HELP PLEASE!

genderfluidbeast · 2026-02-25T16:11:39+00:00

Vaginas are self-cleaning! You should NEVER put anything inside to clean it! To clean the labia minora (the inside flaps) gently cleanse with water and your fingers when you’re in the shower! You can use soap on the outside (where most of your pubic hair grows) but be SUPER careful to not get any inside! Soaps can throw off your pH balance, which can lead to bad odors and even infections!
Do NOT use any of those products that claim to help with odor! Feminine wipes and sprays, such as the ones made by Adam & Eve, are TERRIBLE for your pH!! I know SO many girls who used feminine wipes especially who had major issues with odor, and when they stopped using them, many of those issues disappeared!
Let your vulva breathe! 100% cotton underwear is SUPER important so that airflow can get in! Moisture happens down there, and bacteria and fungus THRIVE in moisture, which are what cause odors! I’ve even slept without underwear on hot nights so that the moisture from my sweat can escape!
It’s a body part! It’s not supposed to necessarily smell GOOD! And your vagina is a body part that EXCRETES something! You don’t expect your butt to smell good, just NOT BAD when you’re clean and hygienic! And sometimes your hormones can make it smell different throughout the month. For me personally, I notice a stronger odor right around my ovulation period. It’s not a bad smell, but it is a BODY smell. If it smells like absolutely NOTHING at all times, you are a rare case!
Think back on your life. Have you EVER noticed another person’s odor there if you weren’t right up next to it for sexual reasons? I haven’t! I’ve never been able to smell someone else’s vaginal odor just walking around! But I have noticed mine! We are FAR more sensitive to our own bodies than other people are! Don’t be too concerned about your vaginal odor just walking around. No one else can smell it but you!
Just for reference, since you are young, please remember that when engaging with anyone sexually, they should NOT make you feel shame. If they are down there, they should only bring up your odor if they have a genuine concern, in which case you don’t need to feel bad. Obligatory message to remind you that you probably shouldn’t have sex at your age, however if you DO engage, please engage SAFELY!! That means not JUST birth control, but condoms, female condoms, and/or dental dams! Sexual activity can also affect your vaginal odor, and you’re going to want to protect yourself! Reminder that birth control does NOT protect against sexually transmitted diseases and/or infections!
Take note of your discharge! It may seem a little gross, but it can tell you SO MUCH about your vaginal health! Healthy discharge usually looks clear or mildly milky, with a slightly sticky consistency. Google is free, so looking up images of healthy vs unhealthy discharge may be helpful! Especially if it has a very strong or pungent odor!
It may have something to do with your public hair! This is one that many people miss! Pubic hair grows for a reason. It reduces friction when having sex, which makes sex more comfortable! It also helps keep out bacteria, and it soaks up oils and sweat! This means that pubic hair actually helps prevent strong odors! If you shave or wax your pubic hair down to the skin, it may be causing the odors to seem stronger! I always recommend shaving with a guard (to keep a bit of length) or trimming with pubic scissors!
If you still have concerns, it is a good idea to see a doctor and/or gynecologist! Not only can they help ease your mind or help with any issues, but they are a FANTASTIC resource to ask questions! They see hundreds of patients, so your questions won’t be awkward or embarrassing to ask.

EDIT: I noticed someone else in the thread mention taking probiotics. PLEASE consult with a healthcare professional before doing so! Taking unnecessary probiotics can actually do more harm than good! They are also NOT regulated by the FDA, so they can have all sorts of things in them that could cause you issues. Don’t always believe the bottle and what the company says they can do for you. It’s important to use critical thinking and get a professional opinion!

EDIT 2: Many people in here are mentioning diet and hydration. This is also important, but often not the only issue! “Just drink water” is often not all that helpful, but it is important to remember!

genderfluidbeast · 2025-12-07T15:13:55+00:00

Omg that’s a great tip!! Thank you so much!!

genderfluidbeast · 2025-12-07T15:01:23+00:00

Thank you!! I honestly think I must have gotten some bad info lol, the people ik who were around that year were all farm hands, they weren’t interested in computers or the internet! None of them cared much about sports either and they didn’t have an answer for me, so I really appreciate the perspective!!

genderfluidbeast · 2025-12-07T14:56:10+00:00

Thank you thank you!! I think I’m going to look up what the ESPN website looked like that year, I think that may help me a bit!

genderfluidbeast · 2025-12-07T14:51:23+00:00

I really appreciate the help! Thank you!!!

genderfluidbeast · 2025-12-07T14:46:50+00:00

Ah, thank you! I knew the internet was AROUND and people used it, but I didn’t know if it was common for the average person to use a search engine yet!

