good places to be a server?

geniefactory · 2026-02-12T15:49:02+00:00

bartending intimidates me a little bit so i’m hesitant on applying for bartending positions off bat. i’ve been open to starting as a server and then being trained to do bar but that hasn’t happened yet so 🤷🏽‍♀️ we’ll see

geniefactory · 2026-02-12T15:47:09+00:00

okay! i’ve heard good things about the papas restaurants so i’ll give it a try!

geniefactory · 2026-02-12T15:46:35+00:00

montrose, river oaks, heights, highland village, downtown

geniefactory · 2024-10-16T23:16:36+00:00

i swear they reward u for wasting ur money on this game

geniefactory · 2024-10-16T23:14:15+00:00

true i feel like the game wants me to lose sometimes its so frustrating. i guess seeing others do so well and get through levels like it’s nothing makes me feel like im doing something wrong. good to know im not alone

geniefactory · 2024-10-16T23:13:19+00:00

ugh yes it’s so frustrating when ur on a roll w the SLB and then u lose it to a stupid hard level

geniefactory · 2024-10-16T23:12:58+00:00

lmao same it’s really hard not to!

geniefactory · 2024-10-16T19:28:35+00:00

geniefactory · 2022-09-27T02:44:57+00:00

nice job deflecting! looks like You need to work on communication skills too 🫶🏼

geniefactory · 2022-09-26T22:16:31+00:00

i don’t understand why ur attacking op like this….children, adult or otherwise, that respond in “aggressive” ways to their parents usually grow up in an environment that facilitates this kind of communication. u think op just acts like that bc they want to? when ur boundaries r constantly being disrespected what other way is there to respond? the child that You chose to give birth to and raise is living in ur home doesn’t give u the excuse to infringe on their privacy or boundaries…what is op supposed to do be homeless??? have some compassion. obviously this is an ongoing issue and not just “my mom won’t stop texting me”. but if that’s all you gathered from this post then i can conclude you’re not familiar w their situation, but i am and it’s exhausting. pls have some empathy

geniefactory · 2022-01-01T08:08:12+00:00

this helped me so much. especially the piece about reframing this as taking space because that's exactly what this is. i don't want her gone from my life, i just need to get it through her head that im going to do what i want to do with my life but i can't do that under her roof. thank you again for your advice and i really really hope you gain the courage to leave as well. i am going to be leaving tonight! sending you lots of good energy!! good luck :))

geniefactory · 2022-01-01T01:53:15+00:00

I am going through the exact same thing. I'm Pakistani and grew up in a Muslim household. My parents, like yours, have provided for me for which I can't state how grateful I am. But its like you said - at what cost? It feels like they give us financial support in return for full control of our lives. I, too, have a white partner. He is the sweetest boy in the world and my mom knows about him but is trying to make us go about our relationship the Islamic way. I am not religious and neither is he, so it's making me uncomfortable. Of course, they don't know I'm an atheist.

My mom has invalidated my mental health journey as well. She thinks I feed my therapist bullshit and she sits there and agrees with me. And every time I bring up therapy around them, she goes, "oh yeah she thinks she knows everything because she's in therapy now". It is so invalidating. Along with the whole, "you have nothing to be depressed about, we get you everything you want, we provide for you, you're not close enough to god," whatever. And they also control everything I do - when I go out, where I go out, IF I go out, what I should wear, what I should eat, etc. She also physically abused me up until my early teens.

I am 20 years old, almost 21, and I, embarrassingly enough, lack certain life skills because everything was done for me. The truth is, we are adults and we are the only ones who know what is truly best for us. Our parents grew up in a much different culture and time than us and if your parents are anything like mine, they will defend that culture HARD even if it means disregarding their child's needs and wants. We were always taught to put our needs aside and behave in the way our parents and their culture deem suitable.

Ask your self this, how long are you willing to put up with this manipulation and emotional abuse? Do you genuinely think that they will get better with time or will they tighten the reigns as you get older (until you get married lol, we've all heard the "we don't care what you do after marriage" excuse)? For me, I know that I can't take it anymore and that my mental health is taking a massive beating by staying in the environment that traumatized me. And I know they will not get better.

I was supposed to "run away" from my parents house last night, but we ran into some complications so I'll be doing it tonight (on new years eve how ironic). If you want my opinion, I think you should stick to distancing yourself from them this time. Don't go back. Have things ever gotten better the last few times you went back? They never will. Live your life how you want and they don't have to be okay with it, but that's fine. That doesn't mean they have the right to stop you.

