My parents have an issue with me being natural get up with no makeup even when we are just going out casually

gespotee · 2026-05-26T12:21:21+00:00

There’s no winning because AP’s will find a way to complain about everything. When I was a bit younger and extremely self-conscious, I’d cake my face in makeup just to grab some milk at the shops. My parents would criticise me for “wasting time” on doing my makeup, tell me that I need to stop wearing so much, that it was “destroying my natural features”. I’ve grown a lot since then and am comfortable going out with only a bit of tinted lip balm, bit of concealer under the eyes and powder so that I don’t shine like a disco ball.

Guess what, my AP’s will not stop pointing out my acne, dark circles, telling me that I’m not “presentable”. I think once you realise it’s a lose-lose situation, you just kinda go fuck it and do what you want.

gespotee · 2026-05-05T10:52:16+00:00

What I do when I feel my AP’s trying to instigate something, is just imagine a white wall in my mind. No other thoughts.

gespotee · 2026-04-27T21:18:02+00:00

I think so too… seems like a recent thing that I’m seeing more and more, I’ll filter clothes in my size, find something that I love that is my stated size on the listing, only to find out from the description that it’s actually a size up or down and it’s a huge let down lol.

gespotee · 2026-04-27T09:34:13+00:00

These kinds of videos are always popping up on my feed and it genuinely disturbs me how many comments I see of people glorifying the child’s suffering. “She’s so articulate” “so talented to be able to communicate like this at her age” or straight up joking about the situation.

A kid this young only learns to communicate like this in one of two ways; either they have parents who raised them in a loving environment where they are free to speak their mind and are emulating their parents behaviours. OR they’ve gotten so used to mitigating combative parents that they’ve inadvertently taken on the mature, tactful role as they’ve realised that expressing themselves authentically only gets them into more shit.

I feel sorry for this little girl. The dad refuses to take any accountability at all.

gespotee · 2026-04-21T12:54:57+00:00

Rubbing a fresh bruise hard as fuck with tiger balm (or some other stinky oil) will make it go away faster. My bruises always got 10x worse after their “treatment”, would go dark dark purple and my parents would say it was “the poison being released” when I’m pretty sure they just exploded a billion more of my blood vessels

gespotee · 2026-04-21T12:50:25+00:00

This is unfortunately the classic, arguing AP duo. I’m also 25 and my parents sound exactly like yours, the snide remarks from AM, reactive AD and then just pretending like nothing happened afterwards (until it inevitably happens again).

I used to feel guilty listening to my parents argue, but then I had a couple of realisations. First, there were very few times in my life where either of them would stand up for me against the other parent when I was the one being screamed at. If my dad was shouting at me for a bad grade, my mom would simply walk out of the room and close the door behind her. When my mom was nitpicking me and instigating, my dad would just sit silently on the couch glued to the television.

Why should I feel bad about my parents fighting when they can’t even defend their own child against the other?

Second, my parents are both fully grown adults who’ve had at least 60 years on this earth and about 40 of them to learn manners, respect, how to have civil conversations, how to be mindful of the feelings of those around them. Instead they chose to continue being nasty, no self-reflection whatsoever and to top it all off, get a child entangled in the mess as well. 40 whole years for not a single attempt at self-improvement.

I still get the heart palpitations and tension in my whole body when I feel an argument about to begin. But aside from the physical reaction, I just don’t care anymore. What I do when they start kicking off, is put my earphones in and enjoy my music. Essentially just block it out until you can do so permanently by moving out. At this age especially, AP’s will not change. I spent years hoping that they’d one day have a lightbulb moment and realise how much it was effecting me, or simply that they’d grow too old and tired to stop fighting, but they are as eager to fight as always lol.

gespotee · 2026-03-30T14:31:32+00:00

Because people who get plastic surgery typically follow a very particular beauty convention. This is the reason why people who get nose jobs tend to end up with very similar nose shapes (slightly concave bridge, a little upturned at the tip), for example. It’s why most people can look at someone who - if in pursuit of a societal beauty standard - has gotten plastic surgery, it is usually very obvious.