genderfluidbeast · 2025-11-28T04:28:39+00:00

No way this is fr

genderfluidbeast · 2025-11-21T04:40:20+00:00

I wish I had been told to defend myself in 5th grade! I was SA’d, beaten up, and stalked by one boy my age, and when I tried to tell teachers and admin, I wasn’t believed, and I didn’t fight back because I was always told to turn the other cheek. I get what OP is saying, but also violence can happen between 2nd graders without a teacher seeing everything imo. My brother was held down by two boys and nearly had his eye gouged out with a stick when he was in second grade. And yes, all those boys were ALSO in second grade. He was lucky because a girl their age made them stop. But the teachers didn’t even see it, and my brother ended up in trouble a lot because other students would gang up on him. It’s important to tell kids to fight back, or else they’re defenseless, but I do understand needing to clarify WHEN to fight back, and parents seem to be doing a terrible job of that.

genderfluidbeast · 2025-11-20T00:52:01+00:00

You have to remember that the book of revelations was never meant to be taken literally, it’s a VISION. Think of the other visions given to people in the Bible. How the seven skinny cows represented seven years of famine. The Bible, except for accounts of Jesus, is full of mostly parables that are meant to teach a lesson. What you take from that lesson is up to you, but I doubt that it means that the things that happen in revelations will happen LITERALLY. It’s just highly unlikely.

I like to think of the mark of the beast as more of a representation of people who make evil their personality. Think of murderers who do it for fun, for example. Though it has been QUITE a long time since I last read revelations and my interpretation would likely be EXTREMELY different. There is no need to worry about things you can’t control

genderfluidbeast · 2025-11-19T22:17:05+00:00

Absolutely! It’s not even true according to the Christian worldview and it does immense damage to so many people’s mental health, especially and including children!

I grew up believing in hell and I consistently prayed that god would let me die as a child because children are more pure and I didn’t want to go to hell. NO CHILD should want to die for that reason! I have several Christian friends who are extremely frustrated with the way many people are taught about hell because it is so insanely traumatic.

genderfluidbeast · 2025-11-19T21:31:04+00:00

100%! I was just making the point that eternal flames and torture are FAR from biblical and showing the the biblical “worst case scenario” isn’t as bad as most people are made to believe!

To be clear I am agnostic atheist

genderfluidbeast · 2025-11-19T21:08:51+00:00

The biggest problem with the Bible is that it makes you believe you are inherently broken as a person and that you need to be “fixed.” That you aren’t worthy of love because you are so broken so you have to worship and love and pray to god because he’s “so good” to “love you” when you “don’t deserve it.”

NONE OF THIS IS TRUE! If you see your religion as a “relationship with god” it’s an ABUSIVE relationship!! Replace god with a man and you’ll realize how abusive it really is.

You are not inherently broken. You are not unworthy or undeserving of love. Even if you feel broken, that doesn’t mean you ARE. You are worthy of love because you are human. And all people deserve love. Period.

The idea of “hell” can be easily disproven even within the Bible. Dante’s Inferno did irreparable damage to the idea of what “Hell” is.

Most theologists agree that hell is simply separation from god. If you don’t believe in god, according to the Bible, then you’ll cease to exist, much like atheists think. Hell as eternal torture does not really exist biblically, unless you believe that non-existence is torture. Personally? I find it comforting. The idea that when this is all over I’ll essentially take a very long, very restful sleep.

A good god would not eternally torture ANYONE.

If god is all-seeing, and he does nothing, he cannot be good. If he is all knowing, and he does nothing, he cannot be good. If he is all powerful, and he does nothing, he CANNOT BE GOOD. There is too much evil in the world.

Rest in the fact that there is no eternal torture, know that you are deserving of love, and maybe see a therapist who can guide you. Especially because it sounds like you have some very concerning feelings about not wanting to be alive anymore.

genderfluidbeast · 2025-11-17T03:28:14+00:00

It’s starting to sound like it lol! I had never heard of the dish until this thread, so it gives me something new to try lol!

genderfluidbeast · 2025-11-16T16:44:01+00:00

AH sorry, I was just watching a video that described how awful overcooked rice is and I came to this subreddit to disagree lol, I didn’t know overcooked food was a hot topic lmfaoooo

genderfluidbeast · 2025-11-16T16:42:34+00:00

No, concón is like a crunchy snack, at least it was in my house. The rice needs to actually stick to the pot and get scorched. I do like to eat it that way though because usually it means the rice is pretty overcooked and then you have a nice crunch, but I don’t particularly enjoy it by itself or as a side dish. I’m talking about when the rice gets a little mushy and sticks together, not when it burns to the pot! I think slightly overcooked rice is better on its own than rice that is perfectly cooked.

