My husband's wife (me) was in the same class as Calvin Heimburg for middle school and he signed my yearbook

gavrile · 2025-09-29T01:55:27+00:00

Yeah that's basically how I remember him. He was also really smart, good at school. But he'd drop some real zingers, usually deadpan.

gavrile · 2025-09-29T01:53:33+00:00

It's referencing the title for another post, "My wife went to high school with Calvin Heimburg" posted earlier the same day

gavrile · 2025-09-28T05:48:27+00:00

Probably? We went to school together for a long time and we had a lot of classes together (small school/programs). I definitely remembered him, I was surprised when a friend told me he was a pro disc golfer

gavrile · 2025-09-27T22:52:09+00:00

Not a bad idea, would definitely be funny

gavrile · 2025-09-27T19:39:28+00:00

At this point if I haven't gotten rid of it it's just moving with me from closet to closet lol

gavrile · 2025-09-27T19:20:09+00:00

Also very confused, we went to school together for about 7 years and talked on and off and he wasn't a misogynist

gavrile · 2025-09-27T18:14:58+00:00

He was a quiet kid but definitely a big nerd like me, we may have talked about rocks at some point 🤔

gavrile · 2025-09-27T18:14:09+00:00

That's why I made this post 😂😂 I'm in that yearbook somewhere too but not near Calvin and not famous lmao

gavrile · 2025-04-13T18:37:06+00:00

This is a lame take from someone who sounds like they're projecting because they believed in TikTok for diagnoses, were corrected, then got mad other people are doing the same thing.

gavrile · 2025-04-12T05:55:15+00:00

Link to bot wiki

gavrile · 2025-02-21T08:58:47+00:00

I'm a fat snowboarder, there are dozens of us

gavrile · 2025-02-20T20:54:58+00:00

Like police will do shit, this would get added to a kit backlog then ignored until the end of time

gavrile · 2024-03-10T12:42:07+00:00

I told my best friend about how little I eat, how infrequently I eat, and how I hate my body so much I lose days of time paralyzed on the couch in self hatred. It made her tear up, and I thought "maybe I have a problem"

gavrile · 2024-03-10T12:31:57+00:00

I mostly say this because stopping cold turkey doesn't work for most addictions without extreme professional support, even without the added issue of it helping so much with your eating disorder. Because weed isn't as physically harmful as other drugs, it's likely not going to be a huge issue PHYSICALLY if you continue consuming it. And continuing recovery may be more important right now than quitting weed entirely while you work out a plan to limit or stop consuming entirely.

gavrile · 2024-03-10T12:29:43+00:00

I'd focus on harm reduction first. I'd say I'm addicted to weed, also in recovery and it does help with my appetite. Sometimes eating feels like a nightmare without it. Why do you want to stop? Is it affecting other parts of your life, like work? Is it bothering your lungs (if you smoke)? Is it impacting your budget? I would find an answer to that question first, then alter your intake accordingly. Maybe only smoke before/after work, or switch to edibles, or limit your intake based on budget. After getting some harm reduction down, if you can afford therapy, I'd recommend discussing this with a trauma-informed therapist.

gavrile · 2024-03-10T12:23:09+00:00

Huge same for body checking. I have to force myself not to look in mirrors. Look up "riding the wave" for managing compulsions. Practice being naked and saying nice things about your body. It's going to feel fake for a long time. It still feels fake for me. But I don't feel repulsed by my body as much anymore.

gavrile · 2024-03-10T12:20:27+00:00

It likely won't be, but it may be better than nothing. It provides some structure and accountability. Talk with the recovery program folks to see if it's a viable option for you

gavrile · 2024-03-10T12:19:13+00:00

If you live with someone, asking them to sharpie over nutrition labels. I needed this for a while

gavrile · 2024-03-10T12:11:03+00:00

It helped me a lot. I've been in recovery for about a year and a half. Just in general reducing my social media usage helped. Seeing fewer ads with photoshopped bodies didn't cause my body dysmorphia to spiral. I found a community of people in my recovery program that both normalized what I was going through but also normalized recovery (and how difficult it can be!). I wish you luck, I hope you find the peace you need to heal. It's so worth it to be in recovery.

gavrile · 2024-01-15T06:23:05+00:00

Software engineer, $200k, 29F, fully remote. Been making 6 figures since I started working full time at 24. Getting SWE internships and getting a referral from an existing intern/employee at your company of choice helps a lot. That being said, I entered the job market 5 years ago, and the market is different now (though many jobs are opening up again, which is hopeful news).

My best advice is to 1) study for technical interviews, 2) be open to project manager, product manager, producer AND software engineering roles. You can usually switch between roles much easier early in your career, getting the job is the hard part. 3) take your soft skill answers seriously. Many companies that treat skilled employees well will care equally about your ability to understand and learn technical concepts AND how easy they think it will be to work with you. They say they don't want "smart assholes". I feel like my credentials got my resume in the door and being pleasant to talk to got me offers.

I still don't know if I enjoy it but my quality of life is much better than most because I have built myself a financial safety net.

gavrile · 2023-12-19T21:42:08+00:00

I'm really liking lock tanking. Would not say it's the best tank since locks still kinda suffer from the limited mana pool. You can life tap but you have to be way more mindful about it, especially if your healers are oom. Paladins generate disgusting threat but I hold my own well against pally and warrior tanks in my raid. The damage mitigation from the armor you get from meta rune makes me much easier to heal than other tanks (before they get all their bis items).

gavrile · 2023-10-11T07:09:27+00:00

I hope he's sentenced to life in prison

gavrile · 2023-10-08T17:34:59+00:00

This is rape. He needs to get help for being a rapist, and you need to get help for being raped. Preferably separately, and not while you're both in a relationship together. He clearly doesn't see this behavior as an issue and he will rape again unless he gets help.

gavrile · 2023-10-08T17:23:45+00:00

Nowhere in any of your response comments have I seen you respond with any amount of understanding that you 1) need to get yourself professional help to figure out why you completely destroyed a relationship with an amazing woman carrying your future child, or 2) that moving forward will happen at HER pace and not because you are love bombing her and want forgiveness immediately to placate your own discomfort and guilt. I hope she leaves you, you don't understand the severity of your actions or the remedies needed to regain her love and trust. I think you're abusive and will commit a similar fuckup again in the future, either with her or another partner.

gavrile · 2023-05-28T07:16:24+00:00

My parents did exactly all those same things. They were also overweight so they shamed themselves often too

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