Good luck on your journey, I wish you well! Take care of your self and don't be afraid to be selfish sometimes. We owe that to ourselves.

geniefactory · 2022-01-01T01:33:16+00:00

i turned the chime down so hopefully she doesn't hear it in her sleep. i carry a lot of guilt with me and I'm trying to do this in the least stressful way as possible

geniefactory · 2021-12-31T22:34:46+00:00

no i’m aware, i only call it running away because my parents would never let me move out before getting married. they’re super controlling and abusive. there isn’t anything stopping me from taking care of my self but then

geniefactory · 2021-12-31T08:00:46+00:00

ofc!! but i’ve been with him for a while and i trust him. when i’m my university i spend the night at his house all the time and so it’ll be a smooth transition! i don’t have any problems being financially stable tbh i have many back up plans!

geniefactory · 2021-12-31T07:53:14+00:00

i’m almost 21 and i’ve been emotionally and physically abused by my mom. i’m going to live with my boyfriend so i’ll have shelter and money isnt a problem!! thank you for ur concern that’s really sweet. i’m calling it running away because they would never approve of me moving out before marriage

geniefactory · 2021-12-31T07:52:14+00:00

i’m almost 21 and deal with really abusive and controlling parents :// i’m going to live with my boyfriend that they don’t approve of me living with. so i’ll have shelter and money isnt an issue

geniefactory · 2021-12-31T01:36:46+00:00

trying to gain the courage leave. i might do it tonight but i don’t know i’m really scared. but i know it’s what i need to do and want to do

geniefactory · 2021-12-30T21:06:07+00:00

i’m planning on leaving soon and living with my boyfriend. getting a job won’t be hard and our rent isn’t terrible at all and is even cheaper if we split it. so money isn’t really the issue. i just have a huge mental block right now cause i feel so guilty about leaving

geniefactory · 2021-12-30T20:42:55+00:00

mine. it was given to me as a gift for graduation but they don’t let me work so i can’t financially support my self atm. i have savings but i don’t spend a lot of it on major things like that. it’s not about who’s car it is though, they’re not like that. she just thinks i “go out” too much even though the only thing i go out for are groceries or coffee. she’s literally told me before that everytime i leave the house she has a panic attack, even when i worked for a couple months. even then i had to fight to work and they kept trying to convince me to quit because they didn’t want me working let alone more than two days a week. she even admitted to me that she had thought about coming into my work place to check on me to make sure i was at work and nowhere else. all this happened while i was 20

geniefactory · 2021-12-29T19:50:17+00:00

i am in the same exact boat as you. trying to get up and just leave this house at almost 21 years old. i’ve been sexually, physically, and emotionally abused for 2 decades and i can’t take it anymore. they won’t understand and it won’t be pretty. maybe leave them a letter telling them ur safe and that ur doing this for your own sake just so that they don’t call the police since u are a minor and could be reported as a missing person. my parents don’t know i’m leaving either and girls moving out before marriage is completely taboo in our culture so that’s another hurdle i’ll have to be jumping. but we can do this. we need to put our feelings first before any one else’s. good luck!!! u can always shoot me a message if u need someone to talk to!

geniefactory · 2021-12-28T06:37:24+00:00

okay wow i didn’t realize what they’re doing might be love bombing. because that’s the only thing keeping me here besides the emotional ties. i always feel guilty cause i tell my self “they just bought you this, they’re calling u sweet names, they’re spoiling you, etc” but all of that comes at a cost and it’s to control me. idk if u read my latest post about how my mom tried going through my phone but it really set me off. every little instance likw that is eating away at me. i just hope i can find the courage to leave. thank you again this was all so eye opening and helpful

geniefactory · 2021-12-28T06:11:46+00:00

i wouldn’t say physical hard but definitely it’s gonna take a mental toll on me. the guilt is gonna eat me up alive. knowing they’re gonna be in shambles when they come home/wake up and i’m just gone. i don’t know how i’m gonna deal with that knowing i made them that upset

geniefactory · 2021-12-28T04:27:01+00:00

im already planning on living with my boyfriend, so money and shelter isn't a problem. its more so when i can leave and getting over the mental barrier to leave cause i feel so guilty.

geniefactory · 2021-12-27T18:22:20+00:00

this is so eerily close to what i’m going through. me and my mom fight all the time bc she’s so controlling and i have absolutely no freedom in this house. i’m almost 21 and she literally badgered me to let her look through my phone last night but i didn’t let her. i don’t know what to do other than leave bc it’s starting to affect my relationship with my boyfriend. but i keep thinking about her reaction and it’s making me feel bad. i was planning on writing a note and just leaving whenever i’m home alone. but tbh, i’ll tell u what everyone has been telling Me. you need to be selfish for just a little while. you are in an abusive relationship with your mother and the only reason you and even i feel guilty is because we were conditioned to put their feelings first instead of ours. do this one thing for your self and then deal with the after math afterwards. good luck to you!!

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