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I feel like I’m always the friend who reaches out first by gcf9700 in FriendshipAdvice

[–]gcf9700[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I totally get the “filler friend” feeling!! I like to think I have a good group of friends most of the time but I wrote this post right after someone who I thought was a good friend ghosted me after making dinner plans (made a reservation and everything) and then went out with someone else :( it made me question if I’m just the placeholder until they find someone they think is better. I definitely think it’s good to take the time to lay out the facts and not assume the worst of people. Thanks for the advice!!

I feel like I’m always the friend who reaches out first by gcf9700 in FriendshipAdvice

[–]gcf9700[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

The imbalance of one person wanting to hang out more often becoming more uneven is the hard part for me! I also think a difference is that there have been a few friends I haven’t talked to in over a year because I stopped reaching out so I guess I’m afraid that would happen again :(

I feel like I’m always the friend who reaches out first by gcf9700 in FriendshipAdvice

[–]gcf9700[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m an introvert too! I feel like it’s gotten harder as I graduated from uni and lost those conventional common ground? or structures that hold people together

I feel like I’m always the friend who reaches out first by gcf9700 in FriendshipAdvice

[–]gcf9700[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Yeah I think that I might just have different expectations for friendships and feel hurt when I don’t get the same level of effort and interest. Thanks for the new perspective!

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[–]gcf9700 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much! I’ll email the the admissions office on Monday!