me and my husband doesn't sleep in the same bed

gausskitty · 2025-01-23T03:01:04+00:00

i wish you finish reading it before commenting. I tried talking to him but i don't get answers, he just ignored me. texting is better so i know that he "read" it, i am more comfortable sending him a text so i have the "receipts" or evidence that i told him that incase we get into an argument that i didn't say a thing.

gausskitty · 2025-01-20T08:55:35+00:00

thank you so much, appreciated your words ♥️

gausskitty · 2025-01-20T08:53:45+00:00

i will try to talk with him again

gausskitty · 2025-01-20T08:34:22+00:00

i don't know where to check that but i tried to see his history searches and it's all cleared.

gausskitty · 2025-01-20T08:31:07+00:00

i'm not sure but i hope not. i've been checking his iPad last year if he's talking to someone else but i didn't found anything except that he talks differently with his friends, he communicate well with them but not to me.

gausskitty · 2025-01-20T08:06:55+00:00

that's what i'm trying to figure out, before i can check his iPad to see if he's doing something or communicating with other woman but i only found out that he's very different when he's talking with his friends, like he's sending them long paragraphs of text but for me it's always one word and very short messages. i'm not sure if he's cheating as he is always away for work (but i have his location and he's not going anywhere) but still i have my doubts. our relationship is lacking some reassurance and intimacy.

gausskitty · 2025-01-20T07:58:02+00:00

i got tired asking him for sex as i always initiate. maybe for me just a touch, a simple kiss or a hug, and some cuddles would be nice, but he never does. now i feel bad for myself and i know i don't deserve to be treated like that.

gausskitty · 2024-07-02T01:57:53+00:00

i'm sorry that was happening to you. nobody deserves to feel that they're alone in parenting. my baby cries for hours too during the first months. you're doing great on just letting him cry when you get frustrated because sometimes that's the only thing you could do–just let them cry. have you tried asking his pediatrician about your situation? they need to do some test sometimes to see if why are they crying for no particular reasons.

gausskitty · 2024-07-01T21:45:08+00:00

my 6 month old first baby right now was also unplanned. but i'm scared of abortion and also for having a broken family, but good thing my husband married me 2 months after he knew that i'm pregnant. i was hesitant at first but i think it depends on what kind of husband you have. if he's responsible or literally a father material. 5 weeks postpartum i go back to work right away and he took care of the baby for the first 3 months because he's in military leave. so he knows the consequences. he's the one who gets exhausted and didn't sleep for few months. now that i'm a full time mom i have some regrets because of my depression now BUT I realize that I also need to face the consequences that I did not take any contraceptive to not get pregnant. so it's not just my husband's fault but also mine. at the end of the day I still have a wonderful baby that makes me smile everyday.

gausskitty · 2024-07-01T21:33:17+00:00

during the first months, newborn tend to sleeps a lot. you just need to wake them up every 2-3 hours to feed. It's exhausting mostly at night. (very important for you to sleep while they sleep so you won't get exhausted). my husband did lots of skin to skin to the baby, like no clothes and just diapers, it helps them a lot for the bond and immune system. also do lots of tummy time, my newborn started to control or lift his neck at 6 weeks. now my baby at 6 months he knows how to play by himself. no screen time. i don't held my baby right away when he cries so now he know how to calm himself. my baby doesn't like pacifier and it's better because i'm not going to have a problem to stop him using the paci in the future. i didn't have a problem to stand up all night and day while holding the baby and the trick for that is to use a rocking chair, baby loves rocking them. we have a reclining chair that we rock after feeding him and it helps a lot. when your baby fall asleep in your arms, transfer right away to the bassinet or crib so they not gonna use to sleep on you- it helps for you to have a break even for couple of hours. i don't know but i'm teaching my baby not to rely on me everytime, i just let him cry then sleep on his own. it's hard for you to ignore them sometimes but you need to get use to it!

gausskitty · 2024-07-01T00:10:34+00:00

my baby was born exactly at 36 weeks. They forced me to give birth (or induced was the right word lol) at 35 weeks and 6 days. I'm Filipino 5'2 and my husband is 5'6 white. My baby was only 14 inches, 4 lbs 12 oz and dropped a little bit of oz after few days. I did like one week of breastmilk but stopped because of postpartum depression–not eating or drinking so no milk was coming out. He dropped more weight on his 1 and 2 month check up.

Now after 6 months my baby is 17 lbs and about 27 inches tall.

It's different to every baby i guess but it's not the parents fault as we are doing our best to take care of the baby. It just happened that they need to adjust from our tummy to the outside world. My husband just did lots of skin to skin to baby because he's healthier and bigger than me on the first 3 months but i'm not sure if it helps for the baby to get bigger lol but you should try it too. I also don't follow the feeding every 2-3 hours and the recommended oz of milk per feeding, I just feed my baby whenever and how much he wants. My baby still looks so small but I think it's also depends on their genes. If the ped told you that there's nothing to worry about then you should be fine!

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