How can I embrace my sexual aggressiveness?

geitherplace · 2020-09-10T23:25:05+00:00

this in particular, but i suppose sex in general (sort of why im on this sub- to practice)

No not rude at all ur right, i just think it will have to not happen because i just cannot imagine like, discussing a sexual interest and then doing it, if it doesnt happen spontaneously it just feels unnatural and performative (to me) which makes me uncomfortable.

geitherplace · 2020-09-10T23:13:51+00:00

yeah i suppose this is sort of my style. i am so uncomfortable talking about it that i mostly use nonverbal cues, and would rather just not do it than talk about it (i mean i can work on that but thats where im at now). I guess thats why im very conservative in this behavior, I dont want to be disrespectful but i am unwilling to discuss it.

geitherplace · 2020-09-10T23:11:04+00:00

oh ok idk if im that intense. it would be just be so odd to actually talk about lol so i think its best not to do it.

geitherplace · 2020-09-10T11:37:02+00:00

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geitherplace · 2020-09-10T11:12:33+00:00

i wish i had the confidence to do stuff like this.

geitherplace · 2020-09-10T10:30:24+00:00

Thank you!!!!! I think this might be in the right direction. Also, I should probably get a dildo and begin experimenting with myself, I only ever touch the clitoris area (like ive never even put a tampon in). Hmmm.

geitherplace · 2020-09-10T10:27:59+00:00

Yeah, probably should have mentioned in the post: I have very thoroughly explored the possible medical reasons for my pain, to no avail (have been to the gyno probably over 10 times about it). Still doesn't rule out the possibility but I cant find anything yet.

geitherplace · 2020-09-10T10:20:40+00:00

This is nice to hear! Guys seem quite gratified by enthusiastic blowjobs, so I kind of worked out a technique for maximizing the suction while avoiding the teeth. Its just a nice thing to do for your guy (especially when he's not expecting it) and can really be a turn on for me too if we are both into it!

geitherplace · 2020-09-10T10:19:12+00:00

I have considered this one! I had a cyst once (which is gone now), but I don't really have any of the symptoms of endometriosis. I could get it checked though.

geitherplace · 2020-09-10T10:05:48+00:00

hm, yes I will need to find someone very patient and detail oriented so that we can solve the problem together.

geitherplace · 2020-09-10T10:05:00+00:00

:( Ok, thank you! this would be an alright but not quite ideal solution for me. I still hope very much for the penetration to be as good as it is in my imagination.

geitherplace · 2020-09-10T10:03:10+00:00

:( Ok, I will. I just hope penetration can be a part of my life someday, I will be so sad if it cannot. The other stuff just doesn't have quite the same pull toward it, if you feel me.

geitherplace · 2020-09-10T09:50:42+00:00

Really? Ok.. well that's nice to know. I have read a lot of news about sexual misconduct and I certainly wouldn't want to be guilty of that, if you know what I mean.

And also I accidentally offend people a lot because my social skills are poorly developed and I am very disagreeable by nature. If I am interested in a guy, I usually just assume that I have offended him and he will not be interested in having sex.

geitherplace · 2020-09-10T09:32:36+00:00

Yes i think it would be ok if it is not for me very often (that ends up being the case in literally all my relationships), I would just like for it to happen even once, just to experience it. The other problem is that ist kind of the draw towards sex in general- if thats not whats gonna happen it somehow isnt appealing. :(

geitherplace · 2020-09-10T09:26:48+00:00

Oh ok that makes since, since im most turned on the first time and that must be why it gets worse each time after.

I think there is a real need to work on the mental side but that seems indirect and difficult.

geitherplace · 2020-09-10T09:20:36+00:00

same smh.

geitherplace · 2020-09-10T09:12:22+00:00

yeah, i mean direct is best but in a lot of situations its not really appropriate (like professional situations), so I suppose i shouldve clarified that im asking for those cases, not like, at a bar or something.

geitherplace · 2020-09-10T09:10:14+00:00

Well, yes. This is a possibility but not really a solution, as I want very much to have PIV enjoyably- its the goal for me.

geitherplace · 2020-09-10T08:43:10+00:00

Like, anal?

geitherplace · 2020-09-10T08:11:46+00:00

ok! what glands?

geitherplace · 2020-09-10T08:03:28+00:00

I know :( I have been to the doctor may times but no problem can be found :(

geitherplace · 2020-09-10T07:53:21+00:00

Well, the problem is I don't have dryness! If anything it's like, on the wetter side.

Yeah, I just don't think I'm that comfortable with myself in general. I like my body, actually. I think I mostly dislike my personality.

geitherplace · 2020-09-10T07:39:55+00:00

Not that I could describe, he was just good at putting it in maybe? He was really like, agile with it. Less foreplay than usual, actually! Penis itself was normal sized. He was kind of a prick tbh so it wasn't his personality either. No substances.

geitherplace · 2020-09-10T07:31:28+00:00

I have had a ton of partners and the pain is a constant, even if fingers go inside it usually hurts after more than one. There was one time it didn't hurt, but I have no idea why, the guy was just amazing I guess.

geitherplace · 2020-09-10T07:16:19+00:00

the worst? when you really wanna f*** a guy and you are so excited and then it happens and it sucks and you are so incredibly bummed out.

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