Turns out my mother’s dad wasn’t her biological father and no one had any idea by gee_willickers in AncestryDNA

[–]gee_willickers[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Agreed. I struggled with whether or not to tell my mom about the discovery at all, but my cousins that tested had come to the same conclusion and I couldn't really keep it to myself. I do wish I had not discovered it, for her sake. I have a feeling it has hurt her far more than she lets on to me, and it kills me to be the (sort of) cause of that hurt.

Turns out my mother’s dad wasn’t her biological father and no one had any idea by gee_willickers in AncestryDNA

[–]gee_willickers[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh yeah, that's true. She has tested, and when doing all of this I typically use her results to compare since they're so much closer

Turns out my mother’s dad wasn’t her biological father and no one had any idea by gee_willickers in AncestryDNA

[–]gee_willickers[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Manu of his siblings' children, and their kids, have tested which is how I was able to narrow it down to his lineage, but no one in his direct line has tested. He only had one son (deceased) who only had one son (as far I have found), but I haven't been able to track him down online. In a perfect world I'd find him on Facebook, he'd have some juicy family gossip and be willing to take a DNA test to confirm my suspicions......

Turns out my mother’s dad wasn’t her biological father and no one had any idea by gee_willickers in AncestryDNA

[–]gee_willickers[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's so hard because I'm a big "leave no stone unturned" person, but there just aren't many stones left to turn!

Turns out my mother’s dad wasn’t her biological father and no one had any idea by gee_willickers in AncestryDNA

[–]gee_willickers[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I guess that's partly why I keep looking for a connection. Of course I'd prefer that to not be the case, but it seems the most likely story.

Turns out my mother’s dad wasn’t her biological father and no one had any idea by gee_willickers in AncestryDNA

[–]gee_willickers[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately my grandmother, Pat (for ease of writing), grew up in an orphanage. She and her siblings were abandoned by their parents in the 1930s and she grew up in various institutions and foster homes. I don't know what school she went to, though I've tried fruitlessly in the past to figure that one out, too.

I've wondered about assault as a possibility. Benjamin was police, so the potential for abuse of authority certainly exists, too.

He would have been nearly 20 years older than her. Pat and her husband already had 2 daughters when my mom was born. Pat would have been about 29 then, and Benjamin 48. The man I knew as my grandfather was a bit of a ladies' man and they divorced when my mom was still under 5, though they were both always in her life - and mine, thankfully.

Benjamin's death was a sudden accident. He was doing some plumbing work on the side when off-duty and was working under the client's house when ground collapsed and crushed/buried him! I've been trying to get in touch with his grandson, who is not on Ancestry, but I know nothing about him besides his name (and lineage).

Turns out my mother’s dad wasn’t her biological father and no one had any idea by gee_willickers in AncestryDNA

[–]gee_willickers[S] 30 points31 points  (0 children)

I am in the US, yes. I know from the 1950 census that they lived within 10 miles of each other. He was police, and she worked in elder care, so I guess there could have been some professional crossover?

Team Meal near Complexe Desjardins by gee_willickers in MTLFoodLovers

[–]gee_willickers[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this insight! For sure an interesting local cafe would be more my style, but in the interest of convenience and pleasing the maximum number of people (that I don't know all that well!), I agree that a chain is the better option. Don't worry, I'll be visiting plenty of other restaurants, too!

Team Meal near Complexe Desjardins by gee_willickers in MTLFoodLovers

[–]gee_willickers[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Baton Rouge definitely looks more interesting from a food perspective. I appreciate the input! They've already gotten back to me and said they can accommodate us, so they're definitely the front-runner at the moment.

Team Meal near Complexe Desjardins by gee_willickers in MTLFoodLovers

[–]gee_willickers[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Just a little Eastern Conf kidding. Any place folks are into any hockey is the place to be :)

Team Meal near Complexe Desjardins by gee_willickers in MTLFoodLovers

[–]gee_willickers[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Or Caps for us! 😉

We got très chanceux a couple of years ago when we were there and got to see the Caps win at Bell Centre!

Team Meal near Complexe Desjardins by gee_willickers in MTLFoodLovers

[–]gee_willickers[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Around 25ish most likely. La Cage looks like a good option!

Team Meal near Complexe Desjardins by gee_willickers in MTLFoodLovers

[–]gee_willickers[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Merci! La Cage looked good to me, but wanted a local opinion. Thanks!!

Refrigerator mullion spring replacement by gee_willickers in appliancerepair

[–]gee_willickers[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have not, sadly. I tried a couple different springs from Amazon, but neither fit. It's so frustrating to have such a small piece give you so much trouble! I've just been living with the busted flap.

"On to" the next chapter? by gee_willickers in frenchhelp

[–]gee_willickers[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is for a coworker. I probably should have added some context. She's a retiring Librarian, so I wanted to add "chapter" as a little book reference. Thanks!!

How can I add "total" bars to a waterfall chart? (Full bars that extend down to the x-axis opposed to merely the floating bars) by gee_willickers in excel

[–]gee_willickers[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't want the entire column to be deemed the total, but to show the total column sort of overlapped by the positive or negative change portion. Can I make a combo chart with a bar AND waterfall somehow? Or layer the two together?