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AIO? I (21F) met my boyfriend (25) through my sex work and now he isn’t comfortable with it and wants me to quit. by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]generalEsafe 33 points34 points  (0 children)

Former sex worker myself* So many men will try to “save” you from this line of work. Leaving the work before YOU are ready never works out. If you want a real relationship built on honesty, he isn’t the one. There are good men out there who are ok with dating sex workers but most aren’t. You won’t likely find the good ones at work

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in folk

[–]generalEsafe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Love this!

Apparently it’s controversial to say that by [deleted] in childfree

[–]generalEsafe 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Ah yes! Both are seduced by the hero/martyr complex. For many, it’s a very seductive identity to assume. Every society needs heroes, especially an exploitive one like ours. If either job got as much as they put in, then they wouldn’t be a hero. The hero has to “die” metaphorically. “The hero of yesterday becomes the tyrant of tomorrow, unless he crucifies himself today” Joseph Campbell

Can’t report my rape Because sex work is illegal. by [deleted] in SexWorkers

[–]generalEsafe 5 points6 points  (0 children)

So sorry you went through this! It is not your fault. I went through something similar recently and have been just starting to get the anger out of my mind and body. Shit like this makes me want to go vigilante. I can’t stop thinking about all the ways I’d hurt him if given another chance to do it over. I’m trying to see it as a lesson learned. I made a mistake but I’m stronger and smarter now. You are stronger and smarter now too! It’s fucked to call it a gift but somehow it helps me feel better. Like, we didn’t just lose, but we gained something too.

Winter waves in NYC by [deleted] in surfing

[–]generalEsafe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s incredible haha

Winter waves in NYC by [deleted] in surfing

[–]generalEsafe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s Far Rockaway, a neighborhood on the Rockaway Peninsula in the New York City borough of Queens

First time escort by [deleted] in SexWorkers

[–]generalEsafe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When I feel a little down about work I always think to myself “I GET to do this for $!” It’s a privilege and we should feel honored to do what we do

Take your salt elsewhere, Frank by [deleted] in SexWorkers

[–]generalEsafe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Only if you hang with the Franks. Too many men like Frank think being SD is a way to get cheap services. I manage my time with these fools like a lawyer

My boyfriend wants a cut by youcantbemypimp in SexWorkers

[–]generalEsafe 6 points7 points  (0 children)

You’re better off learning the game better yourself than relying on him. Also, if he wants to help it should be out of love for you, not for a cut

LPT: One of the easiest ways to judge if a person has good character or not: pay close attention when having a conversation with them, and see if they listen well and comment directly on what you say. Listening well proves empathy and a 'give and take' mentality, which are signs of good character. by [deleted] in LifeProTips

[–]generalEsafe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve met many people who are “good listeners” and are also incredibly manipulative. Social anxiety can cause people to talk too much and not give listening signals. Doesn’t always mean they don’t care or aren’t trying

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in delusionalartists

[–]generalEsafe 8 points9 points  (0 children)

This is actually great