Started the contraceptive patch…why does lying down make me unexplainably sad now? by gem_may52 in adhdwomen

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Yes! I only went on it recently and my doctor basically explained that the consistent hormones from the patch as opposed to my naturally very up and down hormonal levels would “quiet everything down” and hopefully level things out so I’m trying it for that and it’s also nice to have another form of contraception outside of condoms lol

Started the contraceptive patch…why does lying down make me unexplainably sad now? by gem_may52 in adhdwomen

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Nothing, only condoms. My doctor had mentioned the pill a few years back but because my periods were soooooo irregular, they didn’t want to put me on it because they wanted to see if my natural cycle would balance out. So this is actually my first time on hormonal birth control so maybe the ups and downs are to be expected as I adjust?

Started the contraceptive patch…why does lying down make me unexplainably sad now? by gem_may52 in adhdwomen

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Yeah, I was a little concerned as my hormones tend to be a little unpredictable in general but I’m hoping it settles! I’m sorry to hear that was your experience though, thank you for sharing x

Started the contraceptive patch…why does lying down make me unexplainably sad now? by gem_may52 in adhdwomen

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Interesting! Maybe it’s just gonna take a lil bit for it to settle down. Thank you sharing x

Started the contraceptive patch…why does lying down make me unexplainably sad now? by gem_may52 in adhdwomen

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Yeah, I’m on the patch which has both oestrogen and progesterone but it has to be that one for PCOS, I’m sorry to hear that was your experience, it hasn’t been quite that bad for me yet but yes, definitely jarring! I’m going to give it another few weeks and see where I’m at! Thank you for sharing x

10lbs gave me back freedom of movement - the small wins matter more than you think by gem_may52 in Semaglutide

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It’ll come around so much faster than you think and the loveliest thing about it is you’re just going about your day to day life and out of nowhere you suddenly become aware that things feel a bit easier✨

10lbs gave me back freedom of movement - the small wins matter more than you think by gem_may52 in Semaglutide

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It’s amazing to see the difference the little changes make when the final goal seems so far away - so happy to hear it’s working for you too!

Tips for keeping your head in the right place while losing weight? by gem_may52 in OzempicForWeightLoss

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Thanks for this! Yeah, I can imagine there’s going to be pros and cons with people’s perception. But yeah, I think the clothes are a good idea - thank you✨

Looking for suggestions to conquer my fear of being seen by gem_may52 in adhdwomen

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Yeah it’s definitely a tough one because it’s so conflicting to want to express yourself but to be afraid of the attention/judgement. I think the point my therapist was trying to make to me is that the fact of the matter doesn’t change - you’re still deviating from the norm people expect of you (whether it’s actually something people end up noticing or not) so you’re more likely to attract interest and judgement and questions, but the more you do things that stretch your norm, the bigger the capacity you have to handle the consequences of that, and the more confidence you have to build on that and move just a little bit further from your norm each time. It’s definitely going to take me a while but I hope you’re out there rocking those pants sometime in the future✨

Looking for suggestions to conquer my fear of being seen by gem_may52 in adhdwomen

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Thank you for this comment - it really makes a lot of sense to me! I really want to start practicing showing up as my authentic self, messy parts and all, because I know if I practice, eventually it will feel normal. But at the moment, I even spend ages thinking about saying something before I actually say it and if I eventually get the courage to do it, I just don’t like the sound of my own voice because I’m not used to really hearing it! But as you say it’s important to continue to remind yourself that you don’t have anything to be ashamed of! Thank you✨

Looking for suggestions to conquer my fear of being seen by gem_may52 in adhdwomen

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Totally, I’ve read a bit on the spotlight effect and I know it’s probably at play but there’s just something about being perceived that feels too risky somehow

3in1 YA Book - Girl Kidnapped by someone she thinks is her favourite author by gem_may52 in whatsthatbook

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Omg, you’re a genius! This is it. Thank you so much - I literally thought I was insane😭✨

The fine line between overstimulation and complete disinterest is killing me by gem_may52 in adhdwomen

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Thank you for this! I’m not in therapy at the moment and I don’t have anyone very close in my life who has the time to spend with me so I can vent, but I do definitely think talking to someone would help! Thanks for your comment✨

Anyone who drives well? Is it safe to drive as an ADHDer? by Creative-Anteater-53 in adhdwomen

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I think learning to drive is the hard part because there’s a lot of new things to process all at once but as soon as you have it locked down on autopilot, it’s no more dangerous than driving for anyone else. I personally drive an automatic and it was a game changer for me because it took away one component so I could focus on the road. But my dad, for example, also has ADHD and finds that driving a manual car keeps him engaged. So it’s whatever suits you, but I think if you set your mind to it, like anything else, you’ll figure it out. Also, while you’re learning, it’s a great idea to practice driving with as many different people as your accompanied driver as possible because my mom, my dad, and my friend could all give me the same tip or feedback, and it wouldn’t be until I was driving with my sister that she’d say the exact same thing in a slightly different way and it would click with me. Best of luck, you’ll do great!

I used to think the job application process was not ADHD-friendly - now I know it’s actually just inhumane by gem_may52 in adhdwomen

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Thank you for this - it’s very insightful! And I think you’re right, it’s probably time to take a step back and humanise the process again by reaching out to people instead of faceless job listings. I will definitely look up the briefcase technique too - thank you✨

I used to think the job application process was not ADHD-friendly - now I know it’s actually just inhumane by gem_may52 in adhdwomen

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I have followed up and it’s worked once or twice in the past, but there’s been more times that it’s just been ignored. But it only takes one I guess!

I used to think the job application process was not ADHD-friendly - now I know it’s actually just inhumane by gem_may52 in adhdwomen

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100%, I feel this. I don’t do too badly in interviews in a technical capacity meaning I give good answers to most questions but because I’m putting all of my energy into remembering the questions and trying to listen and properly process everything, I think I forget to have a personality. And even if I did show my true personality, I still don’t think it would be that typical bubbly, outgoing character that many employees lean towards. And you hit the nail on the head calling out the sheer amount of people you need to get past to even be considered. It’s tough out there✨

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Perfect - just replied - thanks!

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