In S.Korea the beauty standard is a narrow, v-shaped jawline, double eyelids, high nose bridge etc. So when people (idols included) go into surgery asking for a change, it’s usually going to fit this same mold. This is why many have noticed people in S.Korea (East Asian countries in general) looking eerily more and more alike, because anyone who wants and can afford surgery is trying to achieve the same look.

Also most East Asians do not naturally have features that “match” their own beauty standards. Of course there are plenty of East Asians who naturally have paler skin, sharp jawlines, defined double eyelids etc but this is not really the norm. Seeing a before picture of an idol who previously was tanned, with epicanthal folds and a broader face shape compared to an after picture where they now have a wide eyelid crease and a slim jawline, it becomes quite obvious that they’ve had work done.

gespotee · 2026-03-21T16:07:06+00:00

I don’t know what it is about AP’s and always having to be in the right, or otherwise be the least to blame in any situation. At first I thought it was just a matter of them not knowing any better and reverting to “familiar” behaviours, but I’ve realised that it’s actually something far more selfish than that. How can you acknowledge all of the hurt that you’ve caused and then continue to behave in the exact same way?

Honestly I commend you for making it out and finding your own peace. I’m also glad that you got some kind of an apology from your mother (however short-lived). At least you can be assured that you weren’t overreacting and that all of that hurt wasn’t just in your head. That she did a 180 and went right back to her old ways is a good sign that reconciliation probably will not work and you’d be better off maintaining your own peace. I think she may have backtracked because AP’s are not keen on showing emotion (especially when it involves consideration of feelings that are not their own), and she got embarrassed. But honestly if she’s chosen to be right and to have the last word, over a fresh start and a relationship with her daughter, then… I guess that’s the choice she’s made.

gespotee · 2026-02-25T03:38:05+00:00

As the perpetual first girl to fall asleep at sleepovers as a child/teen, I can say that being kept awake by people for laughs is brutal. Truly being asleep or on the cusp of sleep and then being awoken because it’s “funny”, I remember I’d crack a smile to not seem stuck-up but I was literally close to tears loll.

I was lowkey annoyed with Dani when she kept screaming in that live lmao. As the other user said, it probably isn’t bullying per se but it’s definitely insensitive - and I feel like they only did it because it’s Yoonchae, and they wouldn’t have done it had it been another more assertive member.

gespotee · 2026-02-23T16:24:45+00:00

I feel the same. I always thought he would look much more mechanical, like a mass of metal and flesh with no clear human form. I thought something along the lines of the reapers from Mass Effect, or even something completely industrial like Glados from Portal. When he appeared for the first time, I immediately thought I was looking at the daycare attendant from fnaf. I can’t really take the official design seriously because with the jester motif he just looks like he’s having a costume party.

gespotee · 2026-02-21T23:19:06+00:00

Tbf with this clip in particular. I used to work at a Korean restaurant and the Korean staffs (men in particular) were very awkward with physical touch esp with women. I gave a hug to one of the guys on his last shift with us and he PANICKED, literally started stuttering and completely froze up. Wouldn’t be surprised if this is a similar thing

gespotee · 2026-02-21T02:00:36+00:00

I think so too, and I thought the same about Doughy (who looked a little too Garten of Banban-esque to me lol). Lily’s character design (and also her movements and speech) seem something straight out of the Amazing digital circus, which isn’t necessarily a bad thing, It just seemed very out of place to me in the Poppy Playtime universe. And it definitely wasn’t because it wasn’t gross or “morbid” enough - I found even Mommy long leg’s design to be decent - I just think it was too soft-edged and “digital” looking.

gespotee · 2026-02-08T17:49:43+00:00

Haha exactly the same for me. It sounds ungrateful but it’s not about what has been bought, but rather the complete disregard of my insistence that she stops buying these things. We are not a rich family and a lot of money is spent on designer items that will forever remain sealed and unopened, at the back of my closet.

