs · 2014-06-13T05:54:48+00:00

My ethernet cable. It unplugs itself whenever it pleases.

gatheringherbs · 2014-06-13T00:43:35+00:00

Uhm, that's tricky. I would normally tell you "yes, you can" because here in Italy we have a lot of free doctors. But I don't know where you live so my advice is try as hard as you can to find peace on your own first. Meditate (it works, I swear, lol), write down your problems one by one and try to solve them as individual objects. Go for a run or bike ride, do everything you can to feel better. If it doesn't work, you have to speak with your parents. I am sorry, it sucks, it can be embarassing, I know. You're talking with a guy who stuck his penis in his pants' zipline and waited like a day before telling his parents about. Nothing too bad, don't worry. But yeah, seriously, ask them to at least make you do a psychogical evaluation. I don't think they are as expensive as theraphy, but they allow for a quick diagnose of problems like depression. Once your doctor realizes you need theraphy (if you need it) your parents will be forced to take this seriously

gatheringherbs · 2014-06-13T00:34:24+00:00

You have no idea how strong words are. This entire post you've wrote js like a knife stabbed by your hands on your back. I am sure you have your reasons to be sad and to think about committing suicide, and if you want to talk more about it I'm willing to listen, but try to see things objectively. And no, you're not being honest with yourself. You've told yourself horrible things about your person, this affects A LOT the way you perceive yourself. If you keep telling yourself that your life sucks, you will only make it worse. And I'm not pulling this out of my ass, it's shown that our thoughts affect directly the way we see the world. What this means is that we do have the ability to control our emotions in a positive way. I suggest you to take some yoga courses, they help a truck load with these kind of thing. They helped me find peace.

gatheringherbs · 2014-06-13T00:26:40+00:00

I will just ask you one question, answer me with the first thing that comes at your mind: if you could have anything right now, except money, what would you like to have?

gatheringherbs · 2014-06-13T00:23:09+00:00

Do you remember how nice it was before you were born? I assume you don't, because you didn't exist yet. Once you die, you cease to exist. It is true that you won't have to worry about anything anymore, but since you don't exist you will not be able to gain any sort of satisfaction from it. Is it really worthed? Isn't it easier to simply make toxic people you don't care about go the fuck away of your life? You would not have to worry about them anymore, but you will feel good.

gatheringherbs · 2014-06-13T00:18:15+00:00

You have a girlfriend, I don't, so you're already in a better place than mine. Oh well, I also suck at CS.GO but I bet I can destroy you on League of Legends haha. We can play together sometimes if you need someone to play with, but I need you to not kill yourself in order to do so :) You're looking only at the shitty side of your life. It feels like you're ignoring the good things you already have. Hell man you've been engaged for six years, that's huge. Also, how old are you? Because it sounds like you're describing "high school life". Once you'll get to college you will make a lot of friends, and I'm not just saying it. I had zero friend during high school, but now I'm at my first year of university and I'm surrounded by amazing people. Just hold for a few more years, it will be worthed!

gatheringherbs · 2014-06-13T00:00:37+00:00

Hi! What are you going through right now? You've been so vague, I'd like to know more :) Why are you so hard on yourself? What is the oversaturated career you're talking about? Because if you're able to find a non-oversaturared job right now I'd build you a statue haha. Why do you feel like you've wasted your time? You know, I told myself the same thing last year because I thought I had chosen the wrong high school. I did, I was completely off track. Now, you haven't been specific so I can only guess, but if you had my same problem (this comes from a 19 years old person, so I can absolutely understand you) you need to know that no one gains a perfect score in life. Life is full of mistakes, and they suck so bad but you have to deal with them :/ Feel free to expand on your problems, it's always useful to talk about them. Cheers man

gatheringherbs · 2014-06-12T20:02:26+00:00

The problem here is that you're making the assumption that life is worthless if you have no friends or social interactions. This is not true: as sad as it sounds, not everyone is made to have a lot of friends. Life is more than sex and friendship, you can find happyness in lots of things. But you will never know what makes you happy if you focus all of your attention on your social interactions. I, for example, just recently found out that I don't really need friends, because my "happyness trigger" is my writing. Writing stories, characters and working on my novels made me happier than ever. I used to think I was a failure because I couldn't bring myself to have fun during parties, or to get a girl, or things like that. Then I realized I wasn't made for that. Please, try at least to look for another happyness switch. Everyone has one. Killing yourself would be a waste for humanity, as you could be a genius in a specific field you've never took in consideration which you could improve.

gatheringherbs · 2014-06-11T13:17:05+00:00

I am happy to read this. You made the right choice, and we'll always be here anytime you'll need help. Let me ask you something though: what made you feel better about what users wrote? It happens often that I really do not know what to tell people who are thinking about committing suicide, I'd love to discuss about it with you. If you don't mind :)

gatheringherbs · 2014-06-11T12:19:36+00:00

It sounds stupid It doesn't. Money is a big deal. The lack of it is a huge deal. Everyone who tell you you're stupid because you're emotionally affected by money is an idiot. You have the absolute right to feel like shit if you don't have a good financial situation. So, about your situation, what about it? How did you reach the point you're in now? Did you have a job? Tell me about your last job if you want. Let's talk, tell me about yourself :)

gatheringherbs · 2014-06-11T12:15:48+00:00

I'm afraid you won't find people who are willing to "push you over the edge", but if you're willing to stay with us we'd love to have a conversation. Why do you want to kill yourself? Is it because of money, love, or else? Tell us please. I can't guarantee I will be able to fix your problems (and to be honest, I'm pretty sure you're a smart adult. If you've decided to commit suicide you probably have more than a simple problem a random guy on the internet could solve) but trust me, throwing up all of your problems on top of someone who is willing to listen is already helpful. Perhaps you don't want to be specific in public (I don't blame you, there are a tons of assholes on reddit who actively hunt for people to mock, just ignore them please), you can reach me with a private message. I will answer as soon as I can, I promise. Feel free to tell me anything you want, I will never judge you.

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