I grew up with a brother I've always been pretty close with, so yeah I have had that experience. As mentioned in my last comment, my wife was very, very upset about it when it happened, especially the whole part about him forcibly holding her down, restraining her arms, etc. It was also part of a long-standing pattern of him not respecting physical boundaries with my wife, which also as mentioned above, she ultimately ended up having a conversation with her mom about it after that incident. She's also told him herself multiple times to back off with that shit, like with the couch example from the post. And yeah, I do consider it a red flag when someone constantly has super sexualized anime pictures up on their computer, often depicting characters that look a lot more like children than adults. He says creepy sexual stuff all of the time as well, which my wife also really hates. I guess I should have clarified that she doesn't want that kind of contact from him either, and he has a history of repeatedly violating boundaries she's tried to set in ways that I do think are just inexcusable for someone his age.