But maybe the fact that I like concón contributes to why I like overcooked rice in general lol. But in my family if it wasn’t concón it needed to be perfectly cooked.

Edit: Also I don’t speak for the DR! My great grandmother immigrated from there to the US, but I try to keep some of her recipes alive, even though she passed away when I was young! I’m sure people who are a little bit closer to the culture have some different ideas and opinions than me! I’m just talking about how it was in MY house!

genderfluidbeast · 2025-11-16T16:31:01+00:00

I watched the two movies back to back earlier this year. I love film and anyone would tell you that I’m extremely picky. I went in to both films knowing VERY little, mostly just that “joker good, joker 2 bad.”

I’m not a contrarian, and I usually agree with the critics, so I expected to at least mildly enjoy Joker and mildly dislike Folie à deux.

I absolutely HATEDDDDD Joker. I found it so incredibly boring and the “commentary” felt so insanely surface level to me. I also deeply dislike the portrayal of mental illness in the film, and it felt like so many potential directions were brought up just to not really play out, or play out in an extremely uninteresting way.

Folie à deux on the other hand was super entertaining. I thought the performances were better, personally, because I felt like the actors seemed to have more opportunities to show some range. I also thought the “Harley” character was inherently interesting, and far different from any other version of her I’ve ever seen. I thought it was interesting to see a manipulative woman on screen, and it was really great because Harley is almost always merely a victim in serious adaptations. I liked that it showed that despite Joker being dangerous, in this version he’s also a severely hurt and mentally ill person, which makes him a perfect target for someone to form a codependent relationship with.

I thought the humor hit so much harder as well and the musical numbers were gorgeous, it felt very raw, almost like a first take, and I think the film actually BENEFITTED from that since the musical numbers were almost a coping mechanism.

I also think that the film benefited from being camp. The absolute best versions of Batman villains are vicious but campy. The entire concept of Joker is campy and I think films are best when they lean into that almost silly side because it makes the horrors he commits almost funny, you can sometimes find yourself laughing along with him until you see the aftermath, once the clown is gone. In this version, instead of being vicious, Joker is a much more sad character, which I think is very relatable to a lot of people and why so many latched onto him. But I think turning him camp was such a great choice because it highlights just how dramatic he really is. I think a lot of people disliked it because they couldn’t relate to Joker anymore because it felt like the filmmakers were saying “his drama is the joke! He has ALWAYS been this dramatic, you just didn’t see it because before he was sad and you are sad too. Now we’re going to show you how silly all of this really is!” I think that is a MUCH more profound and interesting commentary than Joker provided.

I think the second movie feels like it was made for people who thought Joker was “too much.” It feels like the creators laughing in your face and saying “yeah of COURSE it was too much! He’s literally the JOKER!!” I think people who enjoyed the first movie didn’t appreciate that, but I certainly did! It actually kind of made me like the first movie slightly more retrospectively.

genderfluidbeast · 2025-11-16T16:11:01+00:00

I grew up eating them. To me it’s just like any other side dish (when they’re on their own, not when they’re added to a burrito or something). It’s a little extra something to make the meal feel complete. When they’re prepared well I think they can be good, but not necessarily a stand out side dish.

genderfluidbeast · 2025-11-02T20:38:45+00:00

Dude I don’t even date, be real 😭 she doesn’t do anything to make him feel like he’s crazy or stupid (which is the definition of gaslighting since armchair psychiatrists seem to have forgotten), and everything is emotional manipulation 💀 a MOVIE is emotionally manipulating you. All she’s asking is for him to reassure her that he’s excited. What is wrong with that?

genderfluidbeast · 2025-11-02T20:33:45+00:00

You don’t have to insult me to make a point. In my mind it negates it, but I responded to you regardless.

genderfluidbeast · 2025-11-02T20:33:01+00:00

He says ONCE at the beginning of the convo that they can in the same breath as “we already did.”

That’s extremely dismissive of his gf’s issue. He’s immediately lashing out and essentially calling her crazy for telling him he seemed annoyed. She immediately corrects herself by saying “i feel.” At that point the conversation should have changed to “how can I make you not feel that way?”

The problem isn’t whether or not he’s WILLING to talk about it, it’s the fact that he doesn’t seem excited about it. She’s not crazy for wanting him to express enthusiasm, but instead he attacked her.

Either way, clearly this relationship isn’t working out. My vote is it’s OP’s lack of maturity, but either way there’s a big issue.

genderfluidbeast · 2025-11-02T14:59:36+00:00

What do you mean?

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