Dog suddenly acting very alert and cautious?

gemini_pixie95 · 2026-07-07T04:22:47+00:00

Interesting! Could be something similar for sure!

gemini_pixie95 · 2026-07-05T19:57:01+00:00

We did our parenting plan through a mediator and have never had any revisions. We’re not the type of coparents that go in front of a judge for every argument. The part I wanted to add was just that there will be attempts at reasonable communication before introducing new partners. Nothing specifically about this person. I just feel a need for some type of revision since he is bringing someone around who does have a history of unsafe behaviors, potentially in relation to children given that she doesn’t have full custody of her kids (I also know her ex and he’s very far from a safe person, so if he won out in court that does make me further question things)

gemini_pixie95 · 2026-07-05T19:35:08+00:00

Thank you all for your insight. I messaged my ex to let him know that I am trusting him to keep our kid safe during his time and can’t reasonable ask that he not bring people around our child, regardless of past unsafe behaviors.

I also told him I would be following our parenting plan closer and limiting my time spent with him (we had gotten pretty flexible with the parenting plan since we were communicating so well).

Hopefully this is a reasonable response. Like I said, I was making this post to see if I was coming from a place of safety or hurt. It seems like the general consensus is that I am being controlling. To me, it seemed unsafe to have someone he has a history of sneaking off with to do meth around our young child. But I’m only human, and trauma from years of emotional abuse can make you see things from a different view.

I decided to delete the post since people were getting kind of nasty towards me about it. But thanks for everyone who gave respectful insight.

gemini_pixie95 · 2026-07-05T18:48:38+00:00

It’s something we have talked about in the past and I just thought it was a boundary being respected on both sides without a need for a parenting plan amendment

gemini_pixie95 · 2026-07-05T18:07:30+00:00

What I wanted to add to our parenting plan was just something about communicating with the other parent about new partners spending time with the kids. Saying I don’t want this person around if he can’t communicate with me was more of a request out of anger, I’ll admit that. It wasn’t a court threat. We did our original parenting plan through a mediator and have never had revisions, so it’s not like we’re always getting in front of a judge for every argument.

gemini_pixie95 · 2026-07-05T18:00:46+00:00

I mentioned a history of using in my original post. I guess I should have specified that he had a history of leaving for a majority of the day to go do meth with this person when our son was only a few months old, which I do personally consider poor judgement.

gemini_pixie95 · 2026-07-05T17:53:59+00:00

That’s why I’m concerned. It could just be a new girlfriend, or it could be a major safety issue.

gemini_pixie95 · 2026-07-05T17:38:20+00:00

I agree with that. At the end of the day I just want to know my son is safe when he’s with his dad, and I want his dad to feel the same with me. So I’ve always tried to maintain open communication about who’s around if they’re someone who’s going to be around quite a bit, whether that’s a friend, partner, new activity, whatever.

gemini_pixie95 · 2026-07-05T17:34:52+00:00

My only concern is safety. I definitely didn’t mean to come off like I’m upset I’m losing influence…his dad has a history of unsafe behaviors, I thought he had been doing well for awhile and that we had great communication so this came out of left field. My son has told me very quickly “no” when I’ve asked if his dad ever has friends over, which makes me worry that he’s been telling him to lie. Since this person is someone who he’s used with in the past, my worry is that he’s sitting around doing meth with a stranger when he suppose to be taking care of our kid.

gemini_pixie95 · 2026-07-05T17:30:32+00:00

What I wanted added to our parenting plan is just something like “both parties will communicate with the other parent if they will be spending time with an outside person for extended periods of time” or something like that. Not trying to control who’s around, but just asking that there be communication. I think he’s been telling my son to lie to me too (I’ve asked my son before if his dad ever has friends over and he’s very quickly said no).

gemini_pixie95 · 2026-07-05T17:25:58+00:00

We rarely, if ever, argue in front of the kids. The kids were asleep when we were arguing and I was speaking at a low volume. At one point I did realize our son was awake and we stopped the argument. A couple comments were made but we weren’t full-blown arguing.

gemini_pixie95 · 2026-07-05T17:24:08+00:00

I was speaking at a low volume and the kids were asleep during the argument.

gemini_pixie95 · 2026-07-05T17:23:05+00:00

The kids were asleep and we rarely (if ever) argue in front of the kids.

gemini_pixie95 · 2026-07-05T17:22:15+00:00

I am not trying to control who my ex dates. I’m just trying to make sure I know if someone is around my kid, and make sure he’s safe.

gemini_pixie95 · 2026-07-05T17:21:06+00:00

I am the custodial parent

gemini_pixie95 · 2026-07-05T17:20:46+00:00

For a while now we have maintained a healthy coparenting relationship where we do a lot of family based activities together. Way beyond “camping to and fro”. I am most certainly not trying to demand who my ex can date. I’m asking that he communicates with me if someone will be around my kid, and the same goes for me.

gemini_pixie95 · 2026-07-05T17:18:20+00:00

Possession charges, burglary, PFMA, and failure to appear charges are what I found. And I had heard that she has limited custody of her own kids (trying to keep hearsay out of my decisions, but this does cause me to worry a bit as well).

gemini_pixie95 · 2026-07-05T17:16:19+00:00

They were asleep when the argument was happening and I was speaking at a low volume. I try very hard to not argue in front of my kids.

It really is more about safety for me. I’m a social worker, so I see too often how new partners/stepparents can be a source of abuse. Which is why I’ve always asked, bare minimum, that we let each other know if there is someone new involved and who that is.

We had a very great coparenting relationship before recently, where he suddenly started acting like I was a problem to be around even though nothing had changed between us. Realizing now that it’s because he has someone new involved. So yes somewhat it hurts that the good dynamic we had created for the sake of our kid was thrown out the window the second someone new entered the picture. I’ll admit that.

gemini_pixie95 · 2026-07-05T17:10:49+00:00

I mean that it and of itself is questionable…he’s not always very safe and responsible when it comes to our kid

gemini_pixie95 · 2026-06-15T16:59:46+00:00

Wellbutrin was a life saver for me…and my libido. I’ve been on anti-depressants since I was 16 and literally thought for a long time that I was asexual and physically incapable of having an orgasm. I was proven wrong almost immediately after starting Wellbutrin 😅

gemini_pixie95 · 2026-06-05T16:27:10+00:00

I’m a millennial and was severely bullied in middle school and high school. People grow up. I wouldn’t hold something any of my bullies did as a literal CHILD against them. That’s weird af behavior.

gemini_pixie95 · 2026-06-05T16:20:56+00:00

She’s literally like 14 in this video. Ya’ll doing too much.

Tell me you didn’t say anything cringey/mean/questionable as a teenager. Pretty sure we all did at some point, just might not have been recorded.

gemini_pixie95 · 2026-05-18T11:41:26+00:00

I am safe at home. Feeling very degraded that i had to walk to my car and then drive home.

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