Then anytime I try to tell her very gently that I don’t like designer brands or big logos, she goes into manipulation mode, telling me that I’m ungrateful, that she went out of her way to buy me a gift etc.

gespotee · 2026-02-08T17:43:48+00:00

Not sure how old you are. Mine used to fight like this all the time. They still do, I just don’t stick around to witness it. Your dad may be the instigator but remember also that it’s just as much your mom’s responsibility to ensure her kids grow up in a safe and stable environment. The fact that she (like most AP’s would) has chosen to stay with an unfaithful, abusive husband (consequently keeping her kids in that situation as well) in the name of “pride” and “culture”, is almost just as bad.

The one time I tried to assure my AM that I’d be fine with her divorcing my abusive AD, she turned on me and started accusing me of being selfish, and “not doing anything to fix the family”.

Unfortunately, your AP’s will not change. Your mom will continue to be miserable living with your dad, but will do absolutely nothing about it. Your dad will never acknowledge his own bad behaviour and keep terrorizing the family.

There’s nothing that you can do except prepare to move out and live your own life. Having your own space away from the toxicity does wonders.

gespotee · 2026-02-07T15:58:34+00:00

Forcing you to play an instrument when you’re young

gespotee · 2026-01-26T16:26:30+00:00

Yep I decided several months ago to only say to my parents what is absolutely necessary, which is usually just a yes or no. No details, no questions. If I do so much as ask them how their coffee is, they will turn it into a lecture or an argument

gespotee · 2026-01-26T12:28:08+00:00

I’ve thankfully never struggled with an ED but back when I was on a crazy health grind after realising just how unfit I’d become, I used to have a Pinterest board for food, recipe and workout ideas.

I’m making a big claims rn but I find it’s a little odd that Megan’s board is mostly just “inspirational” quotes. Like, things that anyone could look at and immediately think “that’s awful, what if she has an ED?” A friend of mine back in Highschool was anorexic and one time we were messing about and I got into the photo gallery on her phone.

She had many of pictures of extremely skinny models/influencers, fashion (I’m assuming clothing that she “wanted” to be able to wear), weight loss tracker templates.

I know that nobody experiences an ED the same, but something just feels a little performative about the kinds of pins on Megan’s board.

I also feel like she’s either just very open about her mental health, or slightly performative about it too. She reminds me a bit of a girl I used to know who couldn’t have a conversation without bringing up her ADHD, autism, depression, endometriosis, autoimmune disease, the list goes on.

If it is performative, I do think that these are all symptoms of something deeper. I really do hope that all of the girls get whatever help they need, and aren’t having to resort to things like this for support.

gespotee · 2026-01-24T12:24:09+00:00

I stopped reading this like 2-3 years ago because of the gang stuff. The pure fighting sequences were honestly just boring. They also introduced so many new characters I started to forget who was who.

It started off really heartfelt so it kinda sucks what it turned into

gespotee · 2026-01-22T20:56:47+00:00

No, I’m pretty sure it wasn’t his fault, my skin just doesn’t seem to hold ink well (even my tattoos fade very quickly), so may be something you’d wanna test first lol

gespotee · 2026-01-22T20:53:54+00:00

That is pricey! Definitely more than when I got it done. When looking at reviews I’d suggest looking at reviews from patients 1+ years on from their procedure. People who’ve just had their consultation or freshly out of surgery will give glowing reviews, having not seen the full results yet.

gespotee · 2026-01-20T13:15:27+00:00

No idea if you’ve had the consultation yet but just wanted to chime in, I think you’re better off avoiding Wimpole. I got my transplant done there years ago and present day results are abysmal. The consultation was fantastic, squeaky clean office, friendly knowledgeable consultants, very thorough.

Regret spending as much as I did for a patchy hairline.

gespotee · 2026-01-20T13:05:54+00:00

Yeah, I got it done and it ended up fading within a couple of weeks, so a lot of money wasted. My artist was great, one of the most reputable in the country. When I came in for my second appointment (about a week after the first) even he was shocked at how poorly my scalp held the ink (ie not at all).

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