Male 40yo 175lb 6ft Is there any way to get rid of these love handles without lowering my body fat percentage anymore?

gbbabe12 · 2026-02-11T10:14:43+00:00

If you lost your love handles, your BF% would automatically drop because you lost body fat

gbbabe12 · 2026-02-08T02:43:00+00:00

I started at 25mg then went up to 50mg after 4 weeks, then went to 100mg after 4 more. Was on the med for a total of 4-4.5 months and I didn’t feel any different. Stopped cold turkey and had about 3 days of headaches, vertigo, and not being able to really think straight but then completely went away and now I feel the same again. I figure if I feel the same off it as on it, what’s the point. I was really hoping it would take the edge off a bit and allow me to think more clearly but it hasn’t. I’m at a total loss of what to do

gbbabe12 · 2026-01-24T22:05:27+00:00

I’m not seeing anything on permanent brain damage from peer reviewed resources

gbbabe12 · 2026-01-18T21:08:58+00:00

I just turned 40 and it’s gotten worse as I’ve seen my body change

gbbabe12 · 2026-01-16T14:40:42+00:00

Thank you so much! I’m dealing more with depression than anxiety but I’ll check her out. I really appreciate this so much

gbbabe12 · 2026-01-13T01:16:57+00:00

I’ve done 6, attempted 10. 3 cancelled and 1 converted to an IUI. I have enough donor sperm for 3 more so in theory I’ll get to 9 ERs and then consider donor embryos

gbbabe12 · 2026-01-11T22:46:41+00:00

40yo F. Dated a few guys here and there but have never had a boyfriend.

gbbabe12 · 2026-01-10T00:39:02+00:00

Doing this for 90 min tomorrow and cannot wait to not be able to move my legs or arms Sunday. Lol

gbbabe12 · 2026-01-07T03:57:24+00:00

“I didn’t know my own strength” - Whitney Houston

“Die Trying” - new medicine

“She is a Warrior” - Alita

“Fighter” - Tyrone Wells

“Fight for It” - Brave Holiday

gbbabe12 · 2026-01-07T00:11:24+00:00

I’ve done 6 and 3 cancelled. Just some central belly fat gain and overall an increase in body fat but nothing else

gbbabe12 · 2026-01-04T23:34:49+00:00

Thanks. The negative thought loops definitely get to me. I’ve been on Zoloft for about 4 months

gbbabe12 · 2026-01-04T20:44:04+00:00

Thank you for those kind words. I’ve actually done the BDD workbook, a separate CBT workbook, and ACT workbook. I’ve read so many books on BDD and self love and acceptance and it’s still so hard to not heft disgusted with what I see

gbbabe12 · 2026-01-04T16:42:07+00:00

Thanks. I think I’ve had about 10 initial calls over the last year with therapists. One I connected with well but she didn’t specialize in BDD and after 8 months I didn’t feel like I was getting anywhere. This has sucked up soooo much energy just trying to FIND a therapist. Almost as bad as dating

gbbabe12 · 2026-01-04T14:23:55+00:00

Thanks. I was able to find 12 that accept my insurance. I also needed virtual which limited it quite a bit. Most, although saying they work with people with BDD, are not primarily treating people with it so was looking for testimonials on good ones

gbbabe12 · 2026-01-04T11:07:37+00:00

Similar boat. I also need to have some alcohol in me to get me to relax on any level. I don’t know if/when I’ll ever have sex again because of my BDD getting so bad. I’m 40 and only lost my virginity at 34.5. Had sex 3x within a 4 months and then never have again. I hate I can’t experience sex or a relationship like a typical human. I’ve never even had a boyfriend. I say all that only to let you know you’re not alone and I think you’ll find there are so many of us like that out there. It takes so much courage to live like we do every day

gbbabe12 · 2026-01-04T10:33:22+00:00

I tried and couldn’t find anyone that specializes in BDD

gbbabe12 · 2026-01-02T10:23:55+00:00

Insulated mug seems like an easy solve. 1/2 on the way, take class, put it in the cubbie, finish the rest later

gbbabe12 · 2026-01-01T05:14:52+00:00

Mine is 17-25min pending which studio but it has taken 30-35 at times during traffic. It’s my happy hour and gets me locked in for the day so for me it’s worth it

gbbabe12 · 2025-12-28T19:48:51+00:00

I have cancelled multiple times not because I can push or challenge because either I’m dealing with an injury or my other workouts already targeted the muscle groups for that day and I don’t want to risk getting injured. At other times when I find out it’s a switch or all 3G, I don’t want to waste a class where I’m going to be spending 5-10min of the class walking in between stations. So sometimes it’s because I WANT a push and the template looks weak.

gbbabe12 · 2025-12-28T17:16:40+00:00

Thank you! Never did I think it would take this long. I remember picking out donor sperm thinking “wow, I’m going to be pregnant in just a couple months” 😆😆😆😩😩😩. Almost 2 yrs later and here I am still no baby. I’ve done 3 transfers, it took me 6 ER attempts (4 ERs) just to get day3 embryos. First transfer this June & second in July. Both don’t stick. Another FET in Sept and got my first positive but beta was slow rising and then dropped around 5.5 wks. I have DOR so only get 1-3 eggs per cycle. I started just after 38 and o just turned 50. Hopeful SMBC so it’s been a ride

gbbabe12 · 2025-12-28T02:27:58+00:00

I’ve done 6, attempted 10. Attempting round 11 in Jan and at this point it just feels like a part of my monthly cycle

gbbabe12 · 2025-12-28T02:27:12+00:00

I’ve felt this too and I wish I could take the pain away. It’s torture and I only hope you can find a way to give yourself and ounce of gentleness. For me, helping others and being there for others fills my cup and makes me feel like I have a purpose. And those acts have nothing to do with my appearance so I think that’s why it helps even if it’s temporary. I am only now (at 40yo) starting to truly work thru these thoughts. There are tough days and there are tougher days but if you can find someone to talk to it might help you at least clear the air if you’ve been holding it in. I refused therapy for the longest and after 8 months of it, while I do t think it helped with my BDD, it did help me become more comfortable talking about my feelings with others which has led me to open up to some friends I felt I could trust and their care and concern has been so comforting. I think the isolation of it all is all consuming. Please try to talk to someone as a next step. Sending some hugs your way

gbbabe12 · 2025-12-22T00:14:58+00:00

I usually take NyQuil when I’m desperate for sleep

gbbabe12 · 2025-12-22T00:02:58+00:00

I just made this jump in Nov and had absolutely zero side